Safe, sane and consensual, PRICK and RACK

These is no longer a concept just for kink but they're for everyone. They're for both the vanillas and the kinksters. The reason why I say this is because most of us will have sex at some point in our lives whether you are waiting until marriage or sleeping with everyone or something in between. These concepts also work whether you're just having regular sex with one person or have kinky sex with a lot of people and anything in between.

Let's start with the basics what is safe sane and consensual? It is the major idea behind the kink and sex positive movement that virgins and people new to kink are taught. So let's get into it bit by bit.

Safe means that the risks are known and minimized as much as possible. It means that people involved in any activity know what they're getting into and handle it responsibly. For example, you and your partner will educate yourself about what could happen if this goes very go wrong. Like if sex goes wrong, you could get pregnant or a disease. If flogging goes wrong, you can get hurt.

Sane means that the individuals involved have self-control and will not betray their partners' trust. It also means that the individuals involved have set boundaries and will not cross these boundaries without the full knowledge of everyone involved. It could also mean that drugs and alcohol weren't used. Everyone is in their right mind.

Consensual means that everyone involved agrees to something without coercion, intoxication, or duress placed upon them. It also means that everyone involved has a sufficiently high intellectual capacity so they understand the risks and consequences of their actions. (Legally speaking, everyone who has reached a certain age is expected to have reached such capacity, outside of those with cognitive disabilities.) Consent is a educated yes! Meaning you know what is going to happen and you want it to happen.

Now PRICK and RACK are lesser known especially to the newbies. PRICK stands for Personal Responsibility, Informed, Consensual Kink. This code is considered the next evolution beyond RACK. PRICK makes it clear that everyone should take personal responsibility for their kink. Informed means (or implies) that you understand what is about to happen - risks and all. The idea being that if you take personal responsibility for yourself and you're informed, now you can truly consent.

PRICK was even a new concept even for me I had to look it up. I think it's trying to get people to have responsibility of not just their kink but what happens because of their kinks. Your play session can go right or wrong either way you need to take responsibility of it.

RACK is an older concept that I heard when I got into the lifestyle. RACK stands for Risk-aware consensual kink also known as risk-accepted consensual kink. This is basically encouraging people to be aware of the risk but consent anyway. The philosophy for RACK consists of a few ideas. Risk-aware which means people involved are well-informed of the risks involved in the proposed activity. Consensual means even in light of those risks, both or all partners have, of sound mind, offered preliminary consent to engage in said activity. Kink is any activity that can be classified as alternative sex or activities that aren't sex but are related to a fetish.

I will not play with anyone who doesn't practice these ideas. I advise everybody to not engage in any act with anyone who doesn't practice these ideas. I can speak from experience that it will end in trauma and a lot of pain.