You Are Not Alone!

Someone told me a long time ago, that generally after the age of 30 the waters calm down. I don't know, we end up being more understanding, we prioritize our desires differently or we choose to enjoy our passions and what makes us happy, and we are more satisfied with what we have.

It is not very clear to me how today's generations are raised, but I know that I grew up according to some fairly strict rules and according to some "normal" life principles. High school, college, job, fun, serious relationship, marriage, children, and from here nobody told me anything. I think it was the missing piece that I would have liked to have in discussions, about life after marriage, problems, infidelities, and difficulties.

Under the rules of the family and society, in principle, until the age of 30, I searched with great ardor for these stages. Which when they didn't find each other or were different, I felt completely lost, disoriented as if I hadn't found my place. Because I repeat, we don't talk about situations otherwise, about synchronization that doesn't always appear when you want it, about relationships that aren't as you hope, about marriage or family that are often just a facade.

And I have always been (and still am) an incurable dreamer who believed that there was something special, a unique connection, a different relationship in which both people are equal, in which respect is present, and in which it is built from all points of view. I always wanted to be one step ahead and discover this special relationship that keeps delaying or delaying appearing. There is something completely different like the conjuncture, but almost of the essence that I wanted, but I will develop it in another post.

What I would like to emphasize is the fact that sometimes the age between 23–29 years old (it depends on each individual) is a more difficult, more sensitive period. A time when so many questions are asked and when you don't always dare to talk to someone. There are questions about your image, what you represent, failed relationships, how you try to fit into patterns, about the workplace you don't like anymore, and so on. And in this chaos follows a period of rebellion, in which only you matter, in which you do everything as you want, without taking into account the rules… in which you want to live, to experiment.

Because then gradually, probably also due to certain external factors, people you meet, experiences you go through, and so on, you realize that even though you still don't have all those things you wanted, you are calmer. Melancholy sets in from time to time, but you are preoccupied with passions, with things that make you feel good and authentic. A selection of people, places, and details gives you the feeling that you still don't know where you're going, but you feel that everything will be fine. I think that our physical activity is also very important, there are so many physical and mental benefits that we can get from an hour of movement (I will detail this part as well).

I'm writing this post because I felt alone for a long time, even though I was surrounded by people and very dear people. Because I too cried until exhaustion looking for answers and because I too needed to experiment, to look for things in which I could find myself. I am also writing because during this period I have met people who are in this stage and I think they are the only ones who go through this.

And because love problems will always exist, we just need to know how to manage them, because the workplace will not always be the most pleasant place, but it matters how much we invest in our professional development and because all these stages and moments will give us lessons that we will understand in time. Maybe we will choose to have more courage to follow our dreams, maybe the fact that we have to move alone won't scare us anymore and maybe we will discover what talents and passions we have. What we like to do for our soul.

Learning is continuous, experiences are so different, and relationships ahh are so complicated, but the important thing is to be able to have a clear mind, to be healthy, to love those around us (parents, grandchildren, grandparents, etc.), and to learn to be happy with us first.

I know they are words that seem like rainwater, but our evolution depends on each of us. Our personal development, curiosity, and discovery of talents. An important focus is on our passions. And prepare for failure, because it seems that's how we learn best :).

What I wanted to emphasize is that you are not alone. And that all these stages have an important role in our personal development.