How to Have a Successful First Date

We’ve all heard of the dreaded first date ending with someone never calling back again and leaving you kicking yourself and wishing you knew what to do differently next time.

If you’re dating someone new, it can be hard to know how to proceed on the first date, especially if it’s been a while since you’ve done this whole thing in the first place!

Luckily, some great relationship dating tips for men can make your first date more fun, less awkward, and much more likely to move things forward in the right direction!

Don’t drink too much

Alcohol might help you relax, but it can also make you extra-chatty, which is great if you’re looking for romance.

However, it could be problematic if she doesn’t want to hear about how your boss treats you at work or how your last relationship ended.

Plus, drinking too much makes people more likely to say things they regret later on—like telling her all of your exes’ names while drunk (which most women hate).

But that doesn’t mean you have to avoid alcohol altogether; keep it under control and plan accordingly by having some non-alcoholic options available.

Turn off your phone

You may be excited about your first date, but don’t let it interfere with your day-to-day life.

Do not send or answer text messages while you are on your date. If you are expecting a call, let your date know before going out, so they don’t sit there and wait for you to respond during dinner.

Wait at least an hour to respond. If you must take a call, excuse yourself from the table and do so in another room.

This will show respect for your date and give you some time to check up on any pressing matters.

In addition, try to leave all electronics at home. The last thing you want is your phone to go off in a quiet restaurant or movie theater!

Go for the kiss

Since you two just met, do not expect her to jump into bed with you.

Even if you are attracted to each other, it’s best not to escalate things too quickly.

If you can make it through at least three dates without getting sexual, it is safe for you to try and kiss her.

You should be able to tell by now if she is interested in having sex or wants a boyfriend that she can snuggle up with at night.

Remember that women have less desire for sex than men, so keep things moving at a slower pace until she gives you an indication of whether or not she wants to have sex before even thinking about trying anything more intimate with her.

Stay positive

One of your top goals, when you’re on a first date, is to make sure that you have fun.

If you’re going in with an attitude that looks for reasons things could go badly, it will be hard for them not to.

Enjoy yourself, make conversation, and remember that people want to talk about themselves; as long as your new date feels like they’re doing well in general, they won’t try too hard and ruin everything by asking how much money you make or how long it took you to get ready.

Keep things light and fun

Avoid spending too much time talking about work, your past relationships, or plans.

The more you open up on first dates, the harder it’ll be for them to get to know you better.

After all, women aren’t interested in a romantic relationship with their co-workers or former high school classmates.

Instead of focusing on yourself and your recent breakup, ask questions about her interests and aspirations (i.e., what does she want out of life?).

Try peppering her with questions about why she became a nurse instead of following in her parents’ footsteps or what kind of career she hopes for after graduation.

If you can make her laugh and come across as genuine,

congratulations! You may have just won yourself another date.

Put her at ease with compliments.

Compliments are your best friend when trying to break the ice with someone you’re interested in.

Try complimenting something about her appearance—it will get her attention and put her at ease.

Once she’s feeling relaxed and comfortable around you, you can take things a little further and start flirting.

Remember not to cross that line into the creepy territory; compliments should never come off as sleazy or overly sexualized.

The goal is to make her feel good and comfortable so that she likes you more (and trusts you).

That makes it easier for her to overlook any awkwardness or nervousness on your part during an initial date.

Invite her out again

If you’ve had a great first date, you should want to ask her out again. This should be non-negotiable.

If she doesn’t want to see you again, that’s fine—it just means she wasn’t interested enough in dating you (and if it was a wrong date, maybe you were both better off).

However, if you liked her and thought there was potential for something between you...

please don’t leave it up in the air! It’s lame and unprofessional.

The worst that can happen is she’ll say no, and it will feel awkward for an hour or so; the best-case scenario is that she says yes!

Good luck!

I hope your first date is impressive and leads to much more. 🙂