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STEP 1: The first step in this process is to become an empath. This ensures that you become like a lighthouse beacon to the narcissist, and he will be unable to resist your glow, like a moth to the flame; he will be drawn to you.

This process can be achieved in a variety of ways.

Option A: You are born with a greater sensitivity than most. This is not a choice but an outcome, totally dependent on circumstance and genetics.

Option B: Your genetics come from a family line of highly sensitive people. Again, not a choice but an outcome. Again, totally dependent on circumstance and genetics.

Option C: You are subjected to childhood trauma. This option, again, is not a choice, but neither is it dependent on genetics. It is more prevalent and easily achieved, through no fault of your own. Trauma may include sexual, physical, mental, emotional or verbal abuse and assault. In some cases, you may be subjected to more than one form of abuse during your childhood.

STEP 2: Build your empathy. Practice using your abilities and skills to recognise, understand and share the thoughts and feelings of other people. Continue practising throughout your lifetime, allowing yourself to deeply feel and absorb the emotions of others, which goes beyond a simple understanding of empathy, and allows you to experience those emotions as your own. As a bonus, you will often be able to sense unspoken feelings.

This entire process will often result in you desperately needing alone time to recharge from crowds or intense situations.

STEP 3: Choose your narcissist type. The options are endless, so read thoroughly and choose wisely.

Note: All narcissists have two things in common. Firstly, they require emotional sustenance, otherwise known as supply. This is the validation, attention and admiration they need to validate their self-worth and self-esteem. It's all about feeding their ego. Secondly, they are void of empathy.

Option A: Grandiose (Overt) - This narcissist is one of the most popular choices. They have a highly inflated and exaggerated sense of superiority, entitlement and self-importance. They constantly crave admiration, lack empathy for others, and will make social situations about themselves. While they can be extremely charming, they can be equally manipulative, exploitive and destructive. They are not above misleading or deceiving others to gain the admiration and recognition that they so desperately crave. This lack of regard for others often leads to interpersonal and relationship issues. Approach with extreme care.

Option B: Vulnerable (Covert) - This narcissist holds the core qualities of entitlement and a lack of empathy, but presents themself as being an introverted, insecure and anxious version, extremely sensitive to criticism and rejection, with a constant need for validation. They will project blame, deflect responsibility for their actions, and play the victim card to elicit sympathy, attention and reassurance from others. While they may appear as having low self-esteem and being shy, they have made emotional manipulation and passive-aggressiveness their calling card. If you want a controlling partner filled with jealousy and envy, we highly recommend this option.

Option C: Communal - This narcissist takes the moral high ground. They present themselves as the most benevolent, caring, trustworthy and helpful person at any charitable, social or work event. Their desire to be charitable does not stem from a deep-seated need to be benevolent and altruistic, but from a need for validation, praise and recognition. Deep down, their actions are undertaken to create esteem, entitlement, power and grandiosity. If you are looking for a pretend philanthropist, acting as a martyr, this would be the perfect choice.

Option D: Malignant - The malignant narcissist takes the core values of an overinflated sense of superiority and self-entitlement, lacking empathy for others, craving attention, admiration and recognition, and puts them on steroids, creating a whole new level of destructiveness. They actively thrive on power and control, while causing immense visible pain to others. Paranoia, aggression, sadistic and antisocial behaviour are the norm. The malignant narcissist comes with a highly toxic label and is not a recommended choice.

Option E: Somatic - The somatic narcissist is all about their physical appearance, flaunting their body and looks to receive validation. They do not hesitate to use sex for self-esteem, obsess over food, weight and exercise, and are hyper-fixated on clothes, styles, trends, and beauty treatments. Their vanity and sense of superiority ensure that they will criticise others for their appearance. They lack empathy and will happily disregard your needs and feelings. If you don't want a partner prone to infidelity and cheating, we do not recommend this option.

Option F: Cerebral - Whereas the somatic is all about the physical, the cerebral narcissist is all about the intellectual and mental prowess. They are exceptionally intelligent and will utilise their intelligence to manipulate and maintain their social status. Their favourite pastime is being manipulative communicators who will gaslight, disparage, skew, manipulate and use your words against you, to boost their intellectual superiority. The constant mental battles can be exhausting. If you don't have an IQ higher than Einstein we strongly recommend you avoid this type of narcissist.

Option G: Self-Righteous - The self-righteous narcissist comes with a high horse, and they are not scared to ride it! These narcissists employ their moral superiority to fulfil their need for narcissistic validation and supply. They believe themselves to be morally superior and have a sense of self-righteousness that permeates every aspect of their life. Don't bother attempting to criticise them for their beliefs, it's like water off a duck's back. And as for having empathy? What's that? Gaslighting and manipulating others so they doubt their own perceptions and values is one of their favourite pastimes. If you enjoy judgment of yourself and others, this option is highly recommended.

Option H: Antagonistic - The antagonistic narcissist comes with a bag filled with a sense of entitlement, a lack of empathy, aggression, arrogance and callousness. They operate methodically to belittle, criticise, mock and put others down, creating a hostile and unstable atmosphere for those who surround them. They are unable to accept criticism, refuse to accept responsibility for their actions, and will envy anyone they see as a threat to their own superiority. And let's not forget to mention their need for control - through domination, manipulation, coercion, or by whatever means are necessary. We only recommend this version to people who are happy having a partner who constantly takes advantage of them.

