When should a child be taught sex?

Children's minds become curious. So naturally your baby may point a finger at a pregnant woman and say, ‘How did this baby get into her womb?’ You may want to say something fictional in response to such questions. Because you think that since you are not old enough to go to school, you should not give sex education to a child so early. But researchers do not think so. According to them, the child should be given sex education from the age of wearing diapers.

Dan Rice, executive director of Ansar, a sex education organization at Rutgers University, said: "Sex education should start at an early age. From the beginning of development, children try to understand everything and their body is an important part of it. '

Giving sex education to a child does not only mean physical development and the process of childbearing. The most important part is to educate about the limits of physical touch. You need to know who can touch and who can't.

Many parents fail to realize that hugging relatives, cheering with a teacher, and tickling a parent all affect a child's psychology. Nora Zelparin, director of the sexual health education group Sexuality Education for Advocates for Youth, said: "Children try to understand different parts of the body and their feelings." Here are some strategies to give sex education to tender-hearted children.

Prohibit the spread of germs

Before enrolling in school, parents begin to teach children the importance of a good friend. It helps children build healthy relationships now and in the future. But there is also the importance of imparting knowledge about different parts of the body, not just the use of beautiful words. Rice said, ‘When your child is told to cough or sneeze at the elbow, they are learning how to prevent the disease and are discouraged from spreading the germs among others. In this way children can easily understand that no one should actually be involved, even if it is a familiar person. It's a tactical message to children to keep their bodies under control and not allow anyone to hug or kiss them. "

Teach the correct terminology of body parts

Most parents are uncomfortable telling their children the exact term for the genitals, so they use the weird terminology of this organ. For example, when a child is surprised and asks the name of the penis, he is told that it is Manik! But in this way, through the use of euphemism, children are given the message that the original term genitalia should not be used and that these parts of the body should be ashamed. It is better to tell the children the correct terminology than the false terminology of the genitals. At the same time, they need to understand that these are private organs, where no one else has the right to touch without permission.

Dr. Rice said, ‘Just as you call the nose the nose and the elbow the elbow, the vagina should be called the vagina and the penis the penis. You can teach these terms only if your child can speak. According to Zelparin, the best time to teach is to change diapers and take a bath. If you teach these terms to a child at a young age, they will not be ashamed to talk about any problem there when they are a little older, which will make it possible to get effective treatment at the right time.

Teaching children the correct names for body parts can also prevent sexual abuse. Experts believe that accurate information about the genitals can be one of the measures of child safety. Studies have shown that abusers often target children who do not know what the vagina or penis is. Zelparin said the rate of bullying was higher among children who could not name their genitals correctly.

Jelparin said, ‘The child does not need to give details of the genitals. Just say the correct name and let them know that these are as normal and natural as any other part of the body. Also inform that there is no shame or hesitation in asking questions about these organs. '

Identify trusted people

There is no denying the importance of identifying faithful older people for children. There may be situations in the lives of children when they need the help of someone they trust in the absence of their parents. Parents first need to identify trustworthy people. In this case, age should also be given priority, especially try to choose someone who is over 50 years of age. If someone touches your body, says something bad, or has a difficult question, ask them to let you know. According to Zelparin, curiosity naturally plays in the minds of children. Part of this curiosity is sex. If this is limited to parents and children, they may not be able to get help when they need it. Just as children talk to their parents about sex without hesitation, so they talk to a faithful person. This can help them to get the help they need if something bad happens to them.

Eliminate child discrimination

One of the causes of gender-based violence and sexual harassment is family inequality among children. That is why it is important to remind children from an early age that all children are equal. But when the family discriminates between the children in affection or in some distribution, the ignorant mind gets annoyed, which can turn into suicide or violence if it goes out of control in the context of an incident. In addition, family inequality incites the child to behave arrogantly. It's time consuming