Want to make the boy enlightened early

Some people complain that their son is careless and loses things.

Some complaints: like a skinned monkey, he can't sit still, can't concentrate, can't pay attention.

The most complained about is: boys often do not understand the words, learning a language is not good, but very powerful, not to read the language, but very good at pouring fuel on the fire, in short, is not at all listen to the command of adults!

It is said that boys are late to the party and do not know what to do, and this is true, but behind this is hidden a lot of brain development mysteries.

The physical development of boys is later than that of girls, their intellectual development is also slightly slower, and their ability to listen, speak, read and write a language is also behind that of girls (not all of them, of course).

Is it true that boys are harder to raise, are they born that way?

One study is interesting: the voices of boys' mothers are on average twice as loud as girls' mothers.

After more than a century of research and exploration, numerous scholars have discovered that the differences between boys and girls come from nature and more so because - male and female brains have innate differences.

Ask

Are boys perpetual motion machines? Why can't they stop for a moment?

Answer

Boys' brainstems contain more spinal fluid, which makes them more physically active and more energetically tormented.

Boys seem to be born with inexhaustible energy and can be refreshed for a whole day after 5 minutes of recharging. That's because the more blood flow that flows through the cerebellum in boys, the more active the cerebellum, which controls behavior and physical action, becomes.

It's hard to ask a boy to sit still, and it's even harder to ask them to be sedentary. Sleeping less is a characteristic of boys, and so is moving their hands and feet. They are most afraid of their mother's nagging "Sit quietly" and love it when their father says "Let's fight!"

They need physical movement to keep their brains active, which is how they get their knowledge input.

Ask

Is it like boys to be "violent"?

A

The main androgen in boys is testosterone, which leads to higher levels of aggression.

The hormones in the blood of boys and girls are different. In boys, the main hormone is testosterone, which makes the male brain more impulsive, more aggressive, and relatively less empathetic than in women.

Girls, on the other hand, are primarily estrogen with posterior lobe oxytocin, a substance that drives girls to be more adept at taking care of others.

So boys are more likely to get physical at the drop of a hat than girls, who tend to be quiet and interpersonal because they have a hard time understanding the consequences of their impulsive behavior on others.

What they think is "Excuse me", but what they do is push their hands and say "Get out of my way".

Hitting, shoving, punching and kicking are mutually nourishing behaviors for boys.

You will find that not only do they fight because of poor self-control, but also because "every move" is an effective way to prove their strength, strengthen their self-confidence, and improve their focus and strength, and if boys are with boys, fighting becomes a way to socialize in the male circle. The challenge itself is a source of joy for boys.

For this, parents can usually take their children to play some sports with confrontation, such as boxing, taekwondo, basketball, and soccer ...... Give them a chance to let off some energy that has nowhere to be expended due to testosterone by having a reasonable collision!

What parents need to do is not fight against this physiological mechanism, but use the characteristics of boys' growth and development after understanding them to help them better excel, and develop concentration and learning ability.

4 golden suggestions for reference

Many mothers feel that, in addition to some specific targeted training, if we want to get boys to start earlier, 4 tips are very worthy of reference.

1, adhere to a sport

All kinds of balls, basketball, table tennis, volleyball, etc., preferably basketball, because sports exercise not only the muscles but also the brain.

Parents should take their children to find a sport he likes, and insist on exercising every day so that the children themselves release their energy, but also strengthen the body, stimulate the brain, more focused on excellence!

2, more children to do housework

Boys do housework, and you can exercise their concentration and sense of responsibility, equivalent to enhancing the child's self-control so that your child better controls their emotions and small movements.

3、Dad should accompany his boy more

The critical period of the child's cognitive development is also the best time to develop behavioral habits. Dad's words and actions will directly affect the child, and his role in the family represents the personality traits of strength, strength, confidence, and decisiveness, and he is the prompter for the child to form a good personality.

If he is energetic and can't sit still, dads take them outdoors more often to walk, run and release their energy.

If he is naughty and mischievous, dads please set up rules in advance and let him go within the principles to make trouble.

If he always can't hear his mother like anybody's business, dad can walk over, squat down and look the child in the eyes and say it seriously ......

The father often accompanies the child, which will make the child brave and confident at the same time, obey the rules, and understand the mother's hard work!

4、Mom can be more pampered to show weakness

The fact is that you can find a lot of people who have been in the business for a long time.

Especially if we are raising ADHD children, we may be worried that children are prone to make mistakes and wreak havoc, so we always want to "suppress" the child, "Sit tight and don't move! Can you be quieter? Stop running around, okay? ......"

In fact, for boys who love to make trouble, we do not stop everything, but find ways to divert their goals and let them help adults to do things.

Psychologist William James said, "The deepest human need is to feel appreciated."

Spooning is an expression of trust and dependence by the parent that makes the child feel capable, trusted, and helpful, resulting in a sense of transcendence and accomplishment and growing confidence.

On the contrary, we have been saying that scolding education is undesirable, and to a large extent it is this approach that destroys a child's self-confidence and motivation, and research has even found that verbal violence can cause damage to the brain and must be watched with alarm.

Therefore, we need to avoid verbal violence when raising children, in a relaxed environment, we can properly use the "pampering" approach to motivate children to achieve the purpose of education.