How To Be More Attractive

We are constantly faced with advertisements and different forms of media throughout our day, often drowning with physically attractive people. We compare everything we can about ourselves to them and become invested in products we didn't know we needed. We spend money on strange contraptions that promise high self-esteem and a better life. It seems like it's impossible to escape being bombarded with ads every second of every day.

And with age and a constant effort to improve my body, my lifestyle, and my mind, I have discovered that I am drawn to (both platonically and romantically) individuals who I deem have an attractive spirit and mind. This is often in the form of intelligence, but it is multi-faceted. My closest friends are open-minded, empathetic, and eternal students of life, among other things.

When I first meet someone, they may appear to be physically attractive without knowing anything about them. But when I get to know them on a more intimate level, their physical features transform into perfection. They are more physically attractive than they were before, though nothing has changed about them. (Unless they happen to be an asshole - then they become unattractive, ugly even.)

This is probably why I believe all of my close friends are simply stunning. Yes, they happen to be beautiful on the outside, but their inner beauty radiates that of a goddess. They are so beautiful to me in every way. And it seems that the more time I spend with them and bond, the more beautiful they become on the outside.

This holds in romantic relationships as well. It seems that with every conversation, dinner, and movie night I share with my boyfriend, the more physically attractive he appears to me. Though I had known him for seven years before we started dating, I never saw him as handsome as I do now. I imagine (and hope) his feelings are reciprocated towards me.

It's important to remember that we can always alter what we look like on the outside. It's fairly easy to dye our hair, fix our teeth, wear makeup and sexy clothes, and so on. But working on the inside and changing our lens on life is quite a difficult and sometimes exasperating task. Self-improvement doesn't happen overnight. That's why it's so beautiful. And that's the main reason I find myself more attracted to inner beauty than outer - because it is a product of many years worth of practice.

How can we increase our inner beauty?

1. Know Your Worth

Don't be afraid to say no to favors, stand up for yourself, and demand a higher-paying salary when you are deserving of it. Know you're worth and don't let people take advantage of you. There is nothing less attractive than a coward who won't look you in the eye, is too soft-spoken, and is afraid to ask for what they want.

2. Practice Self Discipline

If you want to be fit, make it happen. If you want to start a new project, do it. If you want to work on your anger management, do it, even if in baby steps. Get that degree, buy that house, start that business. Make a life for yourself that you're proud of.

Leave a legacy.

Create your portfolio of life that will positively affect and shape future generations for years to come. Don't give up, don't give in. Utilize your power. You can do anything. Be proud of the person you are and be disciplined every single day. There is nothing more attractive than someone who says they will do something and then actually does it - timely.

3. Smile More

It takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile, and smiling is so good for our health. If you're a woman, I'm sure you have heard this more times than you'd like to recall, probably from crotchety men who view women differently than we would like them to. And I'm not trying to perpetuate this double standard.

I want you to smile more because it's healthy for YOU, and it's scientifically proven that smiling can instantly improve your mood. This is because when you smile, you release feel-good hormones like dopamine, serotonin, and endorphins. This is true even if you smile when you are not genuinely happy. The mind doesn't know the difference. Happy people are naturally more attractive.

4. Stop Complaining and Stop Gossiping

When you have a negative mind, you are immediately less attractive. If all you have to talk about are the shortcomings of other people, then your life must be boring.

What does someone like that have to offer someone else? Negativity among other low-vibrational emotions, thoughts, and words. And since our vibrations are always recycled through karmic debts and what some refer to as coincidences, it's essential to avoid unnecessary negativity at all costs.

5. Increase Your Empathy

Being able to put yourself in others' shoes is a trait I look for in potential friends and partners. It's important to note that empathy is different from sympathy. Being sympathetic is when you feel sad over someone else's emotions. Showing empathy is when you understand someone else's emotions but you don't necessarily share them.

As a vegan, I experience empathy with animals moments before they are sent to slaughter. I bear witness and understand the fear and feelings of abandonment they are experiencing. Expressing empathy of others is not only a strength, but it is not something that is easily attained. It is a trait that one should be proud of.

Being Attractive May Not Be Easy...

Though these tips may sound simple, at times they may feel impossible to implement. And that's okay. In my quest to have smoother skin and poutier lips among other things, I have come to realize that being an attractive person isn't only about what you look like on the outside.

By bringing awareness to these five steps and simply thinking about them from time to time, you are making baby steps - which I feel are the best steps. A little effort at a time goes a long way, and before long, baby steps have accumulated into huge leaps from the starting line.

Being an attractive person is not about being perfect. It is quite the opposite. Imperfection is beauty and our mistakes and raw emotions help us expose ourselves as simply human. And that's something beautiful.

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