The Cracks in Our Walls: Why Our Homes Have Lost Their Peace

By Hazrat Umer

The Secret to a Happy Family: Why Justice and Character Matter More Than Money

Today, if you look at almost any house, you will see a sad reality. On the outside, the house looks beautiful. But on the inside, there is no peace. In almost every home, people are fighting. Parents are arguing with children, brothers are fighting with sisters, and married couples are struggling to stay together.

The biggest conflict we see today is between a husband, his wife, and his parents. Why has the "home," which was meant to be a place of love, become a battlefield? After observing society closely, I believe the answer lies in two things: A lack of Justice from the elders and a lack of Character-building in our children.

1. The Power of Justice from the Top

A family is like a small team, and the parents are the leaders. A team only stays together if the leader is fair. In many families, fights start because the elders take sides.

When a mother-in-law is wrong, the son often stays silent just to "respect" her. When a son is unfair to his wife, the father ignores it. This is not respect; this is injustice. When the head of the family does not speak the truth, he creates a feeling of hatred in the hearts of others.

If the elders are fair, the fight ends quickly. A true leader in the house is someone who can tell his own son, "You are wrong, apologize to your wife," or tell his daughter, "You are being unfair to your mother." Peace does not come from being loud; it comes from being fair to everyone, regardless of who they are.

2. The Conflict of In-Laws: Brothers, Wives, and Parents

When a brother gets married, a new relationship enters the house. But sadly, this new relationship often becomes the reason for many arguments. I have seen married brothers who listen only to their wives and forget the parents who sacrificed everything for them.

On the other side, I have seen parents who never truly accept a daughter-in-law as their own daughter. They treat her like a stranger or a competitor. When a wife feels she has no respect in her new home, she tries to pull her husband away from his family. This creates a circle of pain.

The solution is simple: Honesty. If the husband is fair, he will respect his mother and also protect his wife’s dignity. If the mother-in-law is kind, she will treat the new girl like a daughter. Fights stop when people stop thinking about "Who is winning?" and start thinking about "What is right?"

3. Education vs. Character

We live in a time where we give our children the best degrees, but we forget to give them a good heart. We teach them how to earn money, but we don’t teach them how to speak to an elder or how to handle a disagreement with a sibling.

Upbringing is not about giving lectures; it is about setting an example. If a child sees his father shouting at his mother, that child will grow up thinking that shouting is the only way to solve problems. If we only teach our children to be "successful" in their jobs, we raise people who have big bank accounts but empty hearts. They don't know the value of a brother’s support or a parent’s prayer.

4. The Brother-Sister Bond

It breaks my heart to see brothers who don't speak to each other for years over small pieces of land or money. They forget the days they played together as children. This happens when we grow up with selfishness. We want our rights, but we forget our duties. We want everyone to be nice to us, but we are not nice to them.

Patience is the secret ingredient for a happy family. Sometimes, you have to stay silent to save a relationship. Sometimes, you have to give up your right to keep the peace.

5. My Final Thoughts

I am not a philosopher. I am just a man who has seen too many broken hearts. I have learned that the richest person is not the one with the biggest house, but the one whose family sits together at dinner and laughs.

My name is Hazrat Umer, and I truly believe that if the elders of the house become fair and the children are taught kindness, our homes can become a paradise again. Let us stop fighting and start listening. Let us be the reason our family stays together, not the reason it breaks apart.

Remember, a house is made of bricks, but a home is made of hearts. Treat those hearts with care.