If Love Was Only Enough

I’ve learned the hard way love is never enough to make a relationship last. I use to be naive and honestly believe love was all you needed for a relationship to thrive but the older I got the more relationships that had failed each one teaching me a lesson I won’t ever forget each relationship changing me and my ideas of love stripping my beliefs and values showing me a truth I was to blind to see. I guess that’s why they say love is blind right? You look past someone’s faults at first but eventually there imperfections shine through and some of those imperfections can be deal breakers for some people. All relationships failed ones or lasting ones teach us something the bad ones the good ones they are all lessons learned. I chose to learn from them and move on I let them change me and maybe I shouldn’t of but at least I’m no longer blind. What makes a relationship you see is more then just love it’s trust it’s acceptance it’s stability it’s goals it’s values. In order for a relationship to last you have to trust that person. Now trust is broken all the time in relationships but to me that is one of the most important things to maintain besides love is that persons trust once trust is broken the relationship might as well end there trust is hard to gain back so you see love is not always enough. Acceptance is a part of life but it’s huge in a relationship you have to be willing to accept that persons imperfections and continue to love them through there ugly parts because everybody has those parts no body is perfect so if they are willing to accept you then you have to be willing to accept them a lot of couples argue because they don’t see eye to eye and most couples won’t see eye to eye on everything because they are not the same and people are entitled to there own views you have to be willing to accept that and push forward with them and compromise and find a middle ground and if you can’t do that a relationship won’t last so you see love is not only enough. Stability a big factor for a relationship to work you have to see that person as being able to grow there has to be some sort of financial emotional mental stability on both parts with the same motivation to build the same wants and needs, now im not saying money is everything but it is something a relationship won’t work when someone has no motivation to better themselves it just won’t work so you see love is not always enough. Values are also important I believe you both either have the same values or you don’t talk about your values and beliefs because if your values aren’t the same when someone believes in something you don’t things can get heated real quick so respect goes with that respect the other persons beliefs even if they are different then your own and if it’s that much of a problem don’t talk about it with the person your with if it’s only going to cause a fight respect the other person enough to not push what you believe on to them if they have there own values and beliefs it isn’t right nor fair everyone is there own person and is entitled to there own values, morals, and beliefs respect them accept it and chose to move forward with them or not but you see love won’t ever be all you need, love is a fraction of what makes a relationship last there is so much more then a relationship needs to thrive then just love I’ve learned the hard way but I’ve learned a lot of lessons and I have become a better person and for that I am grateful. Love can change a person relationships can change a person so accept it and move on and learn from it.