Animal Magnetism

It is such a strong, overwhelming, driving, primal force that it just rips off the thin veneer of social responsibility, the accepted rules of etiquette we all adhere to and at least give lip service to as supposedly civilized people.

It is a physical attraction that defies all logic because it is based on emotional and psychological factors that have nothing to do with logic. It is based on a far deeper human level of knowledge. It is carnal, it is physical, it is real.

Marriages have been destroyed by it, relationships ruined by it, friendships broken because of this strange, unbidden force of nature that seemingly appears out of nowhere. It supersedes the everyday manners and rules of social interaction we use to guide and manage our everyday lives.

It becomes a driving, all-consuming force of its own, with its own rules and regulations. We have all probably felt it at one time or another in our lives, and it is undeniably real.

It can happen to anybody, men, women, gay, lesbian, transgender but it is undeniably a strong, almost overwhelming physical attraction that transcends labels. All nationalities, all borders and boundaries, all different societies, even the most repressed ones are not immune from animal magnetism.

And like it or not, try to deny it if you can, but when it hits you, there is no doubt. You just KNOW it, you feel it, you are hopelessly and obsessively attracted to that mysterious other person, often a perfect stranger, to the point of virtual obsession.

There are some dry scientific explanations about pheromones and biochemicals out there but they don’t quite explain the incredible rush of attraction, don’t really do it justice. It doesn’t quite fully explain the undeniable force, power, and virtual obsession that animal magnetism engenders.

It makes you intensely physically attracted to the other person. You go from being cool and laid back to red hot heat. You will know it when you feel it.

We all have heard of, or perhaps experienced, the visceral impact of suddenly “seeing someone across a crowded dance floor” that makes us feel all weak-kneed and stricken with an overwhelming desire to get to know that person better. Oh, much, much better.

This is not always a mutually exclusive feeling, sometimes in fact it is just a one-way street, like unrequited love. Where only one person feels that incredible, indelible rush of attraction for another person, who does not reciprocate the feeling, for whatever reason. They may or may not be even aware of the first person’s attraction to them, at least not at first.

I think that is the exception and not the rule. That far more often, we humans, being the imperfect creatures that we are, this phenomenon that we call animal attraction is usually a mutual, instantaneous spark that flares up out of nowhere. It is a two-way street and sweeps all else before it.

It is a mad combination of passion and desire that is overwhelming, undeniably true, and impossible to resist. Some people may call it true love, some may call it being caught up in the heat of the moment.

But it is irrefutably a real emotion and must be acknowledged and dealt with in some way, either by action or denial. Try to deny it exists. If you can. If you want to.

Maybe somewhere there may be people who live such cloistered, closed-off, isolated lives that they probably never feel it at all. But for the rest of us, don’t blame yourself.

It is a deeply rooted part of the human psyche and partly a biological response system that can hit almost anyone, anytime, anywhere.

I am not and would certainly never want to be a judge. I’m just a student and observer of human behavior, but I can personally attest to the power and force of this magnificent obsession.

Whether or not we actually act on these mad, impulsive surges of attraction, whether or not we pursue these sudden objects of our desire, are best left to each person’s individual conscience and willpower. If they can.

But the fact remains that, like it or not, animal magnetism is very, very real. It is an indisputable, undeniable part of being human.

And In The End, Aren’t We Are All…. Only Humans?