5 Signs That He’s Already Wasting Your Time

Dating someone new can be exciting, but don't let that cloud your judgment. Here are five signs that he’s already not worth your time.

His Phone Dies Often

People, it is 2020. Nobody lets their phone die often. We need our phones. We are obsessed with our phones. We can’t be without our phones. Therefore, if he claims he can’t return phone calls or texts because his phone keeps dying… he is lying. This is the honest truth.

Either that or he’s clearly on his phone too much, which is a major turnoff. And lastly, who doesn’t have the smarts to keep his phone alive for a whole day? I mean really. Seriously. He’ll waste your time away like he lets that battery life slip away.

He’s Cancelled Plans the Day Of and Doesn’t Reschedule

Sure, things come up last minute. However, when it comes to dating, if he’s really interested, he will make sure to plan another day to see you right away. And let’s be real, there are only a few excuses that are really valid:

* A work emergency

* A family emergency

* His car or other form of transportation actually just broke down

* He’s dying or extremely contagious, all of a sudden

Hopefully, he’s not dying, because that would be tragic. The point is, if he constantly bails on you last minute, he doesn’t value your time and therefore, is not worth your time.

He is Constantly on His Phone When You’re Together

You need to remind him that you’re present. He’s always scrolling, tweeting, double-tapping or posting a status while you two are together. So clearly he’s making it known that he’s more interested in the people on his phone than the person right in front him.

If you feel the need to compete with his social media followers, he is not the one. More than likely, this same dude is the one who will stop talking to you, but will continue to watch you on your social media. Lurkers are not cute. He’s wasting your time.

He Refuses to Make a Phone Call/Prefers Texting

Texting is not real communication. I repeat. Texting is not real communication. If all you two do is text all day and @ each other on social media, that’s nothing to feel special about. It’s very surface level and it’s a sign that he doesn’t take you seriously.

There’s no way you can truly get to know somebody thru text messages alone. You’re missing context and tone and personality. More often than not, a message is not received how the sender intended. Dating is hard enough trying to get to know to somebody face-to-face. Don’t drive yourself crazy trying to crack the code of a confusing text.

If he’s too busy to pick up the phone and talk to you, then he’s too busy texting plenty of other people because it takes no effort and he’s not looking for anything substantial at the moment.

Give your thumbs a break and leave him alone. This is the same man that will hit you up with the “Hey you” or "wyd" text with NOTHING else to say. Boy bye.

He Goes Ghost for Days at a Time

You were talking on Monday. Maybe you even have a good phone conversation that evening. Cool. Tuesday rolls around, you send a “Hey how’s your day” text and you hear nothing back. You’ll feel blown off, but maybe he’s busy? Wednesday breezes on by and crickets once again. Nobody’s that busy. Thursday has come and gone. Please believe, you’re being fully ignored.

It takes seconds to reply “Hey, I’m really busy, but I’ll hit you up soon.” All we want is some acknowledgement. You know he saw your text. As much as people say, “Oh, I didn’t get that one.” They’re lying most of the time. Texts don’t just disappear like socks in the dryer.

He’s not interested in talking to you. Maybe there’s someone else, but all you need to know is that if you’re not hearing from him, he DOES NOT WANT TO TALK TO YOU.

Not to be harsh, but it’s the truth. The only thing you can do is not let it be so easy for him to pop back up days or weeks later when he finally decides he wants to talk to you. Don’t be so flexible with your time. You’re busy, just like he claimed to be. He’s a complete waste of your time.

Let’s be smarter this year and see the red flags as soon as they pop up. There are too many good men out here to let the trifling ones hold our attention. Guard your heart and protect your feelings. Let’s save our time for those who really deserve it.