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10 Tips for Getting Your Ex Back

Miss your ex? This is for you.

By Anders GonzalezPublished 3 years ago 6 min read
10 Tips for Getting Your Ex Back
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1) Don't contact them first

When it comes to getting your ex back, one of the most important pieces of advice is not to contact them first. Although it may be tempting to reach out and try to get them back, it can backfire if they are not ready to talk. Your ex needs time and space to think about the relationship, and by contacting them too soon you could make them think you're desperate or clingy.

Instead, take some time for yourself and focus on your own wellbeing. This will help show them that you are strong and independent and will increase your chances of getting them back. Don't forget that your ex is likely to be going through a lot of emotions, so it's important to give them the time they need.

2) Let them contact you

One of the most important things to remember if you want to get your ex back is that you should let them contact you first. This doesn't mean that you should ignore all of their attempts at communication or that you should completely shut them out. Instead, take a step back and let them initiate the conversation. Show them that you are open to talking, but don't be the one to start it. When they do reach out, respond in a friendly manner and keep the conversation light. Don't get into any deep conversations about why the relationship ended or what went wrong. Focus on the positive and don't make any demands. By letting them come to you, you will demonstrate your maturity and give your ex time to miss you and think about how much they value your friendship.

3) Play hard to get

Playing hard to get is a powerful way to let your ex know you are interested in getting back together, but that you won't be an easy target. The idea is that by not responding to their texts, calls, or attempts to hang out right away, you will make them realize what they're missing and how much they care about you.

When playing hard to get, try to not answer every text or call from your ex right away. Let them know you have a life outside of them, and that you have things going on that don't involve them. By doing this, you will show them that you can still have fun without them and that you are capable of living without them.

Be careful not to play too hard to get though. You want your ex to see that you are interested in getting back together, so if you play too hard to get, they might just give up and move on. So, be sure to respond occasionally and let them know you still care, but do it in a way that doesn't seem desperate.

In the end, playing hard to get can be a great way to show your ex that you are interested in getting back together, but that you aren't desperate or clingy. If done right, it can be a powerful tool in rekindling the flame between you two.

4) Ignore them

One of the best ways to get your ex back is to ignore them. It may seem counterintuitive, but ignoring them is one of the most effective ways of getting their attention. This strategy works because it conveys a sense of self-confidence and control on your part. By not reaching out to them, you're showing them that you can be independent and don't need them in your life.

It's important to remember that the goal of ignoring them isn't to hurt them or to make them feel bad. The goal is to show them that you can handle being without them and that you're still in control of your emotions. If done correctly, this will make them realize how much they need you in their life and hopefully make them want to get back together with you.

However, it's important to keep in mind that while ignoring your ex can be an effective tool, it should only be used as a last resort. If you've already been in contact with your ex, such as texting or calling them, it's best to avoid the urge to ignore them and instead focus on creating healthy communication.

5) Act like you don't care

One of the best ways to get your ex back is to act like you don't care about them. This means avoiding any contact with them, not engaging in any conversation, not replying to their messages, and not stalking them on social media. Instead, focus on your own life and let them come to you. This can be hard, but it will show your ex that you're not desperate and that you don't need them to make you happy. Showing them that you're independent and confident is a great way to get them interested in you again.

6) Flirt with other people

Flirting with other people can be a great way to show your ex that you are doing just fine without them. It can also help reignite their interest in you and make them jealous. Make sure to be subtle about it and don't go overboard, as this could backfire and push your ex further away. Try making eye contact with someone, having a light-hearted conversation with them, or even complimenting their style. All of these things can show your ex that you have the power to attract other people, which may make them reconsider their decision to break up with you.

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7) Get back in touch with your own life

One of the best things you can do to get your ex back is to get back in touch with your own life. This means taking the time to focus on yourself and your interests, as well as spending time with family and friends. Doing this will help you feel more confident, happy, and fulfilled which will ultimately make you more attractive to your ex. It can also be a great way to take your mind off of the relationship and give you the opportunity to heal. This can be as simple as taking up a new hobby, going to the gym, or getting out in nature. Taking the time to focus on yourself and reconnect with your passions can help you in the long run when it comes to getting your ex back.

8) Talk about the good times you had together

One of the most effective ways to get your ex back is to talk about the good times you had together. Reminiscing on past experiences together can help remind your ex of all the fun and positive times you shared together. It's important not to go overboard, however. Don't bring up arguments or bad memories. Instead, focus on the highlights and the things that made your relationship special.

You might try bringing up inside jokes, or discussing a favorite vacation you took together. You could also talk about how you both felt when you first started dating and the excitement of your relationship in the beginning. Talking about the good times is a great way to remind your ex of the bond you had and the strong connection between you.

9) Apologize

If you want to get your ex back, it is important to apologize for whatever wrongs may have led to the breakup. While you don't need to go into too much detail about why you are apologizing, a simple "I'm sorry" can go a long way. A sincere apology can also help to rebuild trust between the two of you and will show your ex that you are willing to make changes. When apologizing, make sure that you are genuine and honest in your words. You should also be willing to take responsibility for your actions and to accept that mistakes were made on both sides. If you do this, then your ex will be more likely to forgive you and possibly even give you a second chance.

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10) Promise to change

If you're serious about wanting to get back together with your ex, you'll need to make a sincere promise to change whatever it is that caused the breakup in the first place. Whether it's that you were too clingy, didn't respect their boundaries, or something else, you need to take responsibility for it and make sure that you won't make the same mistakes again. This will show your ex that you've changed and that you're serious about making things work this time around. Make sure that whatever promise you make is something that you can actually keep. That way, your ex will be more likely to believe that this time things will be different.

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