The Importance of Language When Talking to Children: From the Shadow of Mistakes to the Light of Love

Story: Edward’s Journey to Success

Once upon a time, in a small town, there lived a boy named Edward. He was a smart child, but he wasn’t achieving much success at school. His mother, Linda, and his father, Smith, wanted Edward to be more disciplined and responsible. However, they were unknowingly using the wrong approach to achieve this.

Every morning at breakfast, they would start by criticizing Edward:

“Edward, why didn’t you do your math homework yesterday?”

“Son, why are you always late?”

“Edward, I got another complaint from your teacher. When will you improve?”

Edward heard these sentences every day. No matter how hard he tried, his parents kept pointing out his shortcomings. Over time, Edward began to feel like a failure because he believed he could never be good enough.

One day, Edward’s teacher held a meeting with Linda and Smith.

“Edward is actually a very capable child,” said the teacher. “But instead of constantly criticizing him, he needs his positive actions to be recognized. Maybe you could support him by changing your language.”

Linda and Smith’s Transformation

From that day forward, Linda and Smith decided to change the way they spoke to their child. They began to highlight Edward’s successes rather than his mistakes:

“Son, you came to breakfast on time today. Well done.”

“Edward, you finished your math homework on time. Great job!”

“Son, I heard you helped your classmates. I’m so proud of you.”

As Edward heard these new sentences, he began to feel happier. He realized that his good deeds were being noticed, not just his faults. This boosted Edward’s confidence. He started working harder on his studies because he knew his achievements would be acknowledged.

Shifting from Negative to Positive Language

As the story shows, the language parents use with their children has a profound impact on their psychology. So, what are some common mistakes parents make? Here are a few examples:

Constant Criticism:

“Why did you act like this today?”

“Why are you always so forgetful?”

“Why can’t you be as successful as other kids?”

Focusing on Negativity:

“Your bag is messy again.”

“You always neglect your studies.”

Using Judgmental Language:

“How could you fail at this?”

“You can never do anything right.”

The Importance of Using the Right Language

When parents change the language they use to approach their children, it significantly boosts their confidence. So, how can this change be implemented? Here are a few practical suggestions:

Acknowledge Positive Behaviors:

“Son, you made a beautiful drawing today.”

“Daughter, I heard you helped your friend. I’m proud of you.”

Use Gratitude and Praise:

“Thank you for waking up early this morning.”

“I’m so proud of you for reading a book this week.”

Use Positive Language:

“You were very attentive while solving the math problem. Well done.”

“You expressed yourself very well today. I’m so impressed.”

Celebrate Small Achievements:

“Let’s reward you for completing your homework on time.”

“You came to breakfast on time today. Amazing work.”

Conclusion: The Language of Love

Language is the most powerful tool in shaping a child’s life. Children reflect the words spoken to them like a mirror. If you approach them with constant criticism, it will undermine their confidence. But when you approach them with loving and constructive language, you can unlock their potential.

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With love,

Super Bulldog 🐾

Super Bulldog (Travis Turner)

Written by Super Bulldog (Travis Turner)