People who grow up in these three families of origin are unpopular and difficult to get along with

Recently, a new theory has caused hot discussion on the Internet. Some people believe that whether a person can succeed mainly depends on his own efforts and is not affected by his family of origin. Although many netizens agree with this statement, but according to the experience of previous years, this statement is wrong. The family of origin is very important to a person, and even the influence of the family of origin may change a person's life.

Although one leaves one's family of origin when one grows up, it changes you irrevocably in every way. If a person has a positive and optimistic attitude towards family life in their native land, then they must also be very sunny. If a person has a negative and complaining attitude to life in his native family, he must also be very depressed.

It is no exaggeration to say that the influence of a bad family of origin on a person is fatal. Even through various efforts, it cannot be easily changed. According to the analysis of the results of the Economic and Social survey, people with poor interpersonal relationship and difficult to get along with mainly come from three families of origin. Let's break down what's going on.

First, parents do not have a good relationship with the family of origin

As the saying goes "parents are the mirror of their children". Parents' actions have a direct impact on their children's behavior. As we all know, a child is a blank SLATE. What he knew about moral norms and values of life originally came from learning from his parents. Therefore, parents' values and outlook on life directly affect children's ideas. In the family relationship, if the relationship between parents is very poor, then it is very adverse to the child's personality development.

There was one case, and the result was tragic. A girl named Xiaotong often experienced her parents' quarrels when she was young. At first Xiao Tong was very afraid and wanted to say something and do something to make her parents stop quarreling. But no matter what Xiao Tong did, his parents couldn't stop arguing. As TIME PASSES BY, XIAO TONG IS NUMB, ANYWAY FIGHT AND ONESELF ALSO HAVE NO RELATION, WANT TO DOZEN DOZEN.

Later, Xiao Tong graduates to participate in the work, he always feel colleagues talk about him behind the back, every day is particularly sensitive, always because of a little trifles and cannot control their emotions. Xiao Tong also knows oneself so very bad, can not control oneself namely. For this, Xiao Tong is also very vexed.

According to the analysis of psychologists, the children of parents with poor relationship, they will be very insecure, have no confidence in themselves, protect themselves in their own castle. While this can help them find a little bit of security, we both know that it will only limit their own heart.

Second, often disparage the child's family of origin

A successful person often has a strong self-confidence, they are not afraid of difficulties and setbacks, brave to the struggle. So self-confidence is very important for a person. Once I saw a small video on the Internet, which was very impressive. A little boy was looked down upon by his parents from an early age. When he grew up, he felt so bad about himself that he could never get what he wanted anyway. He lived a very negative life and couldn't get his spirits up about anything.

After graduating from college, the boy wanted to start his own business, but subconsciously, he thought he would fail, so he hesitated all the time. Until one day, he finally got up the courage to tell his mentor about his plans for the future. His mentor asked him, "Can you succeed if you don't try? Even failure is failure, which is not the same as now." The boy after hearing disillusionment, if not to try how to know will not succeed. The boy suddenly saw the light.

There are so many situations in life where a beating down from a parent will only make the child deny himself, and slowly he will fall into self-doubt and feel that he is a failure.

Third, the family of origin with weak boundary consciousness

Family boundaries refer to respect for the status of family members. In real life, we often see children Shouting at their parents and disrespecting them. In fact, this is the harm caused by weak awareness of family boundaries. Children in such families take what they have for granted, so they have no gratitude. Parents think that their own love can make children happier, but they do not know that infinite love will only make children become more self.

When such children grow up to work, they will also be selfish and make people feel disgusted. So if you want your child to have normal values, you must let him understand that he should respect others, recognize others' efforts, and know how to be grateful to others.

Bottom line: Families of origin have a bigger impact than you might think. Although some people finally escape the shadow of their family of origin, it is also a rare opportunity. So if you're a parent, be sure to set a good example and give your child a positive family of origin.