To me, a much too busy day with zero time spent with yourself is a day wasted. Because if you don’t take time to spend by yourself or to care for yourself then what is the purpose? The purpose of every other to-do list item you accomplished that day?
Rest is a priority that is very important to me. it always has been, so when I (rarely) take away one of my rest days to put extra work into a project where needed, I feel like I have failed myself.
For me, the scariest thing about "adulting" is
not resting.
that people seem to be conditioned to not rest, or to not think rest is important and instead feel the need to spend all their spare time being productive, monetizing every habit as “side hustles” or “small businesses”.
I don't buy it.
I never have.
With rest being a habit so important to me, I have always had priorities different than my immediate family and friends, because I'm the friend who prioritizes a good time over a logical decision. I've never been one to believe in the "burn yourself out hustling to meet standards under capitalism until you die" mentality. Our bodies nor our souls were not made for such. we were not made only to burnout.
Although I have always prioritized rest, I never confidently felt it was "acceptable". from my few semesters in college, I still had more spare time than immediate family and a few friends. because I prioritized having spare time. but I also wondered if ~I~ was the one doing something wrong. I never felt comfortable in making my prioritized rest known to others, for a self conscious fear of being judged, deemed "lazy" or "unsuccessful". recently, my priorities different than theirs have included rest more than they ever have.
…
I believe that when you rest, a healing (maybe subconsciously) takes place. If you allow it intentionally enough, rest can change you.
I feel as though people don’t want to rest because people don’t want to be left alone with themselves. People don’t want to feel any suppressed emotions or think about any suppressed thoughts. They don’t want to be hurt. You often hear advice for the grieving that usually sounds like “keep yourself busy (and you won’t think about it)”. Stay busy enough, work enough, fill your empty time with anything and everything until you are no longer empty. Do this and you won’t feel any hurt, any emptiness, any grief, any spare emotion. All the bad you don’t want to face will go away over time as long as you keep yourself busy (without rest).
Right?
I have recently come to find that this isn’t so true.
A few months ago, I decided to take myself on a long overdue journey to heal my declining mental health. This journey has included rest as my biggest priority.
As both someone grieving and someone simply burnt out, I finally understood that “keeping myself busy” was only hurting me long term, and a big part of the reason I was feeling so burnt out. So--- I decided to make changes.
I decided to rest.
and rest for me looks like:
Prioritizing the days I give myself “off”.
Setting days for house chores/small daily tasks, as to not burn myself out by doing repetitive small tasks every day.
Shutting social media out, pretending it doesnt exist, and putting the phone away.
Rest around holidays. those days between christmas and new years where time doesn't exist? I spend those days doing absolutely nothing. resting. resetting. taking care of myself. to me, there is 0 reason to be productive during those days, other than taking care of yourself. that is productive. Giving yourself the time to enjoy your holiday season is productive.
Taking time off work if I feel like I need it
Taking time off school if I feel like I need it
Not looking for validation of any of the aforementioned from anyone outside myself.
…
SLOWLY.
My word for myself recently has been "slowly".
My resolution to myself is to start slowly. I wrote intentions for myself for 2022, starting with the next few days/weeks. Starting little by little, starting slowly.
To declutter and detox all aspects of my life, physically and emotionally. slowly.
To prioritize my health again by forming/continuing specific healthy habits and shifting towards a healthier diet. slowly.
To learn my mind and form intentions based off what my mind needs—learning to heal my mental/physical energy from the inside out.
To reset.
To rest.
I’m very recently learning that my priorities, time, and rest don’t need to be acceptable to anyone but myself. that I can block out anyones words that aren’t helpful to my healing or rest. And another part of my 2022 intentions is to further accept this. to accept rest.
I hope that you accept this for yourself as well:
you have permission to rest.
About the Creator
I knew I always deserved diamonds
A diamond? I thought well into the depths of my mind searching for a story where I let my real self shine through, for a diamond-worthy moment. A few came to mind, but maybe only two that I thought were good enough. I thought “why don’t I have a better story? Why haven’t I experienced a better story?” As I’ve been so terribly harsh with myself over the last couple of years for not living life “enough”, searching for the perfect experience to write about and realizing I had none was no different.
