Children&AnimalsONLY

In being HONEST and TRUTHFUL with myself and with YOU…..

I do often mention that I prefer working with children and animals. Often the response to that statement is that children are ok IF they are well-behaved. And the same goes for pets too. Let me ask you this….. Isn’t your ideas of BEHAVED different from the next person's? Let me help you out and give a quick resounding YES! The whole idea is for you to explore OTHER perspectives that may sweeten the pot of life for you! And the beauty of the FREEWILL of HUMANkind is that IF we really really do not resonate with someone else's version of BEHAVED……… WE are allowed to walk away!!!

It is not my job or yours to convince anyone that OUR way is the best. It's a LIE!!!! There is no ONE way that is BEST!!! There are ONLY endless POSSIBILITIES in this beautiful LIFE you are breathing in. So if it's NOT your job then what is????? It's so ridiculously easy that you'll recognize you have been doing this ON and OFF throughout your whole life story. All you must do to see things more clearly is to take EVERY thought and WORD that feels YUCKY and play a word game to find the POSITIVE opposite of it! IF someone says you’re WORTHLESS ….. Shout from that Darkside of downsville and SCREAM…..

I AM WORTHY OF ALL THE HAPPINESS I WANT YOU'RE NOT THE BOSS OF ME!

*watch how fantastic that feels & leads to laughing at your little inside

Let me tell you a story or few about the Darkside's of Downsville that I’ve visited a time or a few too many. WE could easily be sucked into that cone of darkness into Downsville OR worse Angertown. All to which I have been on several occasions and none of them returned any beauty to my life. In fact, it only got worse the longer I stayed. The little inside me was screaming get me out of here while my adult shell screamed back

YEA BUT……….. DO YOU KNOW WHAT THEY DID TO ME?

*YES….which is why WE use to just run away

As an adult I found myself running toward that fire to try and help put it out. It's all I ever wanted and still all I want. There has got to be a way for you to be happy without having to tear apart someone else to get it. And man do I go at it HARD because I cannot stand to see anyone so upset. With each attempt, the ADULT would fight against the freedom from it all. I’m not superior to anyone. I just prefer to stay connected to that flow of LOVE and MAGIC while my little inside is screaming that it can all work out if you REALLY want it to.

MOST of the adults I have run across in my life seem to enjoy being in that constant chaos of beating themselves up with unnecessary YUCK. As a child, I observed every possible mannerism, speech, topic, anecdotes, digs, vulgarity, and hate that spewed from most of the conversations. Starting at such a happy-2-see-you tone that quickly changes to sheer competitive (Keeping up with the Jones’) or argumentative on WHO was RIGHT about the topic on the table. Drinking their stress away from trying to keep up with the damn Jones’. This made NO sense to me at 10yrs old and STILL doesn’t at Vintage53 (like that?) lol. I DO!

As I grew up I grew more and more exhausted with the adult ignorance around me and the inability to see as clearly as I (as an unmarked child) could see. My connection to the very source of LIFE feeding the planets and the beings everywhere has always been on FIRE!! I just let it fade occasionally (when I’m stubborn) or completely hide when I’m trying to not hurt anyone who is currently hurting me. This I thought of at 10yrs old and still think it is so today. I will swallow and swallow all of the YUCK my darkness wants to say and often begin to CRY (that's my little inside) knowing you are so far from the LIGHT that it is the only reason you aren’t as HAPPY as you COULD be. I am a fixer, a mage, and a healer because I KNOW that I LOVE so much and so HARD that I risk damage to myself. Always believing I can bounce back because I always DO. Always only wanting what's best for you. Sound familiar? It SHOULD.

As a child, WE are at one with the CREATOR the moment we arrive. Unscathed by the teachings of our adults and the environment we arrive in. IF this is the TRUTH to YOU…… Maybe the blame game isn’t working because it all starts with YOU…. You the adult with the new GIFT OF LIFE … YOU the child that observes and is often an unwilling participant in acts of unkindness. That you LISTEN to the little inside YOU screaming in the same pain you are now dishing out. Some of us do and some of us do not…… hello FREEWILL again

And here begins YOUR path……. CHOICES are YOURs to MAKE

I too a defenseless child from the heavy berating and “disciplining” hands. Learned and made a choice EARLY in my LIFE to find a way to avoid as much as I could…….and I DID. Once I could…… AND nothing has changed from then. NOTHING!!! Only the people, the age, and the environment…….. I am still observing and avoiding the darkness of others trying to suck me into Downsville or Angertown. NO THANK YOU! Come with Little ME to the land of RAINBOWS and POSSIBILITIES. As crazy as it may sound………

IT’S THE ONLY WAY I SURVIVED THIS LONG……

Since you're an adult and have such a hard time believing in magic anymore…..

I prefer children and animals only! LOL, My thought was ……

IF I could get to the children like me at 10yrs old or younger and fill them with so much confidence, LOVE, affection, encouragement, and positive guidance then it could and would make a massive difference in their adult life. So off I went from 17yrs old to 38 I worked with ALL of them! Hundreds and hundreds of them in different states. Most of the time when I said NO it was to stop them from believing the garbage they were being told. I had NO problems advocating for any of them to their parents, to their teachers, to their authorities over them. I NEVER had one problem with visiting and then reporting very clearly the observed unkindness to the child.

