"Oh No He Didn't"

"7yrs! 7yrs of what was thought to be the rest of my life! Turns out, it feels like the end of my life!" These are the thoughts racing through my mind as i finally uncovered the truth about my soon to be ex-husband!

When me and my husband first met; it was magical; it seemed as though he thought about me every second! He always offered me whatever he could! I mean, we weren't even dating and he was truly concerned about why i wasnt bringing lunch to work! It was no doubt he was all the way into me! 7yrs ago I met my now ex-husband at work. I had been working there a couple weeks before he came on site. A couple of guys made friends with me and knew they were into me, but I never took it as far as work chat. I did give out my phone number but I never thought too much on it. Now, when the man who became my husband walked in, I had no idea who he was, but to my surprise everyone kind of connected with him. He was real cool and conversive with everyone, surprisingly even me!

He came up to me and ask me to introduce myself! He helped me set up my work station, and then he stepped off to do work else where. All throughout that first day, he came back and forth to work with me and conversed. He made my day easier to work as he was just so helpful toward me! I caught myself looking for him when he stepped off for longer periods of time but he always came back to acknowledge me! During our lunch break he notice that i didnt bring lunch and was concerned about that, stating that he could never work without eating something, and he offered to get me something, but me being timid and prideful at the time turned him down.

Over the weeks the same routine continued, and he continued to be consistent with his character and actions towards me. I eventually took him up on his offer to get me something to eat; especially after a female co-worker said to me "he is really nice! He offer to give you his food; he really like you!" Everyday he showed up, he would walk me down the road to the bus stop after work. On the first day, he told me he normally does not walk down that long road, but take a short cut. I wasn't into taking no short cut with a total stranger no matter how nice he was. One day though after about a week; I decided to instead of me taking him to walk out his way for me; take his short cut with him. It wind up being quick and fun! I eventually took that way all while we worked there!

In about the third week of us working together and getting to know each other; he told me he was asked by another guy, who i was to him and he replied "thats my wife!"

I finally let him come home to meet my family, and he had such an impact on my household. In as so much that my sister husband (not at that time) said that i should be with him; but he replied "I can't be with no one accept be married" That blew our minds and i was completely on board!

We later that month started planning our wedding date, but I did not know it would literally be the next month! I was soo excited, but nervous at the same time. To make the wedding more affordable and to be done soo quickly we actually decided to get doubled married with my sister and her now husband! It was the most happiest days of our lives. After we got married, me and my husbsnd stayed a couple months in a hotel; which was amazing! Eating and ordering takeout every night, room service everyday, never having to make up a bed; even though I did lol! It was a wonderful experience!

We eventually got us our own place, and I was excited to have my first place with my new husband! On the second day I came home from work the house was decked out! I couldn't believe how set up it was soo fast! Him and the moving guys set up the whole place before I got home; I was even more in love! When my family came to visit me in my new place that week, they were shocked themselves to see it was fully furnished, everything brand new; they even thought it came like that! I was happy he impressed my family!

Our birthdays and anniversaries he made them soo special by taking us all on vacations never been before; cabins on the mountains, beach resorts, timeshares, and more! Everyone was happy for me and a little jealous.

Now even though I worked with my husband at a regular job, he was also a musician and performed at alot of events. We would almost every weekend have an exciting event to go to; either in town or out of town. These were the best days, because he made sure i had the finest outfits, dresses, and heels to wear out. He even help me style my hair!

When went out with him, my family and all who came to his events they would be in awwww of me; even saying I looked like certain female celebrities. He made me feel so special!

As years went by, and even though he was getting me all nice for his events, started to feel strange toward him. When we went out everyone would get his attention more then me, even women sometimes. I would find myself sitting by myself or with family if they came, but never truly with him. Now understood he had to associate himself with his audience and fellow musicians, but I started feeling not included. Things really started to take a twist when some events I couldn't go to, but his fellow partners could. Even though sometimes did not want to go with them, but it would have felt better knowing I was invited!

Over time started realizing that he was more into his work then me, in which in the beginning it seemed he was more into me then his work! He was always online and social media, posting and messaging his followers. Entertaining them more then me!

When he had free time or wasn't on the internet, I started wanting to get intimate with him, but he would just proclaim we should just chill and watch movies, which eventually put me to sleep!

As more time went by the more excuses was made about him not touching me or wanting me to touch him! I started to believe he wanted someone else he was talking to online. When we went out to events I started watching for females who were getting too close and reassuring them that was his wife! I also started becoming fascinated with his social media pages trying to figure out who he might be texting or chatting with!

For the most part he was promoting and displaying his music and business content, but every once in a while i would find women texted him or sent him something extra. It would then turn into this big argument and of course he would make me believe or see i was over analyzing it! I even found out some of the conversation were fake, but i still was very prudent, and it became a little hard to trust him!

Now throughout our marriage he always seemed into me even sexually. But I started to see he wasn't as intimate as I thought! After a while he didn't even want to have sex, neither did want to hold me. He made it seem as though thats all I wanted; and truthfully I did want him alot; but I'm a newly wed, I thought that's how was supposed to be! So I accepted that it might be me and backed off some. One night he gave in to me wanting him and we begin to get intimate. Then something unexpected happened! As I was caught up in the moment; I asked him to touch me between my legs. What he said next shocked me! He said "I don't want touch, it feels nasty!" He even told me it "looks ugly!" "OH NO HE DIDN'T" was what raced through my mind! told his own wife that he married that between her legs looked and felt nasty! I was hurt; I eventually crying an started accusing him of everything I ever thought! I even called him gay, and degraded his size and performance in bed!

IT GOT DISRESPECTFUL!!

I instantly called for a divorce and he was soo offended by my retaliating words and threats, he didn't contend! But then later that night something came over me and i regretted and tried to retract everything I had said to him. But unfortunately, he wasn't feeling it. He said, I "had to always feel like that for me to say those things", and he wasn't going stay with a women who had such disrespectful feelings in their hearts towards him.

I pleaded for weeks, but everytime he dismissed my plea, I said more hurtful things to him. He eventually moved out a couple weeks later, after sleeping in his car most nights!

I asked how long was our seperation was going to be, but he couldn't or didn't give a straight up answer. Everyday that he wasn't with me, or when he wouldn't answer my phone , I would accuse him of being with someone else, even though I never had any proof. We both eventually couldn't take any more and I filed for my divorce!

I never knew that someone could marry someone they are not sexually influenced by, but I guess I found the long way!

And to think 7yrs went to waste over an UNEXPECTED UNCOVERING!