Single child and Parenting

Many parents are currently having a single child. But is it convenient to have only one child or is it a problem for the child to grow up?

More and more families decide to have only one child. Whether it is due to daily responsibilities, what should be done every day due to lack of financial resources or humanitarian assistance, due to lack of social support ... couples have many reasons to decide to give birth to only one child. Thus, although they were not harmed because they could be well-educated in socialization and have obvious limitations, at the same time they could devote all their time and energy equally. Parents who have one child often face the question of when to have the next child. In addition, many people ask, is your child lonely? Because having only one child is an exception for many. In the context of our country, many parents find it very normal to have more than one child.

But why is an only child not considered sufficient? In this context, many say that if they does not have more than one child, their child becomes lonely. And in the absence of siblings, he/she cannot learn various social issues. In addition, if the only child is lost for any reason, it is a cause of trouble for the parents. And this is the reason why the only child is the cause of extra anxiety of the parents. The child psychologist Shilpa Agarwal said there are some advantages and disadvantages in having an only child. However, it cannot be said that having an only child is beneficial or harmful. Because a child's upbringing depends on a variety of factors like parental attention, financial status, family support, etc. which are important.

In many cases it is easier for a parent to care for an only child. But many say that this issue increases the responsibility of parents. Because raising an only child requires more attention, they have to accompany and take steps to entertain him/her. Financial matters are very important to many. They do not want to have more than one child to cope with the financial burden of child rearing. That is why many stay away from that path.

Studies have shown that it is best to have three or more children if you want to see happy siblings in the family. Researchers say this does not mean that everyone should have three or more children. Because the population pressure is increasing. It is not possible for any family or country to take the pressure of having extra children. In that case having two children may be an option.

However, Dr. Agarwal said that at present, parents in big cities are becoming more enthusiastic about having one child at a time. Because it is difficult for working parents to cope with multiple children. In this context, a research report published in the Columbus Dispatch Journal found that educating an only child is difficult. Researchers also say that it is easier for people who have siblings to understand a person. They can easily adapt to different social situations. The reason, experts say, is that those who have siblings learn to understand each other from an early age, and they learn to communicate well, share things etc. Thus, their mental growth and development are always better than those who are without siblings.

Many people may think that love has nothing to do with being the only child of the parents. But remember, there will be differences in the mentality, manners and behavior of the child growing up between the younger siblings and only one child in the family. Those who have grown up among siblings will never understand these things. Many of the characteristics of an only child can be both good and bad for a love relationship. So it is important to remember some important things about the only child of the parents before getting involved.

✓ Parents have a lot of love for their only child, if there are a few siblings, the parents can not look after them equally at all. Only child grow up with a lot of affection and those who are extra affectionate expect it from their spouses.

✓ Being the only child, everyone's attention is more on them. They become so accustomed to this subject that the child cannot bear the lack of attention for a long time.

✓ The only children of the parents are very raw in expressing their feelings. Most of the time, children who grow up expressing their feelings only by talking to their parents are not able to express their inner feelings.

✓ Parents fulfill most of the desires of their only child from an early age, as a result of which the habit of hearing 'no' does not develop in them. Even though they are older, many people keep this habit.

✓ The relationship of love is based on mutual understanding and forgiveness. But the only child who are absolutely honorable in this matter. Because they doesn't have siblings, they can't understand the issue of giving concessions to anyone and mutual understanding between the two.

✓ The only children of the parents give much importance to the family bond and their love for the family is completely different from their childhood. Because only the parents have a very deep and strong relationship with the only child.

If you are thinking of having an only child and giving him or her siblings, don't miss out the benefits and considerations of growing up without siblings.

∆∆ The process of growing up as an only child :

• More resources, the opportunity to gain more experience in different areas of life.

• More attention than adults.

• Greater exposure to the adult world and maturity.

• Encourage the development of clear ideas and critical thinking.

∆∆ The idea of growing up without siblings :

• You don’t learn to share with others at a young age.

• You don’t learn to discuss your needs with others, it’s more difficult to learn to resolve conflicts with others.

• Parental expectations are only for one child, they are not shared which can create feelings of excitement or misunderstanding.

*ADVANTAGES* :

1) Parents will have more time and resources for their child.

2) Kids will have better self-esteem and protection as they get more exclusivity from their parents.

3) They develop their intelligence more quickly through more contact with the elderly.

4) With no kids around, they tend to develop more creativity and may even become imaginary friends.

5) They may be more unique but that does not mean they are unacceptable.

6) They may be tidier children than the rest.

*DISADVANTAGES* :

1) It can be difficult to relate to others.

2) They can be a reserved person.

3) He/she cannot have the same complexity with their parents as they can have with their siblings.

4) As they mature, they may lose some of their childhood spontaneity and become very responsible for their age.

5) It may take longer to develop negotiation or conflict resolution skills, something that comes naturally with the siblings.

Parents of only child should know that there are some things you should consider because this way, you can raise a happy child without sensitive issues and it develops and adapts to the environment around them. Remember that if a child (with or without siblings) has a strange behavior, it depends on how they study at home rather than how thay have siblings at home or not. There are several aspects to this:

✓ Do not over-protect your child.

✓ Facilitate communication with other children of their age.

✓ Praise your child when he does things well but don’t overdo it.

✓ Don’t always let him win, make him feel the frustration of losing.

✓ Teach them that it is not wrong to make mistakes and that they can be good teachers in life.

As you can see, being the only parent of a child does not mean that they have to follow all myths, much less ... or that these are not all difficulties. This should always be done with parenting and education at home.