Option I: Spiritual - the spiritual narcissist weaponizes religion and spirituality to elevate themselves, viewing spirituality as a competitive game, all the while manipulating and controlling others. They often believe themselves to have "special access" to higher spiritual/religious beings, look down on others whom they consider to be "low vibe" or unawakened, and constantly boast and brag about spiritual achievements. Taking it a step further, they often claim to be a reincarnation of a superior being, as being chosen or enlightened, while declaring others cannot possibly understand them, as they have not attained the same vibrational frequency. If you want a partner with a guru complex or to feel like you are a member of a religious cult, this option is for you.

STEP 4: Find your narcissist. In today's world, this will not take long, as all narcissists need a supply, and you are the holy grail of supply. Nothing, and I mean nothing, tempts a narcissist more than the goodness and light of an empath. They will seek you out for the sole purpose of crushing and destroying you. Why? Because you now operate as a mirror to their souls, and the one thing a narcissist cannot tolerate is to have their own character flaws reflected back to them.

A narcissist may be found in your circle of friends, as a work colleague, as your superior, or even as a family member. They may be someone you date and develop a relationship with, or someone on your sports team. Today's culture encourages and nurtures narcissists, so there should be no shortage of finding one within close vicinity.

If you are still struggling to find a narcissist nearby, begin searching on social media. They can be found in abundance, centre stage to the world.

STEP 5: Allow the narcissist to begin the process of trauma bonding. Trauma bonding occurs in a narcissistic relationship through a cycle of intermittent and unpredictable highs and lows, created via love bombing, kindness, gaslighting, abuse and manipulation. This is an unhealthy bond and connection created by someone who inflicts trauma. The ulterior motive of the narcissist is to deliver inconsistent affection, combined with gaslighting and devaluation, which in turn will rewire the brain to crave approval from the narcissistic abuser. This creates an emotional dependency that makes leaving them feel overwhelming, as your emotions and thoughts are intertwined with shame, fear, confusion and false hope. How does this bond happen? They key word is empathy - the victim often empathises with the abuser. This conditioning can take days, months, weeks or years, and often occurs on an unconscious level. The victim is left trying to make sense of what just happened, wondering if they were too much, or not enough. This is psychological, mental and emotional manipulation at the highest levels.

STEP 6: The next phase for the narcissist is devaluation. At this point, a narcissist begins to reveal their true colours, allowing their mask to slip. They begin to treat their partner with disrespect, contempt, cruelty and derision. They will withdraw emotionally and use language that criticises, belittles, demeans, and insults their partner. They begin the process of diminishing their partner's self-worth, using tactics that include pointing out perceived flaws, weaknesses and failures. They will engage in gaslighting and blame-shifting to establish control and superiority over the victim. Once the victim's self-worth has been destroyed, they will move on to the next step in the process.

STEP 7: At this stage, we see the full force of control and manipulation come into play through language, emotion and strategic behaviour. Personal space will start to disappear, and intrusion will become commonplace. Privacy will no longer be an option. They will begin to "play the victim" to manipulate emotions, and they will use intellectual domination with complex arguments and vocabulary to exhaust and confuse the victim. Social programming will commence under the guise of helpful advice, isolation from family and friends will be slowly enacted, orchestrated jealousy will be implemented to provoke jealousy and insecurity, and weaponised incompetence will come into play to shift responsibility onto the victim.

STEP 8: Discard - the final step in the narcissistic love pattern. This is not usually a peaceful or gentle process, but often sudden and unexpected. The narcissist will suddenly and abruptly end a relationship and discard their narcissistic supply source. At this point, because they lack empathy, a narcissist wants to see their victim suffer, and will try to get as much out of the victim before they leave (finances, belongings, sanity, health). For the victim, the emotional impact is often overwhelming and catastrophic, leaving the victim feeling used and discarded.

Why might a narcissist discard their victim? Because the victim was too difficult to control, the victim was too easily manipulated so the narcissist looks down upon them, the narcissist feels they can "level up" and move on to someone better, the victim no longer feeds their ego and provides a narcissistic supply, or the victim can no longer help them with their life goals and are seen as disposable.

STEP 9 (Optional): Hoovering is an optional step that a narcissist may take after implementing discard. If they feel they are losing control of their victim and supply source, or they decide they need something else from the victim, a narcissist will employ similar tactics to those of love-bombing, showering their victim with gifts, text messages, compliments, praise and promises. It is important to remember that these actions are not done out of any feelings of love, but from a sense of entitlement and a fear of abandonment.

If the victim is to save and rebuild their life, their sanity and their health, this is where they must stay strong and not allow themself to be sucked back into the narcissist's world. Begin by "grey-rocking" (make yourself as interesting as a grey rock - the victim will want to become dull and boring to the narcissist) and cutting off all forms of communication. It's essential to set boundaries and distance yourself from the narcissist.

FINAL STEP: Walk away and don't look back. Ever. Close the door behind you, and keep it closed. Spend the next 6 months of your life trying to put the pieces back together and find the "self" that you have lost. Dissect every word, action and memory while you try to process where you went wrong. You will beat yourself up and blame yourself for everything that occurred.

Eventually, after much introspection and reflection, you will realise that it was all about them, definitely not about you. And the shock that hits the hardest is when you realise that the narcissist never cared about you, never loved you, not even in the tiniest amount. It was always about the narcissist, their ego and having full control.

Disclaimer: Final outcomes may vary due to each narcissist being individually different. While each may have similarities, no two narcissists are identical. These differences may result in different stories being produced for each victim.

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