What should I do if I am not happy with my marriage?
If you're struggling in your marriage, seek help from a counselor, reduce the communication gap, work on solutions, and keep patience while supporting each other.
The pearl holds value
after being strung on a thread;
the pearl has no value
once it breaks off the thread.
No matter how much luster the pearl has,
it all becomes worthless.
The brilliance of the pearl
comes from being strung on the thread.
Therefore, the pearl of family must be adorned,
to live life together.
Not for ourselves, but for our children,
sometimes we must accept defeat from our loved ones,
because we must keep the family thriving.
If you're unhappy with your marriage life, then it's important to handle the situation thoughtfully and constructively. Here, I give you some psychological helpful steps to consider:
1) Examine your thoughts: Try to understand your feelings and emotions. What's making you unhappy? Try to talk with your spouse, understand their thought process, otherwise, a communication breakdown may happen and misunderstanding may increase. It might take time to understand, but try to forget past experiences and start your journey in a new way.
2) Make Honest Communication: You can request your partner to sit together for mutual sharing of feelings and try to understand. Don't blame each other, and focus on resolving the problems and situations which affect you emotionally.
3) Take Counselor Support: Taking counselor support also helps. It's not bad, like when anyone suffers from any disease and takes a doctor's suggestion for healing. Similarly, counseling or therapy is good for mental health. One should take counseling at least once a year to release pain. Or, you can take the help of any trustworthy friend. They do nothing but ask some relevant questions and help in finding answers within you.
4) Concentrate on Solutions: Try to find the lacking areas which you can improve. It usually happens when both do not spend time together, there’s a communication barrier, emotional disconnect, and some minor mistakes which become big issues later. So, focus on finding actionable solutions together.
5) Be Patient: Time is also an important aspect because it takes time, so keep patient with your spouse. Be happy with even small improvements, encourage your partner so they also feel happy and try to cooperate with you in making a strong relationship.
6) Emphasize Your Mental Health: First, give priority to your mental and emotional health. For that, you can spend one day with friends or stay in a hotel, follow your passion, play any game, or do meditation or simply sit in any quiet place. Try to talk to yourself, which helps in feeling good, and suggest the same action to your partner.
7) Let Go of the Decision: If, after making many efforts, your marriage life remains unhealthy or toxic, then take the decision to stay away for six months or 1 year to realize the mistakes you made. If you feel that you have emotions for each other and are ready to compromise on some issues to live together, then you can rejoin. Otherwise, stay away and play your responsibility.
8) Find Support from Family: Share your story and ask for suggestions from family members or trusted friends. They can help you, or ask for advice from any familiar person who has experienced the same issue in the past and how they overcame it.
At last, I want to say that try your best to protect your relationship. Otherwise, your ego or misunderstandings will not only ruin your and your spouse's life but also your child's life because they need both a father's and a mother's love and care. So sometimes, when you feel you can't compromise, then remember your child's smile, and for them, sacrifice your ego and self-respect to give them a happy and secure life.
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