The Kidney Stone That Killed My Sister

You know that feeling when you get your heart ripped straight out of your chest and crushed into a million pieces? No? Yea obviously, but stop and think of what that may feel like. It sounds horrific, am I right? Gut wrenching, right?

I felt it. That very second I received a message from my mother that read, "your sister lost the baby." My heart dropped. My breathing quickened and my emotions began to rise. How did this happen? She just went for a check up and she and the baby were said to be healthy. How!?

A couple of days before, my sister had went to the doctor for what was said to be a kidney stone. Being that she was too far along there wasn't much pain meds she could take without it affecting the baby, so she kind of had to deal with the pain until it was passed.

She tried her best to cope, but the pain continued to intensify and it wasn't until she saw that she was bleeding that she had decided to call an ambulance and head to the emergency room.

She arrived and everything had escalated in the blink of an eye.

My sister had miscarried that night. Immediate c-section - barbaric style - no meds, no anesthesia, nothing. It was life or death at that point. Imagine watching the doctors while in a complete daze on the brink of death, imagine watching the doctors rip your deceased child right out of you and tossing them to the side just so they can proceed to try and save your life. I can't, I just can't.

My sister died that night.

The trauma, infection, and hemorrhaging had led her to flatline. They couldn't stop the bleeding. They couldn't find the exact area to plug it.

When the doctors finally resuscitated her they decided they needed to perform an emergency hysterectomy and then gave her three blood transfusions. She then needed another surgery to clean her out in order to ensure all the remains were out and nothing else could be at risk for her, and then flatlined two more times. They finally stopped the bleeding.

She was in a coma for 5 days.

Remember that kidney stone? The kidney stone is what killed her and the baby. Her kidney was infected because of the kidney stone which then infected her uterus and blocked any and all nutrient flow to the baby, which ultimately killed the baby, leading to an infection in her blood and hemorrhaging that killed her.

So now my sister is in the ICU, tubes everywhere, IVs, every medication you can think of being pumped into her body trying to rid of this infection and steady her breathing, blood pressure, heart rate, and everything that will keep her alive.

I can't watch. I can't breathe. I am crying every second, praying for mercy on her soul. Wake up, wake up, I whisper from afar - we need you. She's fighting for her life. She hears us. She hears every word. I know she does.

My sister is the 3rd youngest out of 5, she is 36 yrs old. She has 7 beautiful children, and baby girl is number 8, may she rest peacefully in heaven. Always in our hearts, until we meet again.

It was a hard 5 days for the entire family, especially for my nieces who were old enough to know what was going on, also for her fiancé.

She finally woke up!

When I received this news I cried and cried until it hurt, then until it felt good knowing I didn't lose my bestfriend - my sister. She is such an amazing, selfless human. Some of her first words were, "I am sorry." She was sorry for dying and scaring us. She was sorry for, "ruining my wedding" (it isn't until August 2022) and was scared that my beautiful fiancé would leave me.

She just died and came back to life and she is sorry! Ugh, what a beautiful soul. We reassured her all we cared about was her survival! And to never be sorry!

She's such a fighter. She has so much more life in her to just give it up now. She has 7 beautiful babies that need her. We all need her. She finally found peace. She was finally living genuinely happy, and safe. There's no way she was giving up! No way!

It is going to be a long recovery for her - mentally, emotionally, spiritually, and physically. But she has been through worse, am I right? She got this!

I can't imagine waking up 5 days later, with no baby, no uterus, a bunch of scars and tubes and drugged out in a complete daze. She has to live with this now. But what she does have is her family that will never ever give up on her, and never ever lose hope, and never ever leave her side. Till death do us part, and even then we will always keep you alive.

My heart was finally whole again. She's happy and ready to live life again! Oh, what a blessing! But if I can take away the pain of loss for her I would in a second. I love you sister, always and forever. Now let's continue to make memories!

Don't ever take anyone or anything for granted, because in the blink of an eye you can lose someone you love. Life and everything that makes it is completely unpredictable. What was just a kidney stone turned unexpectedly tragic. We get so caught up in life sometimes that we subconsciously forget what matters to us the most, and so we continue on. Anything can happen, we must always stay aware of everything that goes on in our body and always treat it as if it is serious just for precaution. Family is everything, and I will be sure to let them them know that till the day I die.