Why Gen Z is Moving Away from Family Life

The Beauty of Growing Up in a Joint Family

I was born and raised in a joint family, a norm in the 1980s and 90s when the concept of nuclear families was still uncommon. Families that lived separately often remained connected under one roof or within the same building. The idea of living without family support was unheard of. Distance was never an obstacle—relatives traveled long distances to meet, even when phones were available.

Family gatherings needed no external guests; our relatives—siblings and cousins—numbered between 30 and 50. The entire family worked together, cooked meals without outside help, and cherished deep connections. The bonds formed in that era were unbreakable. As an only child, my cousins became my greatest support system, a connection that remains strong even today.

The Shift in Priorities: Individualism Over Family

In contrast, today's younger generation, particularly Gen Z, views life differently. Many are hesitant to embrace traditional commitments like marriage or raising a family. Several factors contribute to this shift:

• The burden of maintaining a household and managing responsibilities feels overwhelming.

• Personal freedom is prioritized over familial obligations.

• Despite being more educated, self-sufficiency in basic tasks like cooking and home management is often lacking.

• Digital relationships take precedence over in-person connections.

• Concerns about the environment, economy, and mental well-being discourage couples from having children.

• Many prefer having pets over raising kids due to the perceived ease of care.

• Frequent socializing and a lifestyle centered on personal enjoyment make long-term commitments seem restrictive.

The Instant Gratification Culture

A major driving force behind this shift is the culture of instant gratification. We live in an era where everything is accessible at the tap of a button—instant meals, fast deliveries, quick project turnarounds, and immediate feedback. This mindset extends to relationships, success, and personal growth. When results aren’t immediate, frustration and anxiety set in, leading to an increased reliance on therapy and self-help solutions. While mental, physical, and emotional well-being are crucial, the diminishing human touch in our interactions has made us seek answers in digital spaces rather than through conversations with elders or loved ones.

Embracing Change While Keeping Connections Strong

As society evolves, finding a balance between independence and meaningful relationships is essential. While personal freedom is important, strong family bonds can provide support, guidance, and emotional security. Let’s reflect on how we can maintain relationships in a world that prioritizes convenience.

1. Make Time, No Matter How Busy You Are

• If you live in the same city as your family, make an effort to meet them at least once every 15–20 days. Rotate between different relatives so everyone gets their time with you.

• If your family lives in different cities, schedule regular phone or video calls. Even a short conversation can keep the bond alive.

2. Plan Gatherings That Bring Everyone Together

• Festivals and special occasions are perfect opportunities for family get-togethers. Consider organizing them at a neutral place, like a farmhouse or park, where both elders and children can enjoy themselves.

3. Involve the Younger Generation

• Encourage your kids to engage with extended family through video calls or family visits. Building these connections early helps them value relationships as they grow.

4. Be Present and Intentional

• In a world dominated by technology, meaningful relationships require intention. Put away your phone, actively listen, and show your family that they matter.

Why Relationships Matter

Growing up, my family taught me that relationships aren’t about convenience—they’re about commitment. I watched my parents welcome guests, care for relatives, and nurture connections even when life was hard. Their example shaped me into the person I am today—someone who values people over schedules and prioritizes connection over convenience.

While the world around us has changed, the importance of family remains the same. Relationships offer us a sense of belonging, strength, and joy that no material success can replace.