A person despises you, the subconscious will have the reaction

It is often said: "Knowing a person's face does not know his heart."

For thousands of years, people have been emphasizing the benefits of "heart to heart," but not all hearts can be exchanged with sincerity.

Some people, and you will be able to heart, sincere indeed can be exchanged for sincere.

But there are some people, to their interests by any means, will be divided into three, six, nine, the surface and you call brothers and sisters, but behind your back to point out, and even look down on you.

We all hope that they can meet the former "true friends", but many times can not avoid the "true villain".

As the saying goes, "people's hearts are separated from their bellies".

In this life, people encounter countless people, it should always be clear which people should come and go, and which people should stay away from.

This is especially true for people who are like this, once you encounter them, you should stay away as soon as possible because this is the subconscious reaction of the other party who despises you internally.

A few days ago, in a video, a blogger was talking about his life before he became popular.

Once she spent almost all her time writing scripts, shooting videos, and distributing them everywhere, but not only did her fans not think highly of her but neither did the company, simply because she wasn't that good-looking.

Some people commented in her comment section, "Ugly people make a lot of mistakes"; others teased her under her tweet, "Did you come out to scare people?"

These taunts have made this blogger doubt herself more than once. But she knows that there is such a result not because she is ugly, but because those people look down on her, which is why she feels that whatever she does is a kind of fault.

So, instead of being defeated by mockery, she worked harder on her videos and focused more on improving their quality, and now she has gained hundreds of thousands of followers.

We had so much expectation of outside recognition, only to realize in the end - the world is our own and has nothing to do with others.

Everyone doesn't like to be mocked, but thinking back, do those mockeries matter?

In other words, people who despise you will indeed mock you, but the fact that mockery, breaks through the self, and change the evaluation of others on their own.

Everyone can control, from the mouth of others, but their own heart, not by their immersion in the mockery of self-doubt, so as not to remain in the same place, has been looked down upon.

Subconsciously ignore you

Have you ever had such an experience?

Several people are together to discuss a matter, but their views are always not respected; they also have something to say, but no one is willing to listen to themselves; they sent a lot of messages to a person, but always wait for each other's reply.

Being isolated by friends is something that no one wants to experience, but many times it is difficult to avoid there is only one reason for such a result - that circle looks down on you.

A similar thing happened to a friend.

At that time, he was just a rookie, to improve their ability to add a few big brothers to the group, I did not expect that from the time he entered almost no one talked to him.

Every time he wanted to ask a question, even if his tone was humble, no one was willing to reply.

At first, he kept complaining and complaining that those seniors did not know how to respect others, and in a fit of anger, he withdrew from the group and actively quit the circle.

But after a short time, he suddenly reacted up, others are not obliged to teach him, the purpose of the big guys to build a group, itself is to discuss more profound issues, and allowing him to listen is already a kind of respect.

Since there is no common topic with him, ignore the natural result, this time look down, is the ability of the gap created.

In real life, the truth is also true, there are always people who ignore you because they despise your ability, but the most important thing is not to ask each other to look up to, but to be able to bury their heads to improve their ability.

The higher you stand, the more weight your words will have, but when you are too low, it will lead to people's weaknesses.

I once read a topic: how to be looked down upon by the people around you?

I remember when the high praise answer was like this: "If you are only a few years old, you can fight with each other; if you are only a teenager, you can fight with each other. But if you are already an adult you should understand that the key to being looked down upon is not to change other people's opinions, but to keep improving yourself."

Finally, to borrow a quote from "Inferiority and Transcendence" as a conclusion, "A person's behavior is always limited by what he or she determines to be the meaning of life."

People who think being looked down upon is just some process eventually find a better version of themselves; people who think they will always be looked down upon will most likely end up being looked down upon anyway.

To be human, it is better to learn to improve your inner self than to rush to maintain your superficial self-esteem.