5 Reasons Why They Probably Didn't Call

What brings more anxiety than the first date jitters? That's right - nothing other than waiting for the call back after the first date.

Dating is such a touchy topic, what to wear, where to go, how should I do my hair, do I look good enough, etc. The list of insecurities go on. But if you genuinely felt as if the date went really well, then why didn't they call you when they specifically said they will call you?

Here's 5 reasons why they probably didn't call you.

1. They are very shy

Maybe they did have a fantastic time and everything went pretty smooth. Maybe they actually do like you and are looking forward to a second date. Maybe they just don't know how to put the right words together to actually ask you out again. Maybe they didn't have enough confidence to actually pick up the phone and dial after they probably had practiced what they would say to you only a million times over and over again.

Maybe they're just way too shy to call. It's a real thing, and people lose out on great love opportunities because of it. So always consider this being a possible reason why they didn't call back and cut yourself and them some slack. It is hard to be on both ends especially if the date went great.

2. You just weren't what they were looking for

This is not a bad thing. Everyone has their own preference in a potential mate. Just because you turned out to not be theirs it doesn't mean you won't be the next ones. The dating process takes time, effort, and patience before you hit the jack pot. It isn't an easy game that's for sure. So stay positive and respectful always. "The one" will always find you.

3. They already have a partner

Well, in this case they are just a plain ole jerk. Simple as that. You don't go trying to pursue other people while you're already in a relationship. It's gross and they don't deserve you. NEXT.

4. They lost their phone

This actually has happened to one of my friends before. She went out on a date with a male and the date went amazing. They had dinner and some drinks and chatted up a storm. By the end of the week she had wondered why he hadn't called or even texted, so she sent a simple hello text to see if he would respond. No response.

About two weeks later he messages her that he is sorry and he had lost his phone and was waiting for his replacement. Then that work got in the way and he has been meaning to call her to get together again.

Ok, that could all be true or a big fat lie. But let's not rule that reason out. But let's also not rule out that something like that happening might be labeled as a red flag.

5. You have nothing in common

Well, I mean if you have nothing in common would you even want them to call you? What will you do? What will you talk about?

I mean, sure you can get to know each other more and dig deeper into your interests and even mesh interests and mold something that can be solid, but is that really realistic? Most people don't think beyond what they know or what they already expect based on stereotypes and statistics. That is just pure facts.

It's okay to have nothing in common it doesn't mean that there isn't someone out there who's perfect for you!

Dating is exhausting. This is one of the main reasons why people have built themselves up to being perfectly fine with being alone and single. And once again that's okay. We don't always have to search for what we want, sometimes it searches for us. And when it does, be open minded, I promise you it is worth it!

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