When a man doesn't love you anymore, it sends a very clear signal

When a man falls out of love with you, it sends a very clear signal -- not that he fights with you every day or refuses to make out with you, but that he stops communicating with you.

Many couples are still in love with each other when they first get together, but after a long time, with the decline of passion, two people will also enter the runin period, flat period, and then form a fixed mode of getting along with each other, go to work, get off work, buy vegetables, cook, life seems to be running in accordance with a template.

At this time, some couples have a phenomenon -- although they live under the same roof, eat at the same table, sleep in the same bed, but they have nothing to say to each other.

Even if sometimes you are very active, to find a topic to chat with him, but he still does not want to respond to you, too you have no words to find words, too you verbose.

The conversation between you is all about the nature of things, some necessary communication, such as children, family affairs, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, money, nothing else.

He doesn't care what you've been up to, how you're feeling, whether you need some support, help, etc. You can feel the estrangement, like he doesn't love himself anymore.

In fact, when a man stops talking to you and listening to you, it's a real sign that your marriage is in trouble! The essence of the problem is not necessarily that he changed his mind and fell in love with someone else, but that during the years of marriage, you always think that marriage is the end of love, so you lack the consciousness of relationship management and the construction of communication system, such as --

You always ignore each other's emotional needs, always can't contain themselves and each other's temper tantrums, always with a strong attitude to dominate everything in the marriage, etc. Such wrong mode of getting along, communication mode for a long time, the feelings were killed away, the rest of nature only indifference.

On the one hand, such a man, whether physical desire, or psychological desire, are very big, they have poor self-control, always can't help but through physical satisfaction to fill the emptiness in his heart. When he can't get everything he wants from a woman, he habitually turns to someone else to fill it.

On the other hand, in my years of relationship counseling, I have found that some of these men have a hidden inferiority complex. They appear to be in the right water, but in fact they are not capable of long-term relationship management. They are afraid of being abandoned, and they are not responsible.

Whenever they encounter problems in a relationship, their first thought is not to preserve the relationship, but to choose a replacement. They think, as long as I have enough spare tires, I don't have to solve those difficult problems.

If you are sure that the other person is not worthy of you and will not miss you, then you need to know how to cut your losses to avoid wasting yourself.

And if you have been married and have children, had affection, and love to him, you don't want to destroy the family, considering the children, and many other factors, you can't pull away, also want to repair it again, it must learn to build system of punishment, let him pay the corresponding price, set up the consciousness of rules, establish boundaries, make fundamental changes in consciousness

So if your partner doesn't talk to you more than a few times a day, or gets annoyed every time you do, it doesn't necessarily mean he's stressed or depressed at work. The real reason is that you have not managed a good relationship, is the precursor of marital change.