Is Your Confidence Holding You Back?

Do you have that little voice in your head telling you what you should, and shouldn't do? 

Yes, I bet you do. We all have that voice. 

I have that voice.

The real question is, do you let it run your life?

As a trauma survivor, that voice has been ruling my life for far too long. I've known it to be true, but I've also been powerless to change it.

Because I'm a trauma survivor, my confidence was shattered before it even had a chance to grow. I've had to work hard in my life to find myself and my self-worth.

There are many people like me, who are stuck in the daily grind for a myriad of reasons. I'm not just talking about trauma survivors here, but anyone who is stuck.

Many people get up and go to work when they can do so much more in life. They do it because they don't believe in themselves.

Self-confidence has a lot to answer for. Your self-confidence is your belief in yourself and your ability to act.

Self-esteem means how you value yourself.

That voice in your head encapsulates both confidence and self-esteem.

Did you know that how you feel in a given moment, shape your thoughts and actions? So, when you are sad, happy, angry, or feeling anything at all, your behavior reflects these emotions.

Think about that for a second. Your feelings guide everything you say and do.

If you carry on working a job that you don't like. Your mood will start to change, and with that, your behavior follows. Doubt creeps in and becomes an uninvited guest in your head. 

You start to second guess your decisions, and your confidence tanks. 

The next time you have a doubt about a decision or a choice, I want you to challenge it.

Challenge it, until it goes away. What's the evidence here? Why did that doubt appear in the first place?

The world has taught us that it's not cool to choose ourselves first. We are taught to choose others before ourselves.

Why do we do it? Shouldn't we think about our own well-being at all?

Most often the answer is fear. 

We fear of thinking outside the box. Of leaving our comfort zone to take a risk on a new adventure. This way, our bubble of safety remains intact.

We become stagnant in life. Like the murky water in a pond, we are safely going - nowhere. 

I bet you can name more than three friends who are living it safe right now.

They are stuck in that pond.

Stuck.

I keep saying in my articles that everyone has a voice, and by that, I also mean that everyone has a choice. 

Are you happy? Can you truly say that you are happy?

If you can, then I applaud you because you made it.

Not many of us can honestly say that they are truly happy.

Are you busy living your life to your full potential, or will you remain stuck in that pond forever?

What are your talents and interests? What gets you psyched and motivated? What kind of person are you? Those are the questions you should be asking yourself.

Do you have what it takes to choose yourself first?

My name is Lizzy. I'm a trauma survivor, a wife, a mom, a teacher, and an author.

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Here are a few links to my top articles:

Looking for a Change?

https://medium.com/activated-thinker/looking-for-a-change-f391e85abbd7

A Search for Identity

https://medium.com/beyond-lines/a-search-for-identity-893df7c970c2

Are You Searching for Peace?

https://medium.com/illumination/are-you-searching-for-peace-cd54d76231c8

Are You Dealing With Burnout?

https://medium.com/illumination/are-you-dealing-with-burnout-374f774141b4