Wise mother, never give children reasoning

When your child is 2 years old, you can feel what it means to be "happy one second, but rolling on the floor the next". As long as there is a little bit of discontent, the child immediately to the ground, and an instant emotional meltdown, so many mothers are at their wits' end.

This is when most mothers choose to reason with their children relentlessly, the result is that the child is still my way.

The reasoning is a common way of education, but it is not a smart approach.

The two-year-old baby, the smart mother will never reason with the child.

Why don't you reason with your 2-year-old?

A. The development of self-awareness

The 2-year-old baby is at the stage of rapid development of the frontal lobe of the brain, which makes the baby's emotional management and self-awareness also enter a rapid development stage.

At this time the child will realize that "I am an individual, I do not grow up with my mother". This development of self-awareness allows the child to subconsciously say "no" when faced with adult demands.

When the mother reasoned with herself, the child would not obey.

Second, the rebellious period, frequently test the bottom line of adults

The child will enter the rebellious period of self-awareness, not only do not obey adults but also frequently testing the bottom line of adults, deliberately against adults. When the mother tries to reason with the child, they will see it as a compromise and will be less likely to listen to the adult.

This is a very special stage, the child at this time is not reasonable, and it fights with adults hard.

Third, emotional cognitive sensitivity

2 years old children will gradually experience order-sensitive periods, property rights-sensitive periods, etc., and emotional cognitive sensitivity, they are more likely to collapse under the weight of these sensitive periods.

For example, each pair of slippers in the house has a corresponding owner, if the child notices that the father is wearing the mother's slippers and messing up the order, he will instantly collapse. This time if you reason with the child, it will only have the opposite effect.

The thinker Rousseau said.

"Three methods of education that are not only unhelpful but harmful to children are reasoning, tantrums, and deliberate touching."

So, in the face of a 2-year-old baby's bad temper, what we should do?

1, selective "obedience" to the child's ideas

I remember once at nine o'clock at night, my child just did not go to bed and had to go downstairs to play, I did not listen to any reasoning.

Then I compromised and helped my child get dressed and went out. In the following darkness, a person is not, just downstairs less than a minute children cry to come back, and then never again to the night downstairs.

2, when emotions occur, guide the baby to say their emotions

I don't know if parents have found the child's emotional breakdown, the more you ask him what's wrong, the more he cries.

Because at this time the child's emotional cognitive ability is still insufficient, he does not understand his emotions, and can not say more anxious, so the an emotional meltdown.

When the child is in a crying mood, parents should first hug the child to let him know that the parents understand his emotions now. A big hug is a great way to give the child a full sense of security and let him know that the parents care about his emotions. Once the emotions have stabilized, parents can also use sentences like, "I know you are sad/angry/disappointed because... ?"

Both help the child understand the emotions at this time and know the reason for the crying.

3、With the help of negative emotion guidance tools

Some parents in the child's emotional outbursts, either the child does not care, or the child's temper is also fierce, want to reason with the child more unlikely to achieve results, then we must use negative emotions guidance tools.