Should a married daughter take advice from her mother?

Should a married daughter take advice from her mother?

Yes, she can (mark my words: she CAN) take advice from her mother because her mother is having more experience than her in life and our parents always think best for us.

But I also wanna say that talking advice from her mother doesn't make it necessary that she should always follow all her mother's advice coz situation changes by the people, by the behaviour of people, so she must also have in mind about the behaviours of her in-laws as well as husband.

A more experienced hand is always welcome. Finally to follow or not is an option with the married daughter. Very few mothers would give lumpen advice to their kids.

In other people's opinion- My wife talks to her mother every day multiple times. Even if I am at home she can call her mother or brother any time she wants. That's her freedom.

Isn't it natural? What's wrong with it unless her mother is advising her of something sinister like breaking family or against the family?

She is a daughter too even after her marriage. That status will always be there.

Don't you take advice from your parents sometimes?

So if you as a husband is entitled to get parental advice when needed, then she as a wife also is.

Learn to treat her with respect n love always.

Then you will never feel insure about her getting advice from her mother.

How people advise on it-

Yes, there is no harm in taking advice from your mother, even after you get married a mother is a mother, and your mother might give you the best advice about everything!

The advice can vary a lot, depending on how mature the mother and daughter are, and the nature of the relationship between the daughter and the prospective husband.

If the daughter is sleeping with a jerk (which does happen sometimes), then being married isn’t going to make him less of a jerk. Advising her not to marry her boyfriend can be difficult, even when it’s honest.

The best advice I can imagine between mother and daughter is questions like “do you know what you’re setting yourself up for?” “Are you confident that so-in-so is a genuinely good man who will respect who you are and support you emotionally as you continue to grow up?”

A woman will be a pseudo-feminist till she has a son. A man will be a male chauvinist till he has a daughter.

A mother comes first. Not only your mother. Your kid’s mother too. Both are mothers. In fact, every woman who has that motherly instinct.

The main argument that people put front is ‘a mother can not be replaced. the wife can be easily replaced. You won't get mother again if you lost. You may get any number of wives.

That is the height of stupidity. A good mother, a good wife, are not replaceable. You may get a stepmother, similar way another wife.

Just wait for one second and think.

A wife would become a mother when she gives you food, a wife to give you enjoyment, a servant when you fall sick, an adviser when you need her support.

Which of these a mother can fulfil after a certain age? A wife can become a mother. A mother can't perform a wife's duties. So there itself the comparison ends.

I truly believe in the statement ‘Matrudevobhava'. Mother should be respected as God. She is your visible creator. She gave you birth. She needs that respect, gratitude, the place on a pedestal like God. Do that. It's your duty.

Why do you compare her with your wife?

Aren't they both have different duties and purposes in your life?

Don't you know your needs are different at different ages?

Really the food your mom fed you when you are a toddler when you are a teenager and in your twenties same? Could you enjoy that now forever? The truth is no. Maybe you may like one or two or a few items made by her.

Do you like the dresses picked by her now?

Do you like her advice in day to day matters? You feel them outdated! Remember same advice was a stone inscription for you when you were a small kid.

So a fellow with minimum common sense should understand the word ‘Matru Devo bhava.’ perfectly. Respect her like God. Take care of her. How you were dependent on her once when you didn't develop wings, now she became old and became dependent on you with her tired and withered wings. Don't hurt her, don't make her feel like a burden to you. That's it.

Not only your mother, your wife's mother, your kid's mother, in fact, all mothers in the world. I am not talking about name sake mothers full of wickedness, about a woman with true motherly instincts.

Now about your wife. Your needs are different now. You and your wife should don the roles of your dad and mom for your kids. Then how can you degrade, insult or hurt or down look your wife?? Why you always compare her with your mom? Does she compare you with her father? If she does you would become an utter failure many times.

Your mom is a perfect lady? Your dad is a perfect man? Maybe to you. Not to the entire world. Same thing with wife. Her parents are also not perfect human beings for the world. Only to her.

Even about your husband, your wife should tell how good you are, not you boasting yourself.

Same thing to a wife. Don't boast about yourself. Your husband should tell you how good you are.

Don't blame and hide behind patriarchal, matriarchal systems.

No system is wrong if you have sincerity in you.

I know many men who melted away like candles for their families. Many women sacrificed their desires for their families.

Same time I have seen the most selfish men and women.

So be a man. Realise both have different roles and different meaningful contributions in your life.

Don't get shocked if your wife asks the same question to you.

Between father and husband which one is more important for a married woman?

According to me, both are stupid questions. If you still have that confusion and can't understand their roles in your life, you are not matured enough to get married.

First, become a perfect man who can see what is right as right. Wrong as wrong. Then only you are qualified to become a husband.

The same rule is applicable for a wife.

First, become a perfect woman. who can see right and wrong with crystal clarity? Then only you are qualified to become a wife.

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