The Freedom Of A Submissive Journal

The most recognised word for too many of you who are reading this will be 'journal'. I know you are reading this with the thoughts of 'oh no, I don't need some dairy adding to my to-do list. This is not a diary nor is the system designed to be written in everyday religiously.

Submissives are not just female we are a mixed-gender group of people just like in the vanilla sociality. This practice is not girly as every Submissive is different; their journal is no identical it is personal to them. In the vanilla sociality people, both male and female do research field journals when the profession or hobby requires one. I would describe a submissive journal as a personal discovery guide as it is there for our thoughts on our lifestyle. That's face it; this lifestyle is so broad it is a never-ending journey of experimentation!

Why should I bother with one?

Our dynamic is full of structure but none of it means anything without communication and trust. I know from personal experience this can be a very scary and to a point intimating factor when you are considering accepting a collar. It is not a place of a Dominant to punish a Submissive for the thoughts of an experience or a needed rant in their journal. Most Dominant require consent to look at the journal. I have exercises assigned to me by choice from my Dominant and love the surprise of seeing a quote from him to react to.

Communication can be hard went you first introduce yourself or be introduced to the lifestyle. The BDSM world is broad so you may not know what dynamic suits your needs and that's okay. The beauty about the journal is by writing in its pages for every new experience your naturally narrow it down. You may even find you cross over a few role types. I see myself as a Service Sub but also have elements of Pet and Brat roles that interest me.

I won't promise that there won't be some heated entries or times to look back and seen that there were moments you wish you could rewind. However, fellow kink seekers we never came into the lifestyle for a smooth walk across a beach. We came for our need for excitement, suspense, and adrenaline our art gives us. That's right, it's your art whether it be the way you arch in their presents, the skill with the rope, or the ability to visualize the pattern of each mark the belt will leave. So, it's important to write all thoughts, not just the ones that make us blush in pride.

How Would I Even Start?

I like to start my journal with three templates my self-respect rules and my limits. These are the first two pages (if you also use the back of the front cover), so the Dominant does not need to look at further pages of your thoughts. I allow my Dominant to look at these two pages freely as I explore new interests with them. However, you may feel something different is more suited.

I feel these are good for self-reflection but also for future use. We won't know everything we enjoy from day one of the introduction into the lifestyle. There are so many branches to our lifestyle that honestly even with years of experience you still won't.

As mentioned there are three templates recommend the final is a homework or assignment list on the very last page. When I first started my journal it was because I enjoyed writing to begin with. My previous Dominant felt it would help me as I struggled to be open about my emotions and loving myself. It became exciting to open up that last page and see a new activity to design, write, or research listed. Equally, this can be done on a sticky note if you want to try it before committing a page to the template.

Again every journal is personal so equally, you could so it completely different. It is important to remember there is no right or wrong way for this. Other ideas could be:

• Your rules from your Dominant
• Your favorite quotes
• Your Sub Space playlist
• Your weekly/daily chore list from your Dominant
• Your Wishlist or self-reward list
• Writing prompts
• What you feel your goals as a Submissive are?
• Your experiment Wishlist
• Your hard/soft/long time limits