Stop Asking Me I Am Still Single?

Are you single?

Why are you still single?

Do you want to stay single forever?

These kinds of questions are often asked of single women at friendly gatherings or casual conversations.

All are searching for a logical response to this question.

Don’t escape, tell, why?

You have to respond.

Do we all come into the world to get married?

Is our mission on earth to get married?

What happens if we stay single and don’t get married?

Is finding companionship a woman’s destination — her reward, her privilege, her proof of worth?

A single person is harmful to the environment.

If I am single this meant I was not pretty enough for a man.

In some cultures, girls should get married at so young age.

Some girls wait for a man to make them happy rather than pursuing their goals.

Some girls even don’t have confidence because they are single.

Society and most people think marriage is a big success.

In the Muslim religion, if someone doesn’t get married, they are not a perfect person.

This question was asked of me many times.

It is a question that seems to follow me regardless of my age.

The conversation usually ends if I answer with “married.”

But if I say ’single’, the next question is always oh, Why?

Are you gay?

Do you have some sort of issue or illness?

It feels like people are on a quest to find out what is wrong with me.

If you are gay or have a specific illness, they leave you alone and stop asking questions.

It’s as if being single is seen as abnormal in some way.

I think a single heterosexual person always faces questions and comments from others.

Job interviews may include this personal inquiry as if it holds more weight than professional qualifications.

Maybe it is a bit hard to be single, but Nothing happens if you and I stay single.

Some people simply prefer it that way.

The fact is, being single is not a measure of failure or inadequacy.

Let me set the record straight — there’s nothing wrong with being single.

And that’s perfectly fine.

So why all the judgment?

Just because someone chooses to remain single doesn’t make them strange.

Let's explain the Complexities behind this question and the reasons why some individuals choose to walk the solitary path.

Some speculate that they may fear love or be too different for companionship. However, the truth runs deeper than these assumptions. It is a complex maze of personal choices, past wounds, and unknown desires.

1. Some people genuinely enjoy their own company, finding solace in solitude.

2. Unresolved emotions from the past can also play a significant role in their decision to remain single. Hearts are fragile, and some choose to shield theirs from potential pain. Past betrayals, disappointments, and heartbreaks may have led them to build walls around their hearts.

3. Each person carries a unique story, filled with loss, trauma, and personal battles that make them hesitant to open up to new relationships.

4. Some prioritize their careers or personal growth.

5. Some others may have specific standards or preferences for themself. and would rather wait for a person who truly aligns with them.

Different cultures and traditional families

In my country, some people are between 55 and 60 years old and have never been married.

I know a man who is 55 years old and has never tied the knot. He has an old mother and takes care of his mother.

Some of us may find this decision difficult to grasp.

But to him, love for his mother and caring for her is the most important thing in his life.

He often faces criticism and judgment from his peers.

There are a lot of women who are single in their 30s, 40s, 50s.

The reasons for their single status vary, but each has its own story.

The choices they have made may be unacceptable and strange for some of us.

For example, some girls were waiting for a man to choose them, and because they were not noticed, they remained single.

It might seem strange, but it is a reality, and such girls do exist.

They did not have enough skills or a beautiful appearance to attract men.

Although behavior and character are highly important, a woman’s beauty is still considered the primary criterion.

Because of this, these girls were not discovered by any man and were like an unknown island. They got old and even passed away unmarried. Yes, this is a reason and a real story.

Being Single at Any Age is a Personal Choice.

We are born alone, and we die alone.

So, the next time you encounter someone single, avoid asking why. Ask them about their adventures, their dreams, and the things that bring them joy.

Thank You for Reading!