8 Key Signs That You’ve Found Your Soul Mate

As I wade through the profiles of various men on dating apps, reading the words they chose (or in some cases, didn’t choose) to try to persuade women to connect with them, I look for some specific things.

Not specific words, no. Nor am I looking for a muscular body or a handsome face — though they are nice bonuses if they’re there. No, what I look for is something I rarely find but always respond to: a feeling of possible connection.

It’s a vibe that comes from the way they’ve put their words together, the images they’ve chosen to represent their physicality, and the drop-down selections they’ve made when given a handful of pre-chosen options. This vibe says “I’m looking for something real. I’m real. And I hope you are too.”

I say I rarely find it because all too often, I find profiles that are obviously fake and written by scammers who would tell me they’re on a peacekeeping mission in Africa in the military or some other equally ridiculous lie. Second to those are the profiles of those men who are looking purely for physical relationships. Which is fine — they’re entitled to make that choice. And I can’t deny that, on occasion, one has been attractive enough to make me contemplate the advantages of something short-term, no strings, and purely for fun.

But ultimately, I am looking for my soul mate. And because that’s what I’m looking for, I look — or rather, feel — for that vibe when I look at profiles. And when I feel that vibe, I swipe right and send a message.

But what happens next? What determines whether that vibe actually leads to finding a soul mate or just finding someone who is nice and kind but not really meant for me?

How do you know if you’ve found your soul mate? Take notice when these signs happen. As your relationship with your soul mate flourishes, grows, and deepens, you’ll discover joys beyond comparison!

Look for these significant indicators:

Comfort level

How comfortable are you around each other? Most people have a little nervousness or shyness around meeting someone new for the first time. But when it’s your soul mate, that feeling might go away very quickly — or you may never even feel it at all.

Soul mates have a natural connection and understanding. This connection makes both of you feel relaxed in each other’s presence. It eliminates fear, anxiety, stress, and worry.

Sharing

Can you share your deepest thoughts and concerns? One of the key signs that you’re with your soul mate is the ability to share anything with this person. Of course, this doesn’t mean you should word vomit your entire embarrassing life history on the first date.

But soul mates feel free to share their thoughts, ideas, and memories with each other — even traumatic events, childhood memories, and their scariest and darkest thoughts. So if you find yourself sharing one or two small stories of this nature on that first date — or that the two of you are quickly sharing intimate details with each other, that’s a great sign.

Vulnerability is part of this, so you feel comfortable being vulnerable with each other.

Attraction

Although attraction is only one part of the soul mate connection, it’s still important. Do you have natural chemistry with each other? And let’s remember that attraction is more than just feeling hot for their body. The attraction can be physical, emotional, intellectual, or a combination of any of these.

Attraction may even be intense between soul mates. You may feel extremely attracted to your soul mate and unable to think of anyone else.

Communication on all levels

Soul mates can discuss any topic, but communication goes beyond talking. If you’re with your soul mate, you connect on multiple levels. You can find communication through a simple glance or body gesture. This type of nonverbal communication is strong among soul mates.

You see this often in older couples who have been together for years, but when you find your soul mate, it doesn’t take years to develop. It’ll happen quickly.

Laughter

Soul mates can make each other laugh, regardless of the situation. This is one way that they help each other overcome troubling times.

Whether it’s cracking jokes for each other, enjoying the same sitcoms or comedic movies, sharing books that made you laugh, or even just laughing at the same odd things you see, this shared laughter can do wonders for building and deepening love.

Time apart

Soul mates have a difficult time being separate from each other. One of the signs of true soul mates is their inability to be apart from each other for long periods of time. They often can’t handle long distance relationships and want to take vacations, business trips, and other journeys together.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you never spend time apart. Soul mates or not, healthy couples do spend time on their own, whether by themselves engaging in a hobby or with friends. But when you’re apart, you think of your soul mate often, miss them, and can’t wait to spend more time with them.

Similar goals

Soul mates often have similar goals, but these goals don’t have to be identical. It’s not a requirement that you and your soul mate share the exact same ideas or thoughts on every subject. You are still unique individuals.

But the goals you have are close enough to make it work. You might envision three kids while your soul mate sees four. Or maybe one of you is a doctor who wants to work with Doctors Without Borders and the other is a freelance travel writer and you’re both comfortable traveling alone and seeing each other infrequently.

Soul mates have an easy time planning their future and building their families together. They connect naturally, so their ideas align.

Finishing each other’s sentences

Being able to accurately finish each other’s sentences is a classic sign of soul mates. This type of action involves having a deep connection and understanding of each other. By finishing each other’s sentences, your minds and bodies are connected in a unique way.

The path to finding a soul mate can be difficult and long. Or you might find them during your next trip to the grocery store. You might even know them now, but are unaware of the relationship that might develop once you spend some time together.

Consider these key signs of soul mates in your relationships. You might find that your search is over!

I’m Wendy Miller. I’m a freelance writer and self-care expert who helps people find their way in our modern world. I’ve been published on Her Track, Tiny Beans, and Thought Catalog. My work has been read by people from all over the world. I offer advice to parents on parenting, how to find relationships that work for them, and how to take care of themselves — because we’re all a work in progress!

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