Love's Not-To-Do List

Love's no suppose to do list- things not to do in Love!

We need to be honest and direct. Most people are not really in love, but rather, they have become addicted psychologically. They slap a name on it, ''Love'', when they are in fact systematically eroding their own future, peace and self-worth. Here are some things you should stop doing:

1. Stop Paying Those Who Don't Uplift You Financially.

If you are sending money every week to someone who doesn't give back to your life you are not in a romantic relationship but rather an unpaid patron.

2. Cease Begging for Love.

If you have to constantly convince someone to love you, respect you or be there for you, they are not of the mindset that you have a place in their life to begin with. There is no point in suffering like this.

3. Do Not Neglect Friendships for the Sake of a Relationship.

Is your partner's lack of security driving you away from friends? That's not love; it's isolation. Then you'll be alone when that relationship is over.

4. Understand That Disrespect Is Not Understanding.

If someone insults, lies to, or takes advantage of you, and you cover for them with ''nothing and no one is perfect,'' know that it's not love; it's self-betrayal.

5. Do Not Change Who You Are for Someone Else.

If you are twisting your voice, editing your habits or punishing your personality in order to make someone else happy, there is also the matter of what you gain from loving somebody who does not love your genuine self.

6. Quit Valuing a Relationship Over Your Future.

You should not sacrifice chances, goals, and personal development to stay in a relationship. After the relationship ends, the other person might pick someone who wasn’t willing to make those sacrifices.

7. Don't Have Sex Without Protection in the Name of Love.

If someone is coaxing you with ''If you love me, you won't use condoms,'' understand the risks for unplanned pregnancy and STDs. Take care of yourself; love isn't supposed to hurt.

8. Don't tell your sexual partners all of your secrets

Remember, sex and trust aren't the same thing. Some people may take advantage of your vulnerability to cut you down.

9. One-way effort has to stop

If you're the only one who’s calling, making commitments, and apologies, and they're contributing next to nothing that's not love, it's a show.

10. Know That ''Spending Time Together'' Is Not The Same As ''Making Love. ''

It doesn't mean you are in love just because you have been together for years, if things are toxic most of the time. It could be that you're simply emotionally in hock.

11. Do not fix that which does not want to learn to heal.

You can't save someone who wants to stay broken.

12. Acknowledge That Love Isn't a Panacea for Everything.

Love does not cure laziness, irresponsibility, or poor character. What causes real change is discipline, therapy, and accountability.

25 Love is supposed to be a wonderful emotion, but not at the cost of losing yourself. When you make sacrifices for love, you may be left alone and in pain. There is no false love, only true growth.