How This Generation Has Ruined Love

1. The Death of Forever

I used to believe in love—the kind that lasted decades. The kind our grandparents talked about, where people stayed together through war, poverty, and distance because leaving wasn’t an option. Because they actually tried.

Back then, people didn’t just walk away when things got hard. They understood that love wasn’t just about passion—it was about commitment.

But somewhere between the rise of dating apps, ghosting, and “situationships”, something changed.

Love became temporary.

It became casual.

It became replaceable.

This generation didn’t kill love in one big act. No. We ruined it slowly, piece by piece, with every left swipe, every unread message, every "let’s just see where this goes."

Now, love isn’t about building something real—it’s about keeping our options open.

And in the process, we’ve made love feel like a subscription service—easy to start, easier to cancel.


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2. Love in the Age of Options

Our parents met at work, church, the local café.

We meet on Tinder, Hinge, Instagram DMs.

They wrote love letters. We send “wyd?” texts at midnight.

With one swipe, one follow, one late-night message—a new person appears. A new possibility. And if it doesn’t work? Next.

We are never forced to try.

Why fight for love when you have a backup plan waiting in your notifications?

Why apologize when someone new is a swipe away?

We are a generation obsessed with choice but terrified of commitment.

And yet, we wonder why we’re lonely.

We’ve turned dating into an endless audition, constantly proving our worth to people who treat us as temporary entertainment rather than partners.

And the worst part?

When we do find someone we truly like, we ruin it before it even starts.


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3. The Illusion of Perfection

Social media ruined love in another way:

It made us chase perfection.

We scroll past real people with real flaws and compare them to highlight reels, FaceTuned bodies, and perfectly staged “couple goals” posts.

Now, love isn’t about connection—it’s about aesthetic.

We don’t fall in love organically anymore.

We fall in love with the idea of someone.

We want the picture-perfect relationship—the matching outfits, the luxury vacations, the Instagram-worthy moments. But the second reality kicks in—the fights, the misunderstandings, the flaws—we leave.

Because deep down, we’ve been conditioned to think that if love isn’t perfect, it’s not worth keeping.

We forget that love isn’t supposed to be perfect.

It’s supposed to be worth it.


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4. The Fear of Feeling Too Much

The biggest lie we tell ourselves?

"I don’t care ."

We pretend we’re unbothered. We laugh at memes about being emotionally unavailable. We make it cool to be the one who cares less.

But in reality ?

We’re scared.

Scared of being hurt. Scared of being played. Scared of being the one who loves more.

So we build walls. We push people away.

We treat love like a game we refuse to lose.

And in doing so, we lose everything.

We become a generation that desperately craves love but is too afraid to accept it.

We mistake emotional detachment for strength.

But the truth?

The strongest thing you can do in this world is love someone fully—without fear .


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5. The Modern Dating Rules That Ruined Love

Love used to have rules—respect, communication, effort .

Now ?

✔ "Wait three hours before texting back, so you don’t look desperate."
✔ "Act like you don’t care, even if you do."
✔ "Date multiple people at once to keep your options open."
✔ "If they get too close, pull away—no one likes clingy."

What happened to honesty? Vulnerability? Actually showing up for someone?

Now, saying “I like you” too soon is a red flag .

Caring too much is a weakness .

And being loyal to someone who isn’t your “official partner” is just bad strategy .

This isn’t dating .

This is emotional warfare .


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6. Can Love Be Saved ?

Maybe love isn’t dead .

Maybe it’s just waiting .

Waiting for people who are brave enough to love without fear. To risk looking stupid. To stop playing games.

Waiting for someone who says, " I’m not looking for options — I’m looking for you . "

Because real love?

It isn’t a swipe .
It isn’t a text at 2 AM .
It isn’t an Instagram story flex .

It’s a choice. Every single day .

Maybe love isn’t ruined .

Maybe we just have to be the ones to bring it back .