Four polite words for socializing

It is a traditional custom for relatives and friends to visit each other and give each other gifts. When we were young, we often visited our relatives' homes, not only to eat, but also often to stay for a few days, and relatives were like family members.

I don't know when human interaction is becoming blander and blander, you don't want to receive guests at home, and others don't want you to visit their doors.

In human interaction, you should learn to read people's words, not stay in other people's homes, and become "insensitive people". The following four polite words, on the surface, to invite you to stay are driving you away, you do not understand.

01

Time is late, eat and then go.

You go to a relative or friend's house as a guest, if it is close to dinner time, according to common sense, you will finish eating and then leave. People who can sit at home and eat are valued guests, familiar guests, and everyone's feelings must be very deep.

Once, I went to my friend Adan's house to borrow a laptop computer. Adan dragged me and forbade me to leave. Adan said: "If you come, you will be safe. I'm going to arrange for dinner. We haven't had a drink together for a long time, so we must have one today. Let's see how my family's plum wine tastes."

When it was time to eat, Ah San brought over all the fine wines in the house and had a glass of each one. I drank plum wine, wine, and sorghum wine. After three glasses of wine, I was seven percent drunk. To this day, I still remember the wine from Adan's house, which tasted great, had a strong fragrance and was brightly colored. If you have the chance, you must go to drink it again to feel addicted.

Some relatives and friends, who do not want you to wait until dinner time to leave, deliberately said, "It's late, let's eat before you leave."

When he spoke, highlighting the "time is late", that is, prompting you too late, you should leave, do not delay their family's dinner time.

Perhaps, when he speaks, his tone is euphemistic, but he does not speak in a warm voice and raises a few decibels. You look at him and there is a smile on his face, but it is an awkward smile as if the smile is all squeezed out.

It's late, you've been in someone else's house for a long time, you don't want to wait for dinner, you'd better go back to your own home for dinner, or if it's far from home, go eat a box lunch on the street.

02

Be sure to come to my house for dinner someday.

It would have been a good thing for you to visit someone's home. As the saying goes, "A thousand cups of wine with a friend." Friends and relatives who have not seen each other for a long time are like confidants, no matter whose home they are in, they will be very close.

However, some relatives and friends, when they get along, are together, but he said some "inside and outside the words". He saw you at home, but said: "Some day must come to my house for dinner."

If you are together today and it is not suitable to have dinner together, can we have dinner together some other day? What's the point of being face-to-face and talking together when he says unenthusiastic things?

If he is very busy at work and does not have time to greet you, he will explain the situation, I believe you can also understand him, no need to change the pattern, or the order of eviction.

It is not necessary to be too hypocritical when dealing with people. "Let's eat together some day, let me come to you someday, let's get together some day, let's call some day ......" This type of word is very hypocritical words, listening to comfortable, but you do not take it seriously, because "another day" is about the same as "never wait for that day.

03

You wait at home, I go out to buy something.

When the guests are at home, you will not let them sit on the bench? You most likely will not do so, because you are a person who loves to save face. If you meet a guest you don't like, you will still find a way to invite him out.

There is a proverb in my hometown: "If you don't go, I'll go." In other words, when two people are together, you do not want to leave, then I leave, leaving the current venue for you, I take the initiative to give way, and you should not have a problem.

There is a "guest order", not to say indifferent words, but with practical actions to prove that they do not like guests. The guest is arranged to sit at home, the host went out for a walk around, it is expected that the guest sees the situation, but also can only go out in the dust, embarrassed to be alone at home.

The host says to you, "You wait at home, I'll go out to buy something." It is to tell you, do not wait, I went out, may not come back for a long time, what you want to do, you look after yourself.

Of course, very warm and easygoing relatives and friends said "you wait at home," not to drive you away, but something, need to go out, or he has to go out to buy food, no good food at home for guests, he was sorry.

Also, listen to others, but also to see what others are talking about, distinguish between the depth of feeling between people, and not misunderstand the intention of others.

04

It's hard to meet, I invite you to a restaurant.

It is not strange to invite guests to a restaurant for dinner. With the development of the economy, many people's pocketbooks bulging, go out to eat a meal, you can save time to cook, but also be able to eat more delicious food.

People who invite you out to eat at restaurants are also generous, people who are genuinely good to you. The next time someone visits your home, you have to remember to invite them back for dinner, otherwise, you lose your manners.

There is a type of person who wants to find an excuse to throw you out and will say, "I'll treat you to a restaurant."

If you believe his words, he will dilly-dally and not go out for a long time, and when it's time to eat, he still doesn't take it seriously. When you are hungry "grumbling" when you understand, he did not intend to invite you to dinner.

Once, I went to an old classmate's house as a guest, the old classmate invited me to a nearby hotel for dinner. I went to the time is five o'clock in the afternoon, to seven o'clock in the afternoon, he did not intend to go out. I had to get up and say goodbye. As I was leaving, my old classmate said, "Wait a little longer, my kids are off their evening study, and we'll go to dinner together."

My goodness, students finish their evening study at least after 8 pm. Do I have to wait any longer? I didn't want to stay in someone else's house, so I had to put my head together and turn around and leave.

There is a very interesting saying: "It is raining to keep guests, but the sky stays with me." This phrase can be modified into many versions, letting people read, laugh and cry.

However, people interacting with people is very realistic, not you modify a sentence so simply. Others are not friendly to you, you should not look at the face, learn to pull back.

Be a human being, prefer to have no friends and be alone, rather than useless socializing.