Cheating on?

When reality is said and done, and in fact you are being cheating on is not easy to cope and deal with at first. The initial stages of accepting and moving on after knowing you were done wrong hurts and it is sucks. Yes it sucks; to find out you were not that important after all? yeah it does sucks!. But through it all is not a bad thing. Being heart broken is not that bad, and this is the 3 things can help to better deal with the unwanted experience on being the one cheating on and get the best of a negative emotional experience.

Reason # 1: You are not longer doubting obvious behavior of infidelity : Most of the time, in fact the majority of time when you are being cheating on, you have had already notices sudden changes on your relationship through his or her behavior; things are just not the same but you are not really allow to said anything yet, how can you prove it? and yeah you don't want to start a battle without ammunitions but you are experiencing the consequences of different patterns, reactions , behaviors and all others things you know that you know something ain't right but you decide to let it go. And BOOM!!! One day you world crashed; you are feeling like dying, sick to your stomach and hapless to find out all those uneasy unwanted feelings were true. Yes it hurts but the good thig about is that there i no more pretending game of doubts or sleepless nights of tons of questions. Now you have fresh start; you are not loonger loosing your sanity figuering all out alone with uncertainity. NOW YOU KNOW! Now you can start a healing path.

Reason # 2 It is a process! Go figure!! what about my worth? I personally had a bad deal many years ago and i was down for years. Trying to understand how can saying I love you is a game for many. I have cought this person in multiple relationship besides the one we had and it was deal breaker. How could it that be?. Endless night crying asking my self why this, why that, and never an aswer. One day i decided to be gentlen on myself and value my worth and values. I realized that we can not chage someone value of me on then. Respect is earn too but its my natural birth right given also; to be respect and to respect also. And that is part of the deal on any type of relationship and when a persons does not want to honor that in any committed relationship you or I anyone are free to move apart and give ourselves back self-worth and self-respect and heal. No one is subject to be unhappy if don't want to. And respect goes hand to hand with our happiness. SELF RESPECT IS ALSO AN OBLIGATION TO SURVIVE IN ANY TYPE OF RELATIONSHIP and then life will dictate the course if will let it.

Reason #3 Get going with you own terms of moving on: Am I staying or am I living? It all depents on you. I heard it some many time; if is done once, a secod time and third time and so on wont be difficult for whom cheat firts to do it again. So now that you know all the things you was not sure about, you dealt with the reality and realized you worth, what could possible holding you back to take an action towards the end of it??. Forgiving is at time hard when the demage is too much to bear and so many others factor are involve but it is crucial to not only forgive yourself and the one who inflicted such pain but to move on. You better off forgiving and not holding grouge. Forgiving does not meant you forgot but it meant you love yourself enough to allow healing and recognizing you worth and values. Its a lost of a friendship or your name it, the relationship status you were place on, title whathever it was, but is in fact a gain because now you know, and you have the option to move on, to embrece you worth and start fresh with or without and be at your best because you regard you worth and birth given rights are being honored and not ignored.