Believe me when I say that some of the adults went at me telling me I have no idea how bad this kid is. Quickly forgetting that they drop them off with me as early as 6am and do not pick them up until closing at 630pm. Some do it by choice and some have no other choice. I could easily tell the difference between the two. When it came to the adults who had NO choice, they were extremely appreciative of the work the staff and I put into ensuring the best for theirs. The ones who “came at me” for pointing out the obvious, quickly learned that my ART of NOT letting YOUR volume affect me………was already perfected LOL. I will always ensure that TRUTH (no matter how bad it hurts) prevails. Some took their kids and left and some stuck it out. I KNEW that when I stood for the TRUTH for an innocent THEY felt like someone finally had their back. And that WE did!!! My staff (not all perfect, DUH) were and ARE the most amazing individuals you could possibly meet in your lifetime. It didn’t surprise me that the kids loved them too.

So why do I choose children? Because they, hard as it may be at times, reach a point where they understand how they landed in an ugly place they didn’t want to be. I equipped my staff with knowing I was their backbone and the kids knew the same. WE had our ups and downs and blowouts amongst us all but there was NEVER a time that (even though it was hundreds) WE always managed to work things out for the betterment of everyone. Sometimes it involved someone leaving but they never left not knowing that it was all done by their own choices they made when faced with them.

There was NEVER a grey area when it came to being MEAN or RUDE or VIOLENT. Not when you have so many helpers around you that care about you being happy if you are singing along with us. SO when they were outside playing and someone became angry about something not going their way……. Many addressed them in a positive way encouraging them that it's not so bad and to try again but have more fun doing it… IF they wanted to sit in CrankyCourt, they got to come and see ME LOL. No kid wants to sit in boring inside with boring me while everyone is happily screaming and playing in whatever magic their counselors and I created for them. Yet, they DID indeed, sit with boring old me LOL. And we talked….. We talked about why they made the decision…… how did it feel after they made it…. Did it work out the way they wanted….. Could YOU have done something different…..CAN you do something different……Do you WANT to do something different so you can go have FUN too?????

They always find their own answers. All I and my staff ever did was guide them into discovering that on their own. And the best part was seeing my staff so excited that the approach I taught them WORKED and THEY played a part in helping a child like I do all the time. Aftermath is also helping them simultaneously. With every single human being in our buildings completely unaware of the joy and happiness, they all brought to me! And to my three who were always there with me and were often considered mini-me police LOL. Nobody was afraid of ME…..but they were afraid of their own consequences. LOL

I made it a point to have it known that WE all must partake of the bitter or sweet consequences of our own choices. That meant that when a child was choosing to sit in their ugliness they were unable to attend any exciting adventurous trip everyone was heading out on. Of course, that was the extreme consequence of ugliness and the same went for the counselors. IF they arrived way beyond late or were ugly because of whatever reason. I was quickly informed by children and staff who were waiting for the opportunity to take THEIR spot. I’d weigh the information and then “pop in” to their location to see for myself, LOL. I often didn’t have to say anything at all. I walked in and the kids (with the staff) would announce my arrival. IF this counselor was REALLY bad off………..it was often a greeting of “OOOOOOOOoooooooos’” LOL

I knew all I needed to know and would just wave them on to come with me. Not ever speaking a word until they did. AND…… often it was explaining their ugliness away. Even though they knew they couldn’t. Not with me anyway! LOL

Just like the littles, they would see where they could have been different and during whatever dauntingly boring desk tasks I had them assist me with. LOL Again, nobody liked being with boring old me in the boring building of nothing fun! LOL, Even I didn’t like it! LOL LOL LOL I WANTED to be with them again! Having fun! Being the BOSS sucked most of the time! LOL

Children and young adults do not have the level of fear we carry as ADULTS (some of us). They WILL always speak their mind. Whether it's to say that YOU were MEAN and they didn’t like it. Or that it was completely unfair how they were treated just because they couldn’t do something as good or as fast as everyone else. And believe me when I SAY this……………

*THE YOUNG ADULTS DID THE SAME………..

Let's admit it right now……….

WE (adults) do it too……..INTERNALLY (for most)

The biggest difference I have observed is that children and animals are far more reasonable than adults that have been sculpted and pressured by the societal bindings of expectations that they think apply to this diverse species…………..

ACROSS THE BOARD??? FOR EVERYONE???

Not working folks…..

It's just NOT working

And WE cannot seem to work a single thing out anymore. Always fighting, killing, abusing, neglecting, and being cruel then wondering why you are getting the same in return. That YOUR life is not as happy as YOU had hoped it would be???? Where are you sitting???? On a bench in Downsville? Or the subway train of Angertown? It's only ugly and more ugly there. YOU have to do as children and animals do…… tell it to stop and go away to feel better. IF you stay and battle……….BATTLING is all you will ever do. Fighting to be BEST instead of enjoying the entire adventure of it all like the kids outside laughing and playing along with no matter what screw-up pops up! JUST FUN! And they go home HAPPY ready to rest and do it all again tomorrow, closing their eyes to dream about how they will do so much better tomorrow because NOW they will dream of ways to do it.

BE A CHILD AGAIN WITH THE WISDOM OF THE ADULT. FIND A WAY TO MAKE YOUR LIFE FUN AND VOID OF UGLY. WORK ON YOURSELF AND YOUR CHOICES…….

I'll be over here with the kids telling the truth straight with no chaser LOL

PS…..

Do not think for one moment that I ever got away FREE from any of my consequences EITHER. Mine was the HARDEST to avoid public exposure to all of them. I just stood on the stage in front of all of them and admitted my screw-up and that I would find a way to fix it. And most, if not all, of the children and staff, laughed first but then said my own words to me…………

“YOU HAVE A CHANCE TO MAKE BETTER CHOICES NOW THAT YOU KNOW”