The pain of OCD, can't stop, but it's really tiring

Personality is the character that one possesses as a person.

We are prone to several personality disorders.

Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder

A compulsive personality disorder is often characterized by having to do something that you don't want to do but can't help doing it. Examples include repetitive hand washing and cleanliness. I previously counseled a student who took one step back and three steps forward. It took an hour and a half to walk from the dormitory to the class, and it was hard not to retreat. The more you don't allow yourself to do this, the more you do it.

Compulsive personality disorder suffers from wanting to change and not being able to change. His conflict lies in doing and not allowing to do. For example, there is a student who washes his hands 50 times a day. Normally you just wash them, but she doesn't want to let herself do it. She wants to control hand washing. The more control the more washing. The more you repress, the more you want to experience. OCD comes from repression. It comes from not allowing. If each of us is allowed to do what we want to do. Then getting released after a long time will not be so stubborn and painful. For example, some people will go back and look again after locking the door. It's okay to go back and look, you can not pain, but after looking is very painful. She doesn't accept it, and she doesn't like the way she is. Against her behavior. This way the pain appears.

The origin of obsessive-compulsive personality disorder

Obsessive-compulsive disorder originates in early childhood.

The reason why I don't like to wash my hands is that I was forced to do so by my parents. But was this washing against my will? Did I make my own decisions? No, it was not. So the habit of washing hands was formed. At the same time, there is also a confrontational force. It is not the confrontational hand washing but the confrontational parents. The confrontational mom and dad force themselves to wash their hands. Over time, they forget.

There is a student who does not want to study well after entering college. Sleeping every day. Make every day sleep she comfortable also can ah, but she is not comfortable. He suffered pain. Self-blame and self-sin. Feel that they are a waste of youth, a waste of time. But after his conviction, he couldn't do it. Let him get up at 5:00 a.m. to study English, but he can not get up, he can not get up and he is suffering. Blames himself.

Why does obsessive-compulsive personality disorder occur?

From elementary school, middle school, and high school to college, many people force you to study. When someone forces you to study, there will be a force of resistance, if the force of resistance is not released. The first one is a habit that has been formed by being forced by others, and the second one is the real power of resistance inside yourself.

Not being yourself as a child

This is an internal conflict, a confrontation between childhood habits and present thoughts, which will form a compulsion, the second is the childhood experience, for example, when you were a child, you always felt that your hands were dirty, when you were two years old, your hands used urine and mud, and your hands were too dirty to play with mud, at this time Parents will beat your hands, and always say dirty dirty dirty, this time dirty will be in your memory planted dirty beliefs, so how to wash can not clean the inner heart of the shadow, how I wash can not wash clean hands, dirty has been planted in the subconscious, so it, in daily life on the wash ah, the more wash the inner beliefs are strengthened. But I don't want to wash them. I have a belief that I want to wash them, but I don't think it's right, I'm not so dirty, but I can't control it. This pain is called the pain of compulsion.

Childhood Trauma

Many childhood traumas can lead to a lifetime of compulsions. I consulted with a girl who is 28 years old. She has OCD and washes her hands over and over and over again. The reason for this is that she had trauma at a very young age when he was mugged and raped on his way home and the rape semen was left on his hands. Always feel that they are too dirty, and at 28 years old Also not in a relationship, she is too dirty, then thinks they are dirty, we imagine she can let herself go. As long as the desperate wash, twice a day, once in the morning, once at night. Even wash to the stormy skin to wash, this time he was very painful, his pain from washing his hands? No. The pain comes from childhood trauma. From the trauma of childhood, that wound in his heart and dare not say, very painful. So use hand washing to relieve, he thinks it can relieve, but really can relieve it? Really can not relieve. So he blames himself more, the shadow inside can not be erased, this is a traumatic personality disorder, and only counseling to heal her childhood injury.

There is another case, a girl at the age of 5, let the neighbor's brother 17-year-old boy love rape, later he found a boyfriend has not been married to him, nor with him in bed, nor had sex with him, and very painful. She forced herself to suffer, he felt he did not deserve to be happy anymore, so he tortured himself, but he did not want to, his boyfriend was breaking up with him because he could not do it, this is also a kind of compulsion, this compulsion is that he could not do what he wanted to do, could not live the way he wanted to, because she felt too bad, always other people's fault added to their own, after going to college, always do When we went to check the dormitory, we found bags and bags of laundry detergent in his box, colorful and obviously dumped by many people, which he couldn't use and didn't need, so he couldn't help doing it, but after doing it, he was in pain and didn't dare to say anything. This compulsion comes from childhood trauma, from the evaluation of the self, feeling too bad, he will do something to relieve himself, but this thing is not allowed, and he wants to repress, wants to change themselves not to do so, but can not control, leading to the occurrence of compulsion.

Many guys have the habit of masturbating and masturbating, and they can't control it, but they feel they're not doing it right, and they're addicted to it and controlling it, so it's painful.

It's okay to masturbate. But they do not allow themselves to do so, do not allow themselves to do so and can not control themselves, the pain comes from the repression, from the sexual repression, if we do not repress him, release a few times, perhaps it is good. The harder the repression the greater the inner strength, and the easier it is to explode, and over time it will affect life and mental state. Depression is also a compulsion.

How to solve OCD

Take hand washing, you can choose a weekend or a day off, wash your hands for a day, a hundred times, wash and wash, feel very happy, I would like to wash ah, after washing you will find that the inner force of hand washing slowly weakened. It is the same with locking the door, locking it again and again, it is to allow and experience the behavior, when you repeatedly experience the behavior you do not allow, slowly you will allow it, and when you allow it, you will find that the power of inner compulsion is not so strong. Because he gets released. We always do not allow ourselves to be bad, I lost my love, it is too painful, I do not allow myself to lose my love, I do not allow myself to fail. What about always failing and always suffering? Failure is a failure, you do not want me to be good, and you feel the feeling of everyone does not want you when you experience it to the extreme. When you are alone to the extreme, you will be reborn.

So OCD is about the habit of not allowing yourself to be labeled. So the pain of OCD comes from internal conflict, from childhood wounds, from childhood memories, and the solution is to release it, to permit yourself to experience it. For example, I am a bad-tempered person, I love to get angry, and I do not allow myself to get angry, get angry is to hurt and angry, so it is very repressed, the more repressed fire the more you want to get angry, it is better to find a place where no one to send the fire it. Fire is, a thunderstorm, your hatred of your anger is expressed, right? Hate heaven and earth hate themselves, resenting heaven and earth resent others, rolling on the ground is okay, after the expression, hate resentment and anger are gone, to feel relaxed and happy, to heal