By Corinn 4 years ago in Motivation
Los Angeles Billionaire Moves to Nevada After California Threatens to Tax Wealth
When a prominent Los Angeles billionaire quietly packed up and moved to Nevada, it wasn’t just a personal lifestyle change — it was a political statement. The move came shortly after California lawmakers revived proposals to tax extreme wealth, targeting the state’s richest residents as a way to fund public services and address inequality. Now, that single relocation has become a symbol in a much larger debate: Do wealth taxes strengthen states — or drive their most valuable taxpayers away? The Trigger: California’s Wealth Tax Proposal California has long wrestled with how to fund its ambitious social programs while addressing widening income inequality. In recent years, progressive lawmakers have floated proposals to introduce a wealth tax, aimed at individuals with net worths above a certain threshold — often tens or hundreds of millions of dollars. Unlike income taxes, which apply to yearly earnings, wealth taxes target accumulated assets such as stocks, real estate, and business holdings. Supporters argue that this approach ensures the ultra-rich contribute a fairer share to public infrastructure, education, and housing. Critics, however, warn that wealth taxes are difficult to enforce and easy to avoid, especially in a mobile economy where residency can shift across state lines. The Los Angeles billionaire’s move appears to validate those concerns. Why Nevada? Nevada has become a magnet for wealthy individuals — and the reasons are straightforward. The state has: No personal income tax No capital gains tax Business-friendly regulations A growing financial and tech services sector For high-net-worth individuals, relocating to Nevada can mean saving millions of dollars annually. For someone facing the possibility of a wealth tax layered on top of California’s already high income taxes, the financial incentive is hard to ignore. In this case, the billionaire reportedly established legal residency in Nevada, purchased property, and shifted business operations — all steps that tax experts say are increasingly common among ultra-wealthy Californians. A Broader Trend, Not an Isolated Case This move is far from unique. Over the past decade, California has seen a steady outflow of wealthy residents to states like Nevada, Texas, Florida, and Arizona. While climate, housing costs, and lifestyle play roles, tax policy has become a central factor. High-profile departures — from tech executives to hedge fund managers — often spark political backlash. Critics argue that the wealthy are abandoning the state that helped them succeed. Defenders counter that states should not penalize success to fund unsustainable spending. The Los Angeles billionaire’s relocation has once again brought this tension into the spotlight. The Political Reaction in California California lawmakers defending the wealth tax proposal insist that fear of capital flight is exaggerated. They argue that the state’s economic advantages — including access to talent, innovation hubs, and cultural influence — outweigh tax concerns for most entrepreneurs. Some lawmakers also point out that California already relies heavily on its highest earners, with a small percentage of taxpayers contributing a large share of total revenue. In their view, asking the ultra-rich to contribute more is not radical — it’s necessary. Opponents, however, see the billionaire’s move as a warning sign. They argue that when even a single wealthy individual leaves, the state can lose not only tax revenue but also investment, philanthropy, and job creation. What This Means for State Finances The departure of one billionaire may not immediately dent California’s massive budget, but the long-term implications are harder to ignore. Wealthy individuals often: Pay a disproportionate share of state taxes Fund startups and venture capital Support universities, museums, and nonprofits If enough high-net-worth residents follow the same path, critics warn, the tax base could shrink faster than lawmakers expect. Supporters of the wealth tax counter that public investment funded by higher taxes could improve quality of life for millions — potentially attracting new residents and businesses in the long run. A National Debate Over Wealth and Mobility This story extends beyond California. Across the U.S., states are competing for residents — especially wealthy ones. Tax policy has become one of the most powerful tools in that competition. While progressive states push for redistribution, low-tax states market themselves as havens for capital. The Los Angeles billionaire’s move underscores a key reality of modern economics: wealth is increasingly mobile. Assets can move digitally, businesses can relocate headquarters, and individuals can change residency with relative ease. This mobility complicates efforts to tax extreme wealth at the state level, fueling calls for federal solutions instead. The Ethical Divide At the heart of the controversy lies a philosophical question: Should wealthy individuals feel a moral obligation to remain and pay higher taxes in the states that enabled their success — or are they justified in seeking the most favorable financial environment? Supporters of wealth taxes argue that extreme inequality threatens social stability and that those who benefit most from the system should help sustain it. Opponents argue that punitive taxation discourages innovation and rewards capital flight, ultimately harming the very communities lawmakers aim to help. The billionaire’s move doesn’t settle the debate — but it sharpens it. What Happens Next? California’s wealth tax proposals are still evolving, and it remains unclear whether a final version will pass. Even if enacted, legal challenges and enforcement hurdles loom large. Meanwhile, states like Nevada are likely to continue benefiting from California’s policy uncertainty, attracting wealthy residents and businesses seeking predictability. For policymakers, the challenge is balancing fairness, revenue needs, and competitiveness in a system where borders are increasingly porous. Final Thoughts The Los Angeles billionaire’s move to Nevada is more than a headline — it’s a case study in how tax policy shapes behavior. It highlights the difficulty of taxing wealth at the state level and the unintended consequences that can follow even well-intentioned reforms. As California debates its economic future, one thing is clear: in a mobile, interconnected economy, policy decisions don’t just redistribute wealth — they redirect it. Whether wealth taxes become a solution or a cautionary tale will depend on how lawmakers respond to the signals already being sent.
By Muhammad Hassana day ago in Humans
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