Leave a little focus time for the kids

　　Every morning at 5:30, I usually wake up automatically, get up, wash up, sit in front of the balcony, turn on the computer, take a deep breath of the morning air, and write.

　　It's almost like it's become part of my life, so I take this little bit of time in the morning very seriously and don't want to be disturbed.

　　The morning before was the same, I was ready to sit down and was writing at the same time when I heard my daughter in the room calling out for her father. I thought to myself that there was my wife and daughter in the room, so I ignored it too much and continued typing.

　　After a while, the room door opened and my daughter came out of the room with a smile on her face almost as if she was trotting. Just woke up from sleep, hair did not have time to comb, sleepy eyes staring at me, smiling and running towards me.

　　My daughter is not yet two years old, and the most intuitive way to express her mood is with a facial smile and a not-so-skilled trot. Although the trot is a little crooked, you can still see that very exciting.

　　At this time the wife also came out, recently she is preparing for an examination, so should be up early in the morning in the room to read a book. Now the wife saw her daughter come out and took the book herself to the living room to read it.

　　My daughter ran to me, curiously looking at the computer screen, hands on the keyboard double-barreled, slapping the keyboard sound crackling, very crisp, but also very happy. I was interrupted by my daughter just halfway through writing, so I wanted her to go to the living room and play by herself first, and I would play with her after I finished writing.

　　So I didn't interact much with my daughter, I just mechanically took her little hand away from the keyboard, picked up a small toy from the corner and handed it to her, carried her to the living room, and then continued to sit down and write.

　　During this time I noticed that she may have noticed my lukewarm reaction and simply took the toy I had just handed her and went around to my wife's side with a less than coherent mouth saying, "Mommy, look." Sometimes they laughed at themselves, and sometimes they made noises on the floor with their toys, trying to get the wife's attention.

　　At that time, the wife was reading a book and responded symbolically once. The daughter simply got up, put her hands on her face, tongue out, and retracted. Before my daughter learned this naughty action by watching cartoons, whenever she made this action, my wife and I will immediately also make this action in response to her, teasing her.

　　But today, my wife only simply nodded her head, her eyes had not left the book. I saw my daughter walking alone in place for a while, then stopped in the middle of the living room and suddenly burst into tears. I immediately ran to my daughter's side and picked her up, and her face, which was just smiling, was now twisted red with aggression. There was a bit of passion in the eyes just now, and now tears continue to gush out.

　　My wife also came over, and we both kept comforting her, talking to her, and apologizing to her for the way we both behaved earlier. Then my daughter turned to my wife and called out to her mother, and then to me and called out to her father, and immediately laughed happily.

　　Children's happiness and joy are far simpler than we can imagine. The meaning of happiness is perhaps understood differently by each person and given a different definition. We always feel that we have to work hard to make money, earn more money, and give our children more toys, a better living environment, and better nutrition, to create happiness for our children.

　　Parents are all similar in heart, everyone wants their children to be well dressed, well fed, and happy. The only thing is that the happiness we impose on ourselves is really what our children need.

　　I often see such parents on the road, while holding a cell phone, once distracted to answer the children's various questions, and even show impatience. When I was back home, I saw many young parents who were extremely bored with their children's "nonsense" and wanted their children to sleep all day without making any noise.

　　How much time do we have in the end, specifically left for the child, specifically to put down everything in hand to go well with the child?

　　We are too busy to browse through the circle of friends on the phone yet, the new drama that just came out has not yet finished watching it. The new project is going to be online, so we must work overtime. We have to get together with old friends on weekends, and it's inconvenient to bring the kids. We lament that there is not enough time to spend.

　　Many people say to me that they are tired at work, and when they come home, they have to be tossed by their little grandchildren, and they are physically and mentally exhausted.

　　I remember reading an article that said, "I'm sorry kid, I don't love you as much as you do, at least not as much as you love me. Children are just a part of our life world, but we are the whole world of our children. I think children's happiness is not as complicated as we have planned in our hearts, they just want a little more of our company and a little more interaction with us. In this little time, please make sure that it is focused and dedicated to the child.

　　There are a lot of parenting books and videos available online and in bookstores. What kind of parenting philosophy is the best, each parent has to learn according to their child's situation to figure out. I occasionally read these parenting experiences, but more often than not, I learn and grow through actual contact with my daughter.

　　A child's childhood is only a few years long, and it's the time when parents need to be with and involved the most. Every time I see the expectant eyes of the children left behind on TV, I feel very bad. I understand the hardships of those parents who have no choice, but I sympathize with the children who stay at home and do not see their parents all day.

　　A growth without parental watch and company must be crippled, lack of security is the growth of no temperature. This crippling, insecurity will be with the child for life.

　　So, some mornings my daughter gets up early, so I don't change the article, which is a bit contrary to my previous determination of one article per day, but I still want to give this focus time to my daughter when I have the opportunity.

　　If you are a father or mother, whether you spend a third, a fifth, or even a tenth of your day with your child, please do this little bit of time to focus on your child, to be with them wholeheartedly, away from the phone, away from the TV, away from the tablet.

　　A focused companionship is the foundation of happiness for children.