How to Date like a Gentleman..

When I moved to Georgia from Arizona, Georgia Guys stole my heart..they loved their mommas, their kids, their friends and family. They were the standard..I would have told you they were the standard. In the last three years, I can't even explain what has happened, and I have a psychology degree.

Fast Forward to 2019 and it was all downhill from there..Pre pandemic y'all were really starting to look like every dating disaster.

Here's just some advice because apparently y'all need it and no woman should have date whatever Georgia has to offer.

1. Don't stand her up, stand up for her- I had a USCG IT ask me out, Javier. Cute as could be, thought he could be a potential LTR, but you have to show up. Happened a few other times, and I am talking professional guys, law enforcement even. Not exactly a step in the right the direction. She is who you protect not ignore.

2. If you take her out and don't want a second date- Don't agree to coffee, send smiley face texts, and then the next morning before God and creation has had coffee send a paragraph text message. Make the phone call. You have balls, use them. If she has more balls than you do, just don't ask her out to begin with.

3. Don't lie- A smart woman has a good memory, if you say you are going to do something for her, do it. If you don't she thinks you were trying to use her.

4. If she calls you for help- Help her unless she is your ex wife who is doing the UHAUL guy in the garage. A good woman will only ask you for help when she has run out of solutions. She isn't calling to trick you into helping her,there is a problem and she trusts you. If you don't help her, she will know you were never her friend, even for the seven years you were. And don't expect her to protect your secrets, unless you protect her.

5. If you have kids- Yes they are priority number one but so is she. Your kids should never feel like they are nonexistent but neither should she. She is just as important. Real men find time, for their friends and girlfriends, it might be challenging but it can be done.

6. A woman never has to earn a man. You have to earn each other. Even dating is a partnership.

7. It is not a job interview- If she is left wondering exactly what is going on..and you start giving her career advice, you failed. She isn't stupid and you might have missed out on an opportunity of a lifetime that didn't have to include dating her.

8. If she has to run to her bestie to ask "WTF", YOU did something wrong. No man should have to explain your behavior. You are a man (hypothetically), behave as if you are. Her best friend shouldn't have to tend to the bruises you created. If she is confused about what happened, it's your failure to communicate. She will compare you to the men in her life, her daddy, her bestie- If they wouldn't like you she isn't going to.

9.Don't change her-She is not Jessica Alba in Dollhouse. If you expect her to treat you with respect, treat her with the same. She might be your dream girl, but you can't make her into what she isn't. Would you really want the woman who changes how she is for every guy? Trust means 2 months in you are now dating Satan and not the sweet woman you thought she was.

10. Don't make other guys look bad- If you are a douche, just know her next boyfriend is going to hate you for having to fix what you broke.

11. Use your damn words- You don't have to google how to talk to her, just actually have vocabulary. She is not a mind reader, nor is she your therapist. She can be your best friend or your worst enemy, don't choose to make her the enemy.

12. Silence has it's limits. If you don't speak to her, if you don't find away to get to her, you are not Prince Charming, and trust me she will not ever think it is cute. Looks help but they are not the only thing, guys. No woman likes completely silent and stoic. 10 minutes doesn't work either, even if she can size you up that quick, and it takes more than once. The rule is 3 times boys.

Georgia guys..please don't be dumb. It breaks my heart you have made yourself into the enemy. Love is not torture.. so don't confuse her vagina.