The best way to deal with a problem: steady

Chess is like life, and only those who are stable can reap the final success. On the contrary, they will only be annoyed in infinite regret.

Stability is the most level way to deal with things, and it is also the best practice for adults.

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Emotional stability is EQ and IQ.

Napoleon said: "A man who can control his emotions is greater than a general who can take ideal city."

Everyone has emotions, and a person with high EQ must be one who can control his emotions.

Once before, I accompanied the customer to eat in a restaurant with the leader, and I encountered such a thing:

A 4-or 5-year-old child was playing in the aisle between the dining tables, and ran into my client who had just returned from the bathroom. The client was fine, but the child knocked himself down.

The customer is bending down to help the child. I didn't expect the child's mother to run over at this time. When she opened her mouth, she accused:

"Walk without eyes! Crash my son, never stop with you! "

Fortunately, the customer sitting next to him couldn't stand it and said:

"It was the child who fell down. This gentleman kindly helped you to help him up. Why don't you swear without asking indiscriminately?"

After the customer returned to his seat, the leader asked him: "You are obviously misunderstood, she scolded you, why don't you talk back?"

The customer smiled and said, "Everyone can see what is going on. Why should I explain?"

I suddenly admire this client.

And just when the customer left his seat, the leader who told me that he could not cooperate with him suddenly changed his mind and decided to cooperate directly.

As the saying goes: "A person's mood often hides his tolerance and character."

Everyone has emotions. It's instinct to take them out, but ability to press them down.

We often have this experience:

Obviously, I want to talk well, but I can't help but speak;

Obviously, I need to sleep early and keep enough spirit to face the next day's meeting, but I can't sleep over and over in bed;

Clearly know that the other party did not intentionally make mistakes, but still have to blame ......

Emotion is not the whole of life, but it can influence our whole life.

A person's mood, just like a person's appearance, is also a business card.

Emotional instability not only hurts one's body, but also is more likely to hurt people around him and hurt interpersonal relationships.

Stable emotion is a kind of emotional intelligence, but also an IQ.

Because it is the human brain that can really control emotions.

When your emotions are not controlled by your brain, there is a particularly effective way:

Take a deep breath for 60 seconds, then think about the worst possible result, or stop quickly, change the environment, and calm down before dealing with things.

Don't argue about simple things, don't worry about complicated things, don't talk when angry, and don't make decisions when angry.

By doing this, you won't become a slave to emotions.

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02

Steady state of mind is calm and calm.

Yang Jiang said well:

"We were so eager for the waves of fate that we finally discovered that the most beautiful scenery in life is actually calm and calm inside."

The waves of life don't always come with a bang, but they permeate in life with a bumpy attitude.

An unexpected storm without an umbrella, a long traffic jam in a hurry to go to an appointment, a casual dispute with others, an unpalatable meal, and a resentment that my family waited for a long time when I came home too late ......

A small fight in three days, a big fight in five days, is a perfect way to describe unexpected accidents in life.

At this time, what we should do, and what is most suitable to do, is to stabilize our mood and face it calmly.

When the wind and rain come, look at the scenery in the rain; If you are blocked on the road, listen to a moving radio;

If you argue with others, you will be treated as receiving different suggestions and increasing your knowledge; If the food is not suitable, eat less, as a diet to keep fit;

The family has resentment, it is because they care, so just take this opportunity to communicate and enhance their feelings.

People with a steady mind can often turn the "accidents" in their lives into rich life experiences and plant beautiful flowers in the mud all the way.

Wang Xizhi of the Eastern Jin Dynasty was quite talented in calligraphy, but he was always eager for success when he was young, and it was always difficult to by going up one flight of stairs.

Until he saw the Eastern Han Dynasty calligrapher Zhang Zhi's long-term calligraphy practice, he suddenly realized that:

The words should be written one by one, the road should go step by step, and progress should be made steadily.

In the next 20 years, Wang Xizhi gave up his impatience and practiced calligraphy quietly every day, eventually becoming a master of calligraphy and being praised as a "book sage" by calligraphers of all ages.

As the saying goes, haste makes waste.

Only those who have a stable attitude can step out of the smooth road of their own life.

Everything you face in your life is actually a step in your life. Whether you can take it or not depends on your mentality.

Only by taking every step steadily and properly can we go to the destination we want and get the result we want.

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Doing things firmly is courage and aura.

In life, there are many such situations:

I suddenly received a temporary transaction to go out, and everything that should have been prepared has been sorted out, but I forgot my ID card on the table in a hurry, and I can only blame myself when I finally use it;

Seeing that the child stood on the stool and took snacks, his hand was about to touch the hot kettle next to him, and shouted in a hurry. As a result, the child was scared and fell directly and broke his head;

The things at hand are accumulating, and this can't catch up with that. The more urgent it is to finish, the more distracted it is. Finally, it falls into a frenzy, and nothing is finished.

Doing things is not stable, just like a time bomb hidden in a person's nerves suddenly explodes, which is extremely powerful and often has serious consequences.

At this time, if the brain can give an instruction: What's the hurry! Don't panic, steady!

People's brains can wake up soon, then calm down and think about countermeasures and make accurate actions.

At the end of the Qing Dynasty, Zeng Guofan led the Xiang Army in order to suppress the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom. At first, he was eager for work and suffered a great defeat, and even he almost died in the chaos.

Therefore, he realized that one should seek stability first and change second in fighting.

When closing in Tianjing, Li Hongzhang and others all suggested that an adventurous advance should be made and a decision should be made in World War I, but Zeng Guofan refused their suggestions and instead adopted the tactics of closing in slowly and steadily.

In the end, Zeng Guofan breached Tianjing and won the final victory in the contest with Taiping Army.

In the face of anything, it is a supreme ability to be steady and stand still.

Stable people tend to have a clearer judgment on external affairs and have better control over the overall situation.

Because of the clear cognition, we can make a correct judgment at an important moment, so as to promote things to develop in a better direction.

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Life is stable, it is the height, it is the realm.

Once upon a time, there was a young monk who followed the old monk out to experience.

When there was a flood on the way, they went to the top of the mountain to avoid danger.

The young monk panicked and said to the old monk, "Master, let's go. It's too dangerous here."

The old monk asked, "Is there no flood at the foot of the mountain?"

The young monk fidgeted, while the old monk just concentrated on chanting the scriptures, which seemed to be unaffected.

Three days later, the flood receded, and the old monk asked, "Three days ago, did you ever think that the flood would recede today?"

The young monk scratched his head, thoughtful.

"Remember, if things come, you should, if you go, you won't stay. Don't panic when you are in trouble, and stabilize." The old monk said earnestly.

In life, we always encounter many big and small things.

Most of the time, the matter itself is not serious, and sometimes your panic will exaggerate it.

Stability is a state of life; And stability is a kind of height of life.

As Tagore said: "Don't worry, the best will always come when you least expect it."

From today, when you encounter troubles, you might as well meditate in your heart: Steady!

With a clear head, to face the troubles of life.

Click and watch. May each of us:

Work is stable, career is stable, emotion is stable, life is stable, and there is a stable life.