I Tried to Search TeaOnHer Without Joining — Here’s What Happened

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After a breakup, I worried my ex rated me on TeaOnHer. I tested every method I could find—here’s what actually worked (and what didn’t).

A nagging fear stuck with me after a messy breakup six months ago: had my ex-boyfriend rated me on that new, controversial app, TeaOnHer? As a developer from Asheville, North Carolina, I know how easily digital reputations can be damaged. I had to find out.

For those unfamiliar, TeaOnHer is a new app created for men to rate their ex-girlfriends, launched in the wake of the original "Tea" app data leak. Unlike its predecessor for women, TeaOnHer has already raised red flags among cybersecurity experts who warn its data may not be safe.

I spent days testing every method I could find. A quick disclaimer: these methods can help, but none are 100% guaranteed to uncover TeaOnHer activity. The app is designed to be opaque. Here’s what worked, what didn’t, and the tool that finally gave me peace of mind.

The Methods That Led to Dead Ends

My first instinct was the most straightforward: I tried to create a Tea On Her account myself. This was an immediate failure. The app's sign-up process includes gender verification, and it is strictly for male users. Women are completely locked out.

Next, I contacted TeaOnHer’s customer support. I asked politely if they could confirm whether my information was on their platform. I received a canned response about user privacy and data protection. They refused to disclose anything. Another dead end.

I then turned to free reverse image search tools like Google Images, TinEye, and Bing. I uploaded several photos, hoping to find a match from a scraped TeaOnHer profile. These tools are powerful for public websites, but they cannot access private app databases. After hours of work, I found nothing useful.

If you wonder whether someone rated you on TeaOnHer, the truth is you can’t check directly without a male account. Options include reverse image searches on Google Images, Yandex Images, TinEye, or Bing, trying people-finder tools, or using services like Social Catfish. None are 100% guaranteed, but they may give clues about hidden profiles.

The Breakthrough: Finding a Specialized Tool

Frustrated, I scoured YouTube for solutions on finding hidden dating profiles. That’s where I discovered Social Catfish, a service designed specifically for this purpose.

It uses advanced technology to search through countless sites and networks using a name, phone number, or—most critically—a photo.

Here’s the process I followed:

1. I went to the Social Catfish website and selected their reverse image search feature.

2. I uploaded a clear, recent photo of myself that my ex would likely have.

3. The system scanned its databases for matches.

To my immense relief, the search did not find my image on Tea On Her. While I can't be 100% certain, the depth of its search gave me strong confidence that I was not listed.

The search, however, was not without its own shock. Curious, I also ran my ex's photo through the tool. While he hadn't used TeaOnHer (with my photo, at least), Social Catfish uncovered secret profiles he had on sites like Plenty of Fish and Ashley Madison. It was a grim validation of his character, but it proved the tool’s effectiveness.

What’s the Verdict Online?

The conversation on forums like Reddit and Quora echoes my frustration. There’s widespread concern about the ethics of such apps and a desperate search for ways to know if you're being discussed. While many are outraged, few have found reliable solutions, making dedicated services the most recommended path.

My Final Recommendation for Peace of Mind

If the uncertainty is weighing on you, a dedicated search with a tool like Social Catfish is your most viable option. For a small investment (around $5 for a basic search), you can get answers that free tools simply cannot provide. It’s about reclaiming a small piece of control over your digital identity.

My journey was stressful but ultimately freeing. In the end, I found relief—not just in knowing I wasn’t rated, but in realizing I still had some control over my online story.

Have you checked if you’re on TeaOnHer? Share your story below—we’re all navigating this strange new app together.

Stay safe online,

Note: Social Catfish doesn’t officially state that it finds TeaOnHer profiles, but it is designed to uncover hidden dating and social media accounts, which is why I tested it.

Elara Whitmore