Dating a disabled person

Everyone is different, every disability is different and every one reacts to their disability differently. Every disability will affect each person differently, for example every blind person has a different level of blindness. I say all of that to say this is me and my current guy's story and experience. I will tell you what I've learned at the end of this post.

I also want to start this off by saying this I do love this guy and I will always love him. Being with him is difficult but I will get through this. I will share my advice during this post. I know I'm not the only going through this and I know I'm not the first one nor will I be the last.

When I met my guy he had all of his limbs, fingers and toes but currently he only has 4 toes and one leg. He lost his toe when we first got together he lost his toe a few days later. It was hard because I don't have a car and lyft is expensive. So I had to go at least a month with out seeing him. Then when we were able to see each other it were better. We went a while with only small to medium sized problems. Then he lost his leg a little over a year ago. That has caused us not to be able to see each that often. We video chat and text a lot.

So here's what I've learned so far. Depending on the disability and what you want from the relationship, the disability shouldn't matter. The only way it should matter is if the disability stops them from doing something that is important to you. When it comes to the disabilities that develop over time or happen because of an accident or disease you have to let yourself and the other person take as much time as needed to come to terms with it. There will be some people who will never be ok with the disability. You have to grieve what's lost.

You also have to pack your patience. I'm not just talking about being patient with them and their disability but be patient with yourself. It's a lot to get used to dealing with a disability especially when you're not used to it. This is something that takes some getting used to. It's been a year and I'm still getting used to the idea of my main guy not having a leg. I'm used to the whole toe thing but I've had like 2 or 3 years to get use to that.

It is ok if you can't handle the disability. You don't have to be with a disabled person. If it were me and I couldn't handle being with someone who became disabled after we met I think I would just be their friend. I have times where I don't think I could handle it but then I feel like if I left him I would be abandoning him.

Don't be rude to the person you're with. Even if you break up with this person don't make fun of their disability or be rude about it. If you are rude about it or make fun of it then you really should work on that before you get into another relationship. I would never make fun of amputees just because they were amputees.

Do you have experience with dating a disabled person? Would you date a disabled person? Tell me your stories and opinions ([email protected]).