Should I fall in love during college or not?

I heard a parent today who urged her child to try to finish the matter of finding a date in college. This topic immediately sparked a discussion.

The parent who represented the opposite side strongly disagreed with this parent's idea. The reason is that if you talk and fall in love in college, there will be a lot of follow-up problems that cannot be solved. For example, unmarried cohabitation.

Unmarried cohabitation is a matter that can lead to bad consequences. Especially for girls who can not afford it. The passion will eventually lead to pregnancy. And at this time certainly can not be born, so the only choice is abortion, and abortion will lead to the girl's physical and mental health damage, if not handled well, may affect the future of the family's happiness.

This is the reason why the representative of the opposing side strongly does not quite agree, and it is estimated that the representative of this opposing side must be the parent of a daughter.

Okay, so the representative of the pro side, which is also the parent just now, why did she explain that her child should take care of this object during college? There is no denying that he is the parent of a boy.

Because he found that his child is the typical good boy. Even after going to college, he was still very introverted. Every day, apart from studying, is to play with the phone in the dormitory. And seems to be very reluctant to find a date. She found that her son did not take the initiative in pursuing girls, before encouraging him to confess his love to a girl.

If her son can find a girl he likes, the family will also help them get married as soon as possible after his graduation, that can also be seen from here ah, as parents of boys' children, including parents of girls' children, their views and starting points must be different.

The parents of the girls' children must be more protective of the girls' rights and interests, and the parents of the boys' children are more hopeful that they will be able to hold their grandchildren sooner.

When it comes to children's feelings, we have been discussing the topic of early love, that is, when you should not be in love to fall in love ah, but will play a bad role in life, when it comes to early love, the fact that college students should not be considered early love. Because they are about to enter society, many things can be independent up.

So when you get to college should not go into a relationship? It can be seen from the following three points.

First, the requirements of the real world

Many times if we miss the youthful years of college, we may not be so pure if we are looking for an object again. For example, if we go on a blind date, many girls will be very demanding on the boy's requirements, requiring him to have a house, a car, and an education, ah, everything needs to have.

This time in such a requirement, many boys will not be able to find their love. The love inside the ivory tower is relatively innocent, and the emotions will be purer. College students may also not think so much, the relationship will be more smooth. The first thing you need to do is to get the best out of your son.

Second, emotional experience is not a bad thing

Whether it's a boy or a girl, it's not a bad thing if you have some emotional experience. If you say you are a blank sheet of paper emotionally, to the community, may also suffer, rather than wasting this time, it is better to be in this era of college, if you meet a better fate, it may also be worth to go to a relationship.

Because after all, falling in love still helps you to get to know a person, you can figure out what kind of person you like, or what kind of person is suitable.

And what kind of person do you want to find in the future to be able to spend the rest of your life together? So from this level then, both boys and girls ah, are meaningful and valuable.

Third, how to prevent the risk

The risk part is also a controversial part, that is, how to prevent the risk. Especially for girls, if our parents can tell girls at an early stage, to be able to pay attention to this aspect of the part, early so that they can prevent the problem before it happens.

The fact is that if you can try the joy of love, but also to ensure that you do not get hurt, as long as this part is done, I believe that girls will not easily fall into some unmarried pregnant first such a passive state.

Some things instead of covering up, why not explain the stakes, I believe the children will grow up and restrain their behavior, after all, to protect themselves.

So, parents, both boys, and girls, nowadays we know that the trend of not marrying at an older age is becoming more and more powerful ah, we all seem to be more and more resistant to marriage, more and more afraid of marriage.

Especially in the real world, many people may not even be able to feed themselves ah, so it is difficult for them to take on the responsibility of a family. Not to mention the world of two people ah, even the children can not afford ah, they do not have the confidence to raise children well. So, in such a big environment.

If you can enjoy some of the pleasures of love at this stage of college, there is nothing wrong with it. Of course, I am a parent of a boy, so I may not be as anxious about this as a parent of a girl. I'm also very much in favor of my children being able to fall in love in the future when they are in college.

You may say that I am the parent of a boy, talking does not hurt, but in fact, do you admit that even if you are the parent of a girl, even if you oppose, perhaps you have no way to restrain your child's behavior, if you can not stop it is better to give the child a clear analysis of things, broken up and rubbed together, I believe that the child will have a truly objective judgment.

The experience of emotions is helpful for future emotional development. It is still important to have smoother emotions and a good family in the future. After all, the family still means a lot to us.

We know that people can be lonely when they are always adrift, including the fact that they lose a lot of fun if they don't have company. If you can have a happy family, with a wife, family, and children, it is still a very happy scene.

So if you want your child to have a good emotional experience while in college, don't try to stop your child. You just need to talk to your child about the pros and cons.

After all, by this time, children have crossed over to adulthood and they can already try to take responsibility for their actions, try to plan and plan for their future, and try work on their relationships.