Vulnerable superwoman

Melody Guryn is a beyond average Mamacita and a mother of four. I have always looked up to her the way she did her make-up, got ready for work, she was so professional and had it together. I admired the way she sang Shania Twain songs because she knew we loved it. She consistently sang her songs and taught us as we jumped on her bed with a hairbrush in hand. I loved the way she always had everything under control no matter what was happening.

From all her children getting head lice to having massive floods in our basement. She would come home, take off her work shoes and work at the problem at hand diligently and passionately. Tired of course but she never seemed to show it. I literally believe she was a superwoman and even more so now.

In 2010 she passed out at a concert and through medical tests because of such a random occurrence they found she had a serious brain aneurysm that would have killed her within a year if they didn’t find it. It was a miracle but the hard part was she had to tell all her children she was going to need intense brain surgery and she did it alone. She drove a taxi to her appointment and back. We stayed at a Ronald Mcdonald type organization called Mary mount. It was a wonderful place and I didn’t have to worry one bit.

Finding mercy alone

She had to drive in that Taxi wondering if she would ever see us again. She had to worry about whether she was going to live or if she was going to wake up a vegetable and not be able to take care of us. She had no one on her side letting her know that every little thing was going to be alright.

We had no family and she had to work hard to provide everything we needed. She survived her surgery and went to work in 2 weeks. She has lived 10 more years healthy since. I always say “ mom, you are so resilient”.

My mom grew up in a home of drugs and alcoholism. She took care of everyone including her mom. I can’t imagine what it was like to feel unsafe and have to be the one keeping others safe at such a young age.

I know why I have always felt so safe with my mom, no matter what she does I trust because I know she has the best intentions in mind. She has always kept us loved and safe and feel beyond grateful to grow up feeling that because of her.

Trailblazer

She deserves joy, safety and love and she knows that now. She is known as a trailblazer. She has done the complete opposite of what she was raised in and how she was treated. She took what life gave her and she turned it around.

She literally created a beautiful life on her own. She doesn’t do drugs or drink alcohol. She quit smoking six years ago cold turkey in two weeks...she is resilient. She has raised 4 children who are all healthy, happy and loved.

She inspires me day in and out. She inspires me in the morning, mid-day and night by her example. She is a walking light, guide and angel.

She has helped me to become the person I am because she helped me to see that no matter what we go through we can get through it. There is always hope and we are resilient beings.

From Perfect to imperfect

She slowly began to trust others more and didn’t feel like she was alone. She saw that there were good people in the world and she didn’t have to do endure it alone.

She made a bold decision to go to university. She never graduated high school because of her upbringing and she felt the desire to accomplish her education. She did it to be an example to us and that she has.

She is a first-generation college and high-school student and she graduates from University in the Winter of 2020. She was able to do courses to graduate high school and now get her degree in Psychology.

She was more open with us of her fears, desires and frustrations as she was doing something she had never done or seen. Our older age possibly helped but mostly it was her progression and self- awareness.

In my eyes, my perfect mom showed imperfection and she was more beautiful than ever because I saw how her struggles helped us to learn how to overcome trials and hardships in this life. It has also helped those that she crossed paths with.

She has taught me to serve others and put myself aside. She is willing to go in the deep alleys with others so they can see the light. She is willing to be hated or reticulated for doing what is right and even if it’s not what she wants, she is willing to do what is right and that is a valuable character trait. Her honesty allows anyone to be open and real with her because she is willing to be with them. it‘s inspiring!

She thinks outside the box and she is the most intelligent person I know when it comes to the world and people. It is as though she’s a huge book of knowledge yet so humble to always share it with others. She never keeps from helping others, pure heartedly and with zero regret. She jumps all into the service of others and I will for the rest of my life now.

Thoughts from Friends

When I asked my moms friends about her I was told many things and they were all similar. She has a gift of being faithful and trusting. Yes, the same woman that did everything alone and didn’t trust no one, is the same woman who is now trusting, loving and moving mountains with Joy and peace.

One friend said, “ I often tell people I admire your mom for her [hope]. And you have learned it from her well. She has [hope] that can move mountains. It’s her talent.”

Another friend said, “what I admire most about her is that she is aware of people's souls. She dives into who a person is and takes the time to find out what is there.

“Melody is amazing at self-awareness and looking inward, assessing the way she responds to things in order to learn from her experiences. That is such an incredible gift to have whether it's a good or bad day. ”

She said she has seen my mom come across every barrier and distraction with a determination to turn to peace and find a higher path for her and her family.

One last friend said, “Your mom is her authentic self...and I [admire] how self-aware she is about her own journey. Because of your mom, my friend, I am now more my authentic myself.