9 Tips to Make Post-Divorce Life a Little Easier

Whatever way you slice your former wedding cake, divorce is tough. It symbolizes both the death of what you once new with the promise of change and a new life. While it is an adjustment period, there are some tips you can implement to make it a tad easier for you now and later. By using the nine tips below, you can start feeling better and making your post-divorce life a little easier.

Separate your finances.

If you and your ex shared a bank account or any other financial assets, ensure you no longer have ties to your ex through these institutions. While it may be a pain, starting a new bank account, canceling or suspending joint accounts, and applying for new credit cards can help give you a sense of relief knowing you are financially separate.

Create a new budget for yourself.

Day to day life will change after a divorce. Guaranteed. According to this Austin divorce lawyer, “You face the task of learning how to live independently of your former spouse. Whether you were married for decades or less than a year, you can live a happy, healthy, and independent life after divorce.” Review your finances and make a weekly and/or monthly budget for yourself.

Book a trip.

In the midst of the aftermath of a divorce, you may find yourself overwhelmed, challenged, and lonely. Booking a trip, even a small day trip, can help lift your spirits. Looking forward to time away can start improving your mood now.

Revisit your beneficiary listings.

Most likely, your ex is your beneficiary on your work-related benefit forms, wills, trusts, and estate plans. Consider updating accordingly to give yourself peace of mind.

Give yourself “me-time.”

Regardless of your job, whether or not you have kids, your age, or any other excuse, make time for yourself. 10 minutes a day, or more if you’d like, dedicated to yourself. Maybe it’s reading the book that’s been sitting by your bed, or watching your favorite reality television show. Whatever it is, put your phone on silent and enjoy some time doing what you love. Ensuring you have time to spend with yourself can help you feel grounded and secure.

Build a filing system.

A filing system can help keep you organized and calm when it comes to keeping track of all post-divorce documents, such as name change forms, financial statements, or the paperwork listed above. If you’re tech-savvy, electronic copies can prove useful as well!

Redecorate!

Redecorating your new or old home to reflect your personality can be empowering. New candles, air fresheners, or incense can be a quick way to make your home smell and feel new. Be honest with what will trigger unpleasant memories and emotions, and get rid of it (or ask your ex if they want it back). Your home should be your sanctuary—treat it as such!

Review your personal assets.

Fun fact: Your credit score fluctuates with your marital status. Run a credit check on yourself to see where you stand after a divorce. Knowing your credit score can give you an idea of where you stand for other big life decisions (like buying a car or home).

Hit the gym.

Exercise not only makes you feel good on the inside (thanks to a nice raise in serotonin), but on the outside, too! Even 30 minutes a day has been shown to boost general health and well-being. If lifting weights or running isn’t your thing, check out an exciting new workout class.

Continuing your life after divorce is challenging, but possible; you can do it. No matter what stage of the healing process you are on, remember you are not alone. By using these nine tips, you can start feeling better today and carry those feelings for the rest of your life.