The Foundation of Family Begins with Love

What you give to a woman will return to you.

A man who believes he can safeguard his children while waging war on their mother is living in a dream world. The love, respect, or hurt that he shows his partner will always be returned to him through his children. This thing is just plain unavoidable. Our home is the emotional and spiritual backbone of our homes, the mental health of a woman dictates the emotional health of everyone involved.

The way he nurtures and defends his girl opens up a place where love can grow and safety can flourish. This love shines inward to her and then outward to their children. But when a woman is loved and appreciated she will put out warmth and strength. Her peace also creates a safe space for her children to grow and blossom.

And, when a man chooses to treat a woman as less, he tears at the very fabric of the family's soul. Her suffering is of course not just hers it assumes a muted shape that alters the ambiance of the region. Stressful living conditions, trauma and emotional instability in childhood often are mental baggage that children carry with them and bring into their own lives.

The way a man treats his significant other is a blueprint for the emotional health of his children. He demonstrates healthy relationships and emotional intelligence to his children through love and safety. On the other hand, if he will make harm, if he does so, he can implant toxic models in his children.

A woman has a special role to play in a family. She is frequently the heart of the house, her strength setting the rhythm of everyday life. When a man respects her for the role she plays, when he understands the scope of what a woman brings through her womb, when he treats her with gratitude, reverence, and respect he allows her to own that role completely. Not only does that empower her but their children and generation also are much more emotionally healthy because of the process.

A man cannot be a good father if he's a poor partner. But he teaches his biggest lesson in the way he treats the mother of his children. Sons learn how to treat women by watching their fathers, daughters learn what to expect from men. Thus far, a father's example registers a strong and lasting impression.

Many men overlook this connection, assuming they're able to compartmentalize their relationships. They think they can be seen as doting fathers while being neglectful or abusive to partners. But kids are very perceptive. Reading between lines to learn about these things without every studying them (Emotional semiotics).

Children thrive when both parents are emotionally healthy and are able to support one another. A man who is a blessing his partner makes her better and gives his children a solid ground. 29, as an act of love and respect is the model of compassion, not compassion.

Sad to say, but some men have a terribly superficial view of parenthood. It involves creating a secure emotional container. None of this can happen if the mother feels unsupported, neglected or hurt. ''The wounds of all the people in a family system are inter-connected,''

If you cared anything about protecting your children, you would have protected their mother. Celebrate her spirit and acknowledge her accomplishments. When you invest in her happiness and health, you invest in the emotional well-being of all the people in your family. You will plant in her the seed of your thoughts, your lifestyle, your values and what she gives back to your offspring, she will multiply and feed them.

So my dear man, one of the greatest legacies you can leave for your children, is an emotive togetherness. When you treat your partner well, you are teaching your children how to love, be kind and support one another. A universal truth that there is no qualm about, and its a truth every man must learn.