Raise a child to remember three things: "do not get used to Sanqi, do not help three, do not make three friends."

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Good parents are learned and good children are taught.

There are some reasons that schools and teachers will not tell their children, as parents must teach their children.

Before going to bed last night, my best friend sent me several messages saying that she was angry with my son and cried again.

Her son is just in the third grade and has been taking online classes at home recently.

Not only fail to attend class and do homework on time, but also often lose their temper.

Last night, because she was not allowed to play games, the bear child dropped his cell phone in front of her and swore, driving her almost crazy.

As a matter of fact, a child's temper is not formed in a day.

The bottom line of parents' education determines the bottom line of children.

If you want to teach good children, you must pay attention to these three points--.

Unaccustomed to three qi.

First, he is not used to his temper.

A girl, in a subway station, suddenly lost her temper and kicked her mother viciously.

The reason is that my mother remembered the wrong stop sign and got off the wrong train.

The passers-by could not watch any more and went to dissuade them one after another.

The mother unexpectedly said: "it's all right, the child is not sensible."

This scene is really chilling and indignant.

The child has a temper, yes.

But having a temper is by no means tantamount to losing your temper.

If you don't respect people's temper, you can't get used to it.

You can't get used to your temper regardless of the occasion.

You can't get used to a temper without a bottom line.

Far-sighted parents allow their children to vent their emotions, but this does not mean that they are spoiling their children to lose their temper.

When he was young, his parents could spoil him, but when he grew up, the world would not spoil him.

Second, do not get used to being spoiled.

What is delicate is used to being taken care of, can not accept pressure and setbacks.

Why not spoil "delicate" because delicate children, it is easy to "glass heart".

There is neither the ability to fight nor the strength to lose.

Children are not delicate and will not be successful until they grow up.

Third, not used to arrogance.

Arrogance is not the pride of self-confidence, it refers to always showing off yourself, laughing at others, and not knowing how to respect.

As parents, must not spoil their children's "arrogance", do not let their children defiant.

But teach children to be humble and courteous.

Know the cold and warm, know how to be grateful.

Don't help three times.

Sometimes, giving too much help to children is not a good thing.

No matter how much you love your children, you can't help with these three favors.

First, do not help with your study.

It is normal for children to ask their parents for help when they encounter problems that they do not understand in their studies, but there must be a limit.

There was a mother who made an equal treaty for her child.

If you can't write, please look it up in the dictionary and don't call Mom.

After writing the diary, please read aloud, smooth and correct, do not call Mom.

If you don't know the question, please read it three times first and don't call Mom.

After a period of time, children become more active in learning.

Instead of relying on parents when it comes to something that won't happen, as in the past.

There is a "100% theory" in psychology.

It means that if 20% of us don't do something, then the child will do 20% of it.

If 80% of us don't do it, then the child will do 80% of it himself.

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If parents don't help too much, their children will be more self-disciplined.

Second, do not help what the child can do by himself.

Doing everything for the child will only make the child develop a dependent mentality and lack the ability to solve problems independently.

Spoil rather than spoil; respect rather than over-limit; encourage rather than control and suppress.

If you don't want your child to be a "giant baby", parents should learn to let go as soon as possible and cultivate their children's ability to solve problems on their own from an early age, and their children will thank you later.

Because, the child's life, eventually have to go on their own.

Third, when the child can make up his own mind, he doesn't help.

The book Psychology Today says:

"making every decision for your child, including the clothes they wear, the exact time they will do their homework, and who they can play with, will eliminate their desire to make decisions."

Help children make decisions about everything, and children tend to lack their own ideas.

When children can make their own decisions, parents must not help their children make decisions, give them the right to choose, and help them achieve spiritual independence, so that children can be more confident.

Don't make three friends.

"Peer friendship does have a great influence on children.

After reaching a certain age, it will even gradually exceed the influence of parents on their children. "

What kind of people you make friends with affects what kind of person a child might become.

As parents, they should teach their children to keep their eyes open.

These three kinds of "friends" must not be made.

First, selfish friends do not make friends.

Five years ago, the kind-hearted Jiang GE was brutally killed by Liu Xin's ex-boyfriend in order to protect his good friend Liu Xin.

After the incident, in the face of the friend who covered the knife for himself, Liu Xin not only did not apologize and feel guilty, but even sprinkled salt on Jiang GE's mother's wound in order to shirk his responsibility.

As some netizens said:

"there are too many people like Liu Xin in reality. You should be careful in making friends in the future. Such people must stay away from them."

Selfish people always think only of themselves and never know how to think of others.

When it comes to their own interests, they will not give in, or even harm others.

Be sure to tell your children that such selfish people don't have to think about it and stay away as soon as possible.

Second, friends who do not follow the rules do not make friends.

In a residential area, several bear children are playing on the roof.

They not only climbed on the unprotected rooftop, but also threw things downstairs, scaring passers-by into hiding.

These children are not only unaware of the danger of playing on the roof, but also unaware of the harm of throwing objects from a height.

In life, once some rules are broken, something will happen sooner or later.

But some children are not in awe of the rules.

For children, conformity and imitation are the basis of social interaction.

Children have a weak sense of rules and the ability to judge right and wrong, so they think that what everyone is doing must be right.

If children make friends who don't follow the rules, they are more likely to imitate and follow the crowd under the influence of the herd mentality.

Over time, you will not take the rules seriously.

Therefore, we should tell our children that friends who do not abide by the rules must stay away.

Third, jealous friends do not make friends.

Let children know that excessive jealousy often distorts people's psychology, and even turns into hatred and aggression.

Montessori said, "whatever we do to our children, we will."