Don’t Get Married If…

Boundaries are set from the beginning of a relationship. Do not marry just out of the desire to love, to have a family, and in the blind hope of happiness.

However, we want to get married, to wake up every morning with our loved one, the chosen one to whom we can give children and with whom we can start a happy, successful family, which will give us the joy and security of a home.

It sometimes happens that we venture into relationships whose course is not exactly the one we want, but we still go on thinking that all the negative things will change over time. But time rarely changes people, especially those who have gone through the madness of the 20s.

Boundaries are set from the beginning of a relationship. However, the months or even the years spent together are very suggestive in terms of your compatibility. It is not good to overlook the things we don't like, considering that we can tolerate them.

The time will come, sooner or later, when tolerance disappears, quarrels, sentimental shortcomings begin, and everything turns into hell. What's more, the one you are destined to happen to may appear in your life.

I'm not saying there are perfect relationships, even the most successful relationship has compromised on the part of the two, but there are still some things that should not be tolerated in a couple. Do not marry just out of the desire to love, to have a family, and in the blind hope of happiness.

If you have been in a relationship for a long time and want to get married, don't take this step if:

Most of the time you quarrel for reasons that are too unimportant, but which are born of your different characters. You like one way of life, another, you don't fit in, and quarrels inevitably arise.

If you often ask yourself the following question: "Does he love me?" or "Do I love him?" - If your partner is a perfectionist and you have the opposite nature. For example, he is orderly and this can be seen in his gestures. He says he is thirsty, leaves the room in the kitchen, drinks a glass, quenches his thirst, and returns to the room.

But you say you're thirsty and go to the kitchen. You leave the room and notice in the hallway that something is not in the closet, you take it and take it to its shelf. In the closet you see that there are some untidy clothes, you arrange them. In the meantime, remember that you left for a glass of water.

You arrive in the kitchen, open the fridge, notice the jam, take it and prepare some tarts. You see some more fruit, you serve some of them. Arrange the dishes and leave. You reach the room and he asks you "What did it take you so long to drink a glass of water?".

You remember you didn't drink water, so you go back for the glass. If he has a strict nature and you don't, this will always bother him.

If you feel busy. Specifically, if you frequently give up your activities to do something he says. For example, you are tired, you want to relax and you just started reading, and he says he wants a beer and asks you to go to the store because he has to see the news or he has to finish the game on the computer.

If you often say, "Maybe things will get better after we get married."

If you feel alone.

If you feel like he's behaving like a parent. Even if this behavior may be pleasant at first, the relationship also means attraction, not just protection and friendship.

If he doesn't agree with your hobbies. You will always feel the need to do what you like, it is as if he does not like you, as you are, he does not accept you.

If you break up and get along often, today you will love each other, and tomorrow you will hate each other.

If you end up trying to please him and he doesn't answer you reciprocally or is always unhappy. He will stay cold or unhappy, no matter what you do.

If you feel that next to him you highlight everything worse in you. The couple must support you in what you propose, to help you in your social, professional evolution, not to defeat you.

If he is possessive, very jealous, impulsive (often angry).

If you are never right in a contradictory discussion if he does not admit to you that your arguments were correct but keeps his idea full of pride. If he doesn't even listen to you or let you talk, claiming it's the way he says it.