21 Questions to Ask Your Partner to Build Intimacy

1. What is your favorite nickname?

Finding out a favorite nickname of your partner is a way you can connect. When being called by that nickname it can spark emotion or deeper feelings and give you insight when the story of that name is expressed.

2. What’s your favorite meal?

Everyone has a comfort food and learning to cook that meal is a way you can lift your partner up in hard times.

3. What’s your astrological sign?

If you’re into zodiacs, learning their sign can provide insight to their habits, communication, quirks, and behavior.

4. What is your favorite thing about me?

It’s nice to hear what your partner likes about you and rather you’re in a new relationship or a seasoned one, compliments are a way to make you feel loved.

5. What insecurities do you have?

Knowing your partner’s insecurities can be a good way to help build each other up.

6. What’s your weirdest quirk or habit?

This is a great question to ask so that way you know ahead of time and there are no surprises when that quirk pops up!

7. What is the best trip you’ve taken?

Knowing their favorite vacation is a way to know what they enjoy doing and can promote a trip you both can take together.

8. If you could pick anywhere to travel, where would it be?

A lot like the last question this can give ideas of a trip you can take, but this might be a little more unrealistic based on money, time, and even possibility if they say something like outer space.

9. Who is your ideal dinner guest and why?

Asking what celebrity or person (dead or alive) your partner would like to have dinner with can be a fun conversation and tell you a surprising amount about them.

10. If money didn’t matter, what would you do for a living?

Knowing your partners hobbies or passions is an important part of a relationship. It can spark ideas of activities to do together and a way to know what makes them happy.

11. What’s your guilty pleasure?

Rather it’s eating chocolate in bed or watching trash TV, everyone has a guilty pleasure and it’s a way to get to know your partner better.

12. What superpower(s) would you choose to have?

This is a fun question to bring out the inner child in both of you. Everyone has thought about this before and knowing each other’s superpower can tell you a lot about one another.

13. What are 5 things you would bring to a deserted island?

This question really tells you a persons priorities when it comes down to only having 5 things to survive. It can give you insight to how they think as they reason through their answer.

14. What is your love language?

Knowing how your partner gives and receives love is important to make sure you’re giving each other what they need in the relationship.

15. Have you ever cheated?

It’s important to know your partners past relationship patterns so you can work on making your current relationship better, as well as being aware of any negative things that might creep up.

16. Who is your celebrity crush?

Asking who a celebrity crush is and why can be a fun way to get to know your partner better. Don’t compare yourself to the answer because even if you have nothing in common with the person they say, it’s not like their going to ever meet Ryan Gosling or Angeline Jolie.

17. What is your ideal date night?

This is a great way to plan a date night and have something fun to do together. It’s always good to change things up to keep the relationship exciting.

18. What is your favorite sexual position?

Knowing your partners preferences in the bedroom will insure you’re both satisfied and engaging in what makes your intimacy worth while.

19. What is a fantasy of yours?

This is a fun question that will bring spice to your relationship and help explore each other’s fantasies.

20. What is a non-sexual fantasy you have?

Non-sexual fantasies are just as important as the sexual ones. Rather it’s massages or deep conversation, this helps you both get to know each other on a deeper level. The little things in a relationship are just as important as the big things.

21. What gets you “in the mood”?

Knowing what turns your partner on is essential in knowing what your partner likes. Taking those steps can spark a deeper intimacy and make your sex life better.