Let's Talk About The Sexual Performance

Sexual performance describes the sexual desire of each individual and his or her ability to have successful sexual intercourse.

The concept of sexual performance is quite ambiguous, because we are not talking about a performance sport, but rather about a marketing product of those who want to make a profit through products meant to introduce you to spectacular sex life.

It is about movies, books, medicines, and various lotions or substances with the role of amplifying sexual pleasure.

The sexual function involves 3 components: sexual interest (libido), sexual performance (erection, emission and ejaculation/arousal, and lubrication), and satisfaction (orgasm).

When one of these 3 components does not exist, the entire sexual life of the couple is turned upside down. Either one or both partners become dissatisfied with their sexual performance, and the effects can be seen outside the bedroom.

What are the main sexual problems that affect the couple?

Both women and men can have certain sexual problems, which consist of various diseases that do not seem to take into account age. However, as we age, these problems become more common due to our increasingly fragile health.

Frequent sexual problems of men are erectile dysfunction, ejaculation disorders, erectile dysfunction, and inhibition of sexual desire.

The main sexual dysfunctions of women are inhibition of sexual desire, inability to get aroused, anorgasmia, and dyspareunia.

Let's find out more about the 4 female sexual dysfunctions!

1. Inhibition of sexual desire - means decreased interest in sex. The drug treatments, hormonal fluctuations, depression, stress, pregnancy, monotony, and the routine of the sexual life of the 2 partners, the lack of time necessary for successful sexual intercourse can be to blame.
2. Inability to get aroused - is often associated with insufficient or non-existent lubrication of the vagina. Lack of arousal can also occur due to anxiety or inadequate stimulation. Research is underway that certain blood circulation problems can also affect arousal through the insufficient blood supply to the vagina and clitoris.
3. Anorgasmia - a condition that involves a lack of orgasm. It can be caused by inexperience, sexual inhibition, insufficient genital stimulation, or certain conditions.
4. Dyspareunia - a condition that involves pain during intercourse. The causes can be endometriosis (the presence of the uterine lining outside the uterus), ovarian cysts, vaginitis, insufficient lubrication, vaginismus (spasms in the vagina), or a traumatic experience.

What about the 4 sexual problems of men?

1. Erection disorders -  affect a large number of men and at the same time, and their partners.

These disorders include erectile dysfunction (Peyronie's disease), painful erection (priapism), or inability to sustain long-term sexual intercourse.

These erection disorders are caused by: stress, depression, fatigue, hormonal disorders, poor blood circulation to the pelvis, cardiovascular disease, or prostate surgery.

2. Ejaculation disorders  -  consist of several abnormal types of ejaculation, namely: premature ejaculation, retrograde ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, and ejaculation.

Premature ejaculation occurs when a man ejaculates too soon or without being directly stimulated, but only as a result of sexual thought. When a man has retrograde ejaculation, he feels that he is ejaculating but no seminal fluid is observed.

Delayed ejaculation occurs when the man has difficulty reaching orgasm, due to physical and mental factors. Last but not least, ejaculation describes the man's inability to ejaculate. This condition can be caused by spinal cord injury, diabetes, or multiple sclerosis.

3. Erectile dysfunction, generally called impotence, refers to a man's inability to maintain an erection long enough to complete sexual intercourse or other sexual activity.

4. Inhibition of sexual desire - is a sexual problem that bothers many couples and can cause a lot of frustration if partners do not communicate about it and do not treat it. Interest in sex, energy, and libido can be negatively influenced by stress, depression, excessive alcohol, various diseases, and lack of communication in the couple.

What are the causes of low sexual performance within the couple?

There are again 4 causes, guilty of the fact that the sexual performance of the partners may leave something to be desired:

Physical (medical) causes

• abnormal development of the genitals;
• menopause and andropause;
• diseases of the genital tract;
• cardiovascular diseases;
• diabetes;
• chronic diseases of the liver or kidneys;
• spinal cord tumors;
• herniated disc;
• hyperthyroidism;
• side effects of some drug treatments (antidepressants, anxiolytics, antihypertensives)

Hormonal causes:

• lowering testosterone levels;
• excess hormone prolactin;
• oral contraceptives;
• hormonal fluctuations.

Psychological causes:

• fear that sexual performance will leave something to be desired;
• difficulties in the couple's relationship;
• family problems;
• anxiety;
• stress;
• depression;
• a traumatic sexual experience;
• brain disorders.

Excess alcohol

Contrary to many people's beliefs, several glasses of wine or any other alcoholic beverage can do more harm than good. We all know that a glass of wine a day is pure health, or that red wine works wonders in bed, but when you exceed a limit, nothing can have a positive effect.

Excess alcohol primarily affects the brain system, causing us to see and think differently than we should, but also the nervous system, inducing drowsiness, dizziness, and fainting.

Moreover, excessive alcohol consumption lowers the concentration of hormones in the body and causes erectile dysfunction.

And this is not all! When you drink over the limit, the nerve endings in the genital areas (both women and men) are numb, meaning you can say goodbye to arousal! You can also say goodbye to painless sexual intercourse because the vagina will not be able to lubricate itself enough!

What does sexual performance anxiety mean?

Anxiety or sexual performance disorder is a sexual dysfunction that manifests itself through anxiety and anxiety when you want to start sexual activity. This state blocks the normal and spontaneous course of thoughts and senses. Overall, when you suffer from sexual performance anxiety, you can't behave sexually at ease.

Sexual performance anxiety is closely related to how much passion, dedication, and love are involved in that sexual act. A person who does not receive enough affection or who has a left-handed partner will surely feel a certain embarrassment and reservation towards intimate moments.

The same will happen to people who tend to simply dissect intimate moments with their partners. These people deliberately divide the sexual act into sequences, thinking about what was right and what was wrong, being eternally dissatisfied.

Such behavior destroys sexual pleasure. Many women tend to focus more on how they behave or move during intercourse than on sexual pleasure with their partner and communication while making love.

 This misconduct is further evidence that the most important human erogenous organ is the brain, which greatly influences sexual thinking and performance.

To all this are added other psycho-social fears such as the fear that the partner will not be satisfied, the fear of not making wrong gestures during sexual intercourse, the fear of being humiliated or ridiculed in public due to sexual performance.