How to Find Someone Who is Compatible with You After a Break Up
There is no universally compatible match for everyone - people are complicated, and compatibility depends on many factors.

It's hard to find the right person. But it's even harder when you've just been through a breakup. You may feel lost, needy, and unsure of yourself. You may wonder if you'll ever find love again—or if you even deserve it. The truth is that there is no universally compatible match for everyone: people are complicated and compatibility depends on many factors. And while some people can rebound quickly from a breakup (and yes, those people exist), others need time to mourn the end of their relationship before they're ready to start dating again or thinking about finding someone new. Here are some ways to move past your breakup so that you can meet someone who will make your life better as soon as possible:
Make time to be by yourself.
The best way to find someone who is compatible with you after a break up is to make time for yourself. This means taking breaks from social media, getting out of the house and into nature and spending time by yourself.
- Take some time out each day or week to enjoy your own company. Read a book, write in your journal or just sit and relax without any distractions.
- During this period of self-care, try doing things you've never done before that don't require anyone else's presence (or money). For instance: go hiking at an empty park; go fishing at an empty lake; look at art in an empty museum; etc...
- Use this time alone as an opportunity to get creative with your hobbies! Make music or take photos/videos that represent how you feel now instead of worrying about what others will think later on down the road - they won't care anyways!
Have realistic expectations.
Expectations are the enemy of happiness. If you expect your new partner to be everything that the last one wasn’t, this will set you up for disappointment. Your new partner doesn’t have to be exactly like your ex, and they can even have some qualities that are better than yours. But we all have flaws, so don't get disappointed when you find out that your new partner isn't perfect.
It's also important not to let yourself get stuck in a pattern where every person who comes along is compared with your ex or disappointing because they don't live up to this false idea of perfection that only exists in your head. Don't expect anyone else's behavior or personality traits will meet all of your needs perfectly without any compromises on either side; if there aren't any compromises made by both people involved then it's a relationship doomed for failure from its beginning (unless both partners are completely devoid of flaws).
If a relationship ended because of another person's shortcomings, take some time to understand your own part in the relationship failing.
Taking time to understand your part in a failed relationship is incredibly important. It can help you recognize that your ex was not entirely at fault for the demise of your relationship, but it will also show you where you have room for improvement as well.
It's easy to blame yourself and feel guilty when a relationship fails, but blaming yourself won't help anything. Instead of dwelling on what could've been done differently, focus on how you can be better moving forward.
Remember that no one is perfect.
When you begin looking for a new partner after a breakup, remember that no one is perfect. Everyone has flaws—even the most wonderful people in the world. So as you search for your next partner, it's important to accept that fact and learn how to deal with it.
It's also important that you accept your own flaws. Don't compare yourself to other people, because everyone has different priorities and values when it comes to what they want in life. Instead of thinking about what others have that could make them better partners than you (or worse), concentrate on all those amazing things about yourself that make you an incredible person!
What's more, just because someone else may not agree with something doesn't mean their opinion should dictate whether or not it matters at all; this goes both ways: If something doesn't matter to me but does matter immensely for my new partner who is searching for someone compatible with them (like if I don't care much about sports but my potential significant other loves sports), then I need to keep an open mind about accepting him/her despite this difference between us (since he/she might have something else equally valuable).
Don't be afraid to talk about your exes.
Talking about your past relationships is a good way to get over them, learn about yourself, learn about other people and learn more about relationships in general.
Do a self-check on your own shortcomings now and then.
In the wake of a break up, you are likely to find yourself re-evaluating your own behavior and personality. It’s important to be honest with yourself in these moments. The best way to do this is by having an open conversation with someone you trust who can give you feedback on how they see you as a person. This can help you see any areas where your own shortcomings might have contributed to the failure of your relationship, whether or not those shortcomings were directly related to what caused the breakup itself.
If for some reason it feels uncomfortable for some reason (maybe because of cultural taboos or past experiences), try doing this exercise alone first: write down all of your strengths and weaknesses as objectively as possible without worrying about how others will perceive them; then write down two or three things about each one that make them positive or negative traits for dating purposes (i.e., “I'm really good at remembering birthdays” vs “I forget things easily sometimes”). Finally, list some hopes and dreams that would be important qualities in someone else who wants children someday (if applicable) – such as being able to cook well enough so they don't have any difficulty providing nutritious meals while working full-time outside their home
Think about what you want in a partner and why you want it.
You can't expect a partner to be everything you want, or even a perfect fit. You have to have realistic expectations about what you're looking for in a relationship and what kind of person is likely to fulfill them. If you've never been in a relationship before, it's hard to know what you like and don't like. You may not even know how compatible your values are with another person's until they're right there in front of you saying "yes" or "no" every day of the week.
The best way to find out whether someone is right for you is by dating several people at once until one catches your eye as being different from all the rest—or perhaps nothing does (and that's fine too). Take some time alone every week so that when someone comes along who seems promising, he or she won't just disappear into thin air because he thinks it wasn't meant to be between him/herself--you--the whole package!
There is no universally compatible match for everyone - people are complicated, and compatibility depends on many factors.
When you're in the middle of a break-up and feeling lost and alone, it can be easy to fall into the trap of thinking that there's only one person out there who is truly compatible with you. But this is simply not true.
There is no universally compatible match for everyone—people are complicated, and compatibility depends on many factors. Sometimes you may be compatible with some people but not others; sometimes your feelings will change over time; sometimes things just don't work out no matter what happens.
The sooner you accept that there's no one right person for everyone, the sooner you'll stop wasting time looking for them (and feeling disappointed when they don't come around) and get back into the swing of living your life!
Conclusion
If you want to find someone who is compatible with you, remember that there is no universally compatible match for everyone. People are complicated, and compatibility depends on many factors. That being said, it is possible to find someone who shares your core values and wants the same things out of life as you do. Start by taking some time to figure out what those things are, so that when you go through this process again in the future (or even now!), you’ll know what qualities make up your perfect partner.
About the Creator
Courtanae Heslop
Courtanae Heslop is a multi-genre writer and business owner.



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