How to Take Your Power Back from an Indecisive Guy

He can’t let you go after a year of an intimate relationship, and he’s not committing either. If you give him more time to sort himself out, he will probably come around to realize what he has.

A part of you thinks you should quit the relationship since he’s not respecting your commitment and walks over your boundaries.

There is nothing more annoying than dating an indecisive guy. When a man is deceitful, calculating, or narcissistic, those traits can be deal-breakers.

But some women, don’t take the hint when a guy is giving it. Not every man who likes you would want to date you and much less want to have a long-term committed relationship with you.

What to do if he’s not committing to you

When a man is indecisive, it can potentially be dangerous and nerve-wracking.

Guys can be indecisive if they don’t know if they are happy in the relationship or need to make some changes.

At this point, they settle in relationships they don’t want to because they can’t man up and decide.

If you are dating a seemingly great man, and in getting to know him, you find out he doesn’t know what he wants from you or the relationship, here is what you can do to protect your heart.

Walk away from the relationship.

Indecisive men are weak and time wasters. If you think staying with him will make him come to his sense and decide, think again.

Such a man that cannot be open or honest to you about his feelings can be difficult to deal with now and, most likely, in the long run.

Respect yourself enough not to wait for a man to figure out if he wants to be with you and don’t accept less than you deserve.

You don’t have to convince someone that you are worthy of their commitment. If he doesn’t see your worth after three months of being with him, he probably won’t in a long time.

Stop giving him attention.

If he’s having trouble making a decision on an important matter or even proving his love to you, try to change things up by shutting him out of your head.

Give him the silent treatment. Don’t call or text him. Leave him alone with his thoughts for a while.

This can lead him to make the right decision about your relationship.

If he is still unsure about his feelings for you, keeping quiet and getting your voice out of his head until he realizes he’s about to lose, you will definitely wake him up, or you have a reason to quit sooner than later.

Beef up your boundaries.

You can’t control how people feel about you. But, you can only control how you react to their feelings towards you.

However, the only way to ensure an indecisive guy doesn’t take advantage of your time and resources is to give your boundaries a little boost.

If you’re expecting a serious relationship, but the guy says he needs time before he can really commit, you can choose to keep sex out of the relationship.

Because sex builds feelings of attachment, which the guy may not reciprocate, plus, you are in a better position to make the right decision if your emotions aren’t compromised.

If you end up getting hooked on an indecisive guy, heartbreak is inevitable.

Explore your options dating other people.

While you are going crazy over an indecisive guy, someone out there may be crazy for you.

Instead of focusing all your time and energy, as well as your emotions, on a person who cannot even define what he feels and leaves you hanging, make yourself available to date other people.

Sometimes it’s better to leave a man who doesn’t want the same thing as you. It’s better to stay single and therefore be available for a great guy when he comes along.

So go out there, have fun, and be open for someone real to come along.

Closing thoughts

Indecisive men are unreliable, and that can mean a lot of things. They may either be reluctant to make real commitments or find it difficult to make crucial decisions.

You can talk to him about the impact of his indecision on the relationship. Avoid making a decision on his behalf, and be ready to leave the relationship if he remains adamant.

The truth is, not all relationships are worth fighting for, and some men have a hard time ending relationships; instead, they make a habit of sticking with one woman.

If he’s still cold after you’ve given him time, space, and safe opportunities to explore a deeper connection, then he’s not the one for you.

Don’t waste your time with a man who can’t return the love and attention you give him.

A man truly worth your time will not only be fun to be around and awesome in bed, he’ll also make you feel safe, valued, and loved